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Does My Cat Love Me?
Cats are adorable, sassy, and playful companions that have been stealing the hearts of humans since the days of the pyramids. Owning a cat will bring its own amount of joy, but the one question that seems to elude many cat owners is: Does your cat love you as much as you may love her?
They may not show it as obviously as dogs would, but cats are affectionate creatures; they show it in different ways that fit in perfectly with their prideful demeanor. How do you know if your cat loves you? Look no further than these five signs that will tell you everything you need to know to confirm that your cat loves you just as much as you love them.
Five Ways Your Cat Shows You Their Love
- They Expose Their Belly: Does your cat randomly plop down and show you their belly? Then they probably love you.
- They Sleep Near You: Cats are pretty independent, so if they sleep near you, it's a sign that they love you.
- Nuzzles and Cheek Rubs: This is a sign that your cat is marking its territory—you!
- They Purr Often: This is the most obvious and well-known symbol of a cat's affection.
- The Cat's "Meow": If your cat is pretty vocal with you, it's a sign that they adore you.
1. They Expose Their Belly
Animals in the wild are normally very protective of their bellies since that is one of the most vulnerable areas on their bodies. Our cats are no different. So, when your kitty randomly plops over on their back while looking up at you, it's a sign of trust and affection.
According to the South Boston Animal Hospital's blog:
[When a cat shows] its stomach and purrs, it is a sign of adoration and respect. Your kitty is saying, "I trust you." It feels safe and comfortable around you. This simple, loving gesture is the warmest compliment a cat can give to its pet parent." They continue on to say that "When you come home, your a cat might turn itself on its back and excitedly roll. This is not a tantrum, but a sign of love. Your pet is showing that they are happy to see you. It wants your attention.
Just don't pet their bellies too long without recognizing when your petting is no longer welcome because in a short amount of time, they could very well change their mind about it, and you could walk away with a few scratches. Ouch!
2. They Sleep Near You
Cats are well known for having a great sense of independence and are quite content to be left alone to their own devices. However, when you find yourself getting cozy for the night, and you find your kitty resting with you, you should feel quite loved!
Even if your cat just sleeps in the same room as you rather than right beside you, it's still a good sign that your relationship bond is strong. Cats stay true to their independence by expressing their love on their own terms, but the fact that they chose a place to sleep that's closer to you over a potential cozy corner means that they enjoy your company.
3. Nuzzles and Cheek Rubs
Marking territory is a common activity for pets, and cats are no different. The way that they do it and the meaning behind how they do it is complex. To put it simply: Cats don't just rub against you to mark you as their turf. When your beloved kitty rubs their cheek on you or gently bumps their forehead against your face, they are doing what is called "head bunting." This is a gesture that cats do to bond with their housemates.
Sometimes, you may see other cats rub up against each other in a display of affection or respect. When they express this gesture to you, they are not only showing you affection, they are also telling you that you both have a strong bond with each other. Not only that, but if you find your cat rubbing between your legs, it could be a sign that they are seeking attention from you.
4. They Purr Often
One of the most common and easiest ways to tell if your cat is happy is when they purr. Purring is the most obvious sign that your cat loves you, sometimes being displayed as soon as your kitty sees you, or when you're both enjoying a comfortable moment of petting.
Purring has benefits beyond letting you know that your cat is happy. Research has shown that purring helps strengthen bone structure and reduce pain in cats. This function also doubles as a type of self-soothing benefit while your cat recovers from whatever pain it suffered.
Purring doesn't only benefit cats. Studies have shown that if a person pets their cat while they're purring, blood pressure and stress levels decrease. That's right, petting your cat frequently is a healthy habit to get into.
5. The Cat's "Meow"
Meowing is an essential quality that we expect from cats under any circumstances. Little do we know, cats don't actually need to make sounds like meows and what's also called "trilling." In order to communicate with other cats, they utilize sound in a frequency that humans can't hear unless a kitten is mewling for its mother. However, cats will meow for a variety of reasons such as:
- To greet people
- To ask for attention
- To be fed
- To be let out/in
So, if your cat becomes very vocal with you, it could be its way of saying "I love you!"
Cats enjoy social contact with people, and some will be quite vocal in their requests for attention. The cat may want to be stroked, played with, or simply talked to. Cats who are left alone for long periods of time each day may be more likely to meow for attention.
— ASPCA website
Love Is Universal
While it may not be obvious at first whether our cats have a fondness for us, if we watch them and pay attention to their actions, we'll find that our little fur balls are just as loving and affectionate as we are to them. It's all just a matter of recognizing the signs and accepting their independent but loving nature.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. It is not meant to substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, or formal and individualized advice from a veterinary medical professional. Animals exhibiting signs and symptoms of distress should be seen by a veterinarian immediately.
Megan Nelson (author) from Spokane on December 10, 2018:
I'm glad to hear it!
Megan Nelson (author) from Spokane on June 17, 2018:
Haha you're welcome. I'm glad I could offer some insight! :D
Camille Harris from SF Bay Area on June 16, 2018:
Thanks, Megan. Your article has convinced me my cat adores me as much as I adore her!