Are My Cats Fighting or Playing?
What To Look For During Cat Interactions
Cats are energetic and playful at heart, but their play surely does not look like that of humans! For cat owners who aren't used to seeing cats playing, it can look (and sound) terrifying to watch them go at it! But there are clues to whether what we are witnessing is an actual brawl or not.
- Cats who are playing are typically silent, or quite quiet. There are a few exceptions to this rule (some cats are just more vocal and will meow or growl a bit, even when playing with toys.) But you should not hear any screaming (which sounds almost like a human baby crying) or hissing during play. A bit of meowing is one thing, but cats who are unhappy will usually be extremely noisy- most of us have heard a cat fight outdoors at night, and the screams practically travel across entire neighborhoods!
- Cats who are playing typically have their ears forward and their nails are not out. Cats love to bop each other on the head and tumble across the room, but scratching is not part of the deal. Also, a cat who is playing is not hostile and its ears will be in the calm, forward position, instead of set back (which indicates fear or aggression.)
- In a fearful or aggressive cat, you will notice piloerection, which is another word for a puffed-up tail. A cat with a tail like this is feeling fearful, overwhelmed or angry. This would be a sign that things are not going well.
- Cats who are fighting may bite so hard that they draw blood. You will see fur flying and tears in the animal's skin. When cats play, rather, they do bite, and it may look aggressive, but those bites do not cause harm to the other cat in any way and do not lead to injury. This goes for kicking as well- it should be playful and should not cause injury. If it does, separate the cats and re-introduce them (see below for instructions on the process)
- Cats who enjoy each others company may touch noses when walking by, they may groom each other, and they will more than likely spend time rolling around giving each other soft bites and bops on the head! Look for these little signs to find out if the cats are taking a liking to each other.
Introducing A New Cat or Kitten
One of the most common instances where pet owners can be confused about whether cats are playing or fighting is the introduction of a new cat or kitten to the home. It's an important event, which must be done carefully in order to make it safe and comfortable for both cats!
If the new cat is not introduced properly, the original cat may feel threatened, and this could lead to actual fights, and potential injury (which could even be life-threatening!)
Because of this, it is important to take things slowly!
- The most commonly given advice is to start out with the new feline in a room of it's own. Keep the door closed and the animals separate, and wipe each with a towel.
- Then, provide each cat with the towel that was rubbed on the other cat so that they can get used to the scent of the other one.
- After doing this a few times over a day or two, try cracking the door open. If there is no major hissing/growling/spitting, allow the cats to bat at each other and sniff. This will start to put them at ease with each other.
- After this has been done with no major reactions (usually over a period of another 1-2 days, sometimes more while they get used to each other,) you can try a face to face meeting.
- Remember that at any time you may need to remove the cat who seems less dominant if the more dominant cat is drawing blood, if there is spitting/screaming/deep biting or if fur is actually flying and start the process over again, taking things even more slowly.
If introductions are done carefully and thoughtfully, most cats are able to live in harmony and will only play with each other, with no harm done.
A Note on Dominance
When cats are first introduced, they will need to figure out which cat is dominant. This may take some time, a few overly-involved wrestling matches and some displays of dominance (force-grooming the other cat, holding the other cat down, etc. Again, the dominant cat should not be harming the other cat in any way if things are going well. While some of these displays may seem rough to us, the cats know exactly what they are doing!
This entire process typically takes anywhere from a day to over a month!
Should I Give Up On My Cats?
Cats tend to be solitary animals, but they also can enjoy the company of another. Even if a cat doesn't particularly enjoy another, they are usually able to eventually find a way to avoid interaction if they have been introduced properly. Rather than causing harm, the cats will simply work out a way to pretend that the other feline doesn't exist, and it is quite rare that cats are so aggressive with each other that they must be separated permanently.
If fighting continues and you are unable to find a solution, consult your vet to ensure that neither of your feline friends has an underlying medical condition causing their behavior. If not, the vet may be able to offer tips or to refer you to an animal behaviorist who can help. If you've tried everything and the quality of life has been diminished for them, it may be time to look at rehoming for one or constant separation in different parts of the home. Only you know what is best, but with dedication and hard work, most living situations involving more than one cat turn out well.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. It is not meant to substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, or formal and individualized advice from a veterinary medical professional. Animals exhibiting signs and symptoms of distress should be seen by a veterinarian immediately.