My Story of Giving Up My Cat: The Hardest Thing I Have Ever Done

Updated on June 5, 2017
KC Jones
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My love for KC (pronounced Casey) was the one thing that helped me through some extremely difficult and lonely years. His love for me was unconditional and something that I could count on during the entire time we were together.

KC brought me so much joy. He was very gentle, but he liked to box with me! We would sit on the living room floor and exchange blows. I had to wear oven mitts to protect myself. KC and I had so much fun together. I remember one time, I put a big plastic pool on the deck of my home, and KC would not let anyone else use it when he and I were there.

KC with Hollister
KC with Hollister | Source

The Flyer I Posted Around the Neighborhood

Beautiful Male Cat Needs New Home

Hi! My name is KC (pronounced Casey), and I need a foster mom who will love and care for me for one year. I have been loved and admired since I was a little tyke. I don’t think I was spoiled, but I certainly had a lot of very kind attention. That’s why I’m so laid back now.

Then a catastrophe happened — Mom was sent on assignment for a year! Mom had no choice. She had to take the assignment. Although she tried so hard to find a foster home for me, she couldn't find one. She really tried, and so did her friends.

Mom says she wants to find someone who would like to take me home for a year while she completes her assignment and finds a home for both of us. She says we will get back together again, but she wants what is best for me. We have discussed the possibility of someone loving me so much that they might want to keep me. So, I want to be as positive as possible about where I am now and where I go next. It’s very important to Mom. She loves me so much.

Would you like to foster me for a little while?

KC's 2 Buddies at the Delta Community Animal Shelter
KC's 2 Buddies at the Delta Community Animal Shelter | Source

No One Wanted to Foster KC

On the very last day when I had to leave, I took KC to an animal shelter. I chose this shelter because Sarah, a woman whose cat donated blood to mine, ran the place. KC met a couple of cool guys at the shelter: Skittles and Squeek. They were very handsome fellows!

My cat was now up for adoption. When your pet goes to an animal shelter, he either gets adopted or put down. But, at this particular shelter, unless an animal is very ill, they do not “destroy” long-staying, non-adoptable animals. (Whew!) Delta Community Shelter tries very hard to find loving homes for its four-legged guests.

Never Stay Too Long at an Animal Shelter

Sarah, the shelter manager, didn’t want KC to stay at the shelter for too long because he couldn’t get outside like he was used to doing, and although the quarters were extremely clean, they were pretty cramped. Sarah knew that most people go to a pet store to find a new pet rather than going to an animal shelter. So, as soon as possible, she arranged for KC to go to a pet store in South Delta called Pets-N-Us.

Adopted at Last

Pets-N-Us is big and airy, and KC had a huge cage from which he could come and go, right in the front window of the pet store. He had so much fun racing across the floor at night when there were no customers, and he enjoyed climbing all the cat-climbing equipment.

He looked fine and felt great, so it’s no wonder he was adopted in just a couple of weeks.

Farewell to you, my beautiful boy.
Farewell to you, my beautiful boy. | Source

Adoption Means the New Family Now “Owns” KC, and I Will Never See Him Again

Before KC left for his new home, the pet store reassured me that he was all right. But, I was heartbroken. I miss him so much and feel so bad that we will never see each other again. I miss brushing him. I miss the times we would sit together in the evenings (or during my morning coffee), and I would brush his fur and scratch his back. I miss the way he used to hop up on my bed and snuggle with me at night. I’m sure wherever he is, he'll be well taken care of and loved.

Special Note

Today (Aug 8th, 2011) is KC's birthday. If he is still alive, he will be 12 years old.

Update: It is now August of 2012. I still miss my beautiful KC. I know where he is, but I cannot see him.

Farewell to you, my beautiful boy!

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. It is not meant to substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, or formal and individualized advice from a veterinary medical professional. Animals exhibiting signs and symptoms of distress should be seen by a veterinarian immediately.

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        Martyn 

        5 weeks ago

        I have to give up my beautiful British short hair Penny. I have had her since she was a kitten. She chose me! The reason I have to give her up is that my new born son is highly allergic and she has become more distant since his birth knowing something is wrong. Penny now chooses to live in isolation away from the family and it hurts as she obviously knows. My heart is absolutely breaking. Tears are rolling down my face as I type this. She is due to go into a shelter on Saturday and I have been reassured she will find a loving home but I feel lost and will miss those cuddles. I love you my Penny.

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        Jocelynn 

        3 months ago

        A couple of days ago my Cat shadow got sent to a new home and I’m heartbroken and I cry over it

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        Aisha 

        5 months ago

        I have had my cat for 2 years her name is Hazel she is now getting taken away from me by my mum it is heart breaking I can't stop crying we r so close she is my companion I don't image a life without her

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        Kori White 

        5 months ago

        Crying while reading your story.

        I went through a similar situation too. I moved to live with my boyfriend who was stationed with the Army in Hawaii. I left my kitty Bevan with my dad and planned to take her back when I moved home. After a couple months my dad said he couldn't take care of her anymore. He ended up taking her to a shelter. I said goodbye to her via Skype. It was heart breaking.

        I heard she was adopted by a nice man. It's been about 5 years since I've seen her and still miss her so much. She was my first baby.

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        Debbie Ackerman 

        5 months ago

        I had to give my cat away because I was moving into a new apartment he is only 15 minutes away from me would it hurt him if I would go visit him once in a while or would it break his heart?

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        Brooke 

        7 months ago

        Oh this had me crying my eyes out. It is very hard to let go of pets and when they pass away it feels like family to me. My mom passed away a few months ago and she had a cat i got very close to. when she passed i took him in and he was happy but i could tell he missed my mom. Although i lived with my mom for a while and he knew me i think he was sad. A few months later he disappeared! I looked all over for him . I really was heart broken i thought maybe with all the changes and my mom passing he was upset and ran off and they took him in i couldn't find him anywhere. I recently found a shelter by me that a cat came in and looks just like him but the cat is injured and i am thinking ok if this is him i pray i will have the money to help him and get him out. Its tough i have cried and cried it has broken my heart.

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        mary 

        8 months ago

        Try to get kc back and talk to the owners that have him!!! I would try

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        mary 

        8 months ago

        I felt so bad ,I read your story today!!!! Anyway u can find out where he went

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        Young Child 

        11 months ago

        Hii, I’m 14 and my baby kitty is around 8 months old. Her name is Baby April, April for short. I’m currently 4 hours away from home and I won’t be able to see my baby till Sunday night. Today is Friday. I feel so heart broken. This isn’t even the worst part of it.. For summer, my family will be flying to Lebanon for 2 months to see relatives. My parents aren’t willing to get April a cat sitter. I’ve only had her for around 2 months or so, but I’m already attached because she’s helped me cope after my back surgery. I have no idea of what I can do. Obviously, the web was the first thing I used for help. I saw great ideas, but I just don’t have the authority or power to do anything to keep my cat. I seriously feel like crying. Yep, I’m crying. Help! ;(

        ps: if there’s really no way for me to keep my cat, please be honest. I’d also need help coping with taking her back to the shelter.

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        Shay 

        2 years ago

        Your story broke my heart. I will be leaving for military college soon and couldn't bear to loose my baby boy. But unfortunately I will have to 're home my loving felion friend :( I hope I can be as strong as u x

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        3 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Thank you for sharing Zach. How fortunate for Crystal that her new adopting "mom" sounds so perfect for her. In a loving home Crystal will do well and thrive. Your giving her up gave her the best possible future. (my giving up KC gave him the best possible future, too.)

        I know it's hard. This will be a sad time for you--but you will feel better. If you can, ask the lady who adopted Crystal to send you a picture of her once she has settled in.

        Bless you for caring about Crystal and all sick cats who sometimes just need love.

        Maralexa

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        Zach 

        3 years ago

        Maralexa, I went into this post having a heavy heart this morning. I woke up for the first time without seeing my my cat's face and wake up lick. Her name was Crystal, and she was a Ragdoll cat that I saved from a kill shelter.

        I can say for certain that your post made me feel better today. I found a permanent home for Crystal after fostering her for one year. I saved her from a shelter when was flea infested/tick infested/ and had a kitty cold. Truth is I kept her too long. She was so scared and did not trust people. I saved her on the day she was slated to be put down. She turned into a healthy cat who went from 5 pounds to 10 pounds, enjoyed belly rubs, actually went from hated being held to enjoy being held. It took 6 months for her to completely break out of her shell. I could see all the improvements she made. I loved this cat, one of my favorites which makes it hard.

        Since college is coming up (my only opportunity to attend), my mom had to have her thyroid removed and is now extremely allergic to cats I have (I was staying at her house) and so on, there are just too many challenges that prevented me from having a third cat right now. And I always preferred to leave that spot open for sick cats since I am becoming a vet tech and am trained in saving very sick cats. My other two was hypoallergenic cats that I rescued and do not bother her.

        I hope within the next few weeks my heart heals and I start to feel a little less bad about giving her up to a new house. Sometimes it feels like I abandoned her, or just decided it was convenient to find her a home other than mine. And I really don't want other people to look at it that way, because I once expressed interest in adopting her, but realized that my current reality does not give her the best chance at living to an old age. The lady that adopted her had a new car, a vet with good references, a solid job/apartment, and her last dog lived to 15 years of age which I find fantastic. Thank you again for writing this article - it brought tears to my eyes, the same tears that was shed for my Crystal when she left for her new home.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        3 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        What a beautiful outcome! Thanks so much for sharing with me.

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        Maisys mom 

        3 years ago

        Thank you for your kind reply. Since Maisy left, they have already sent me several pictures and even a video! She has a new cat friend and they have their very own sun room! She seems to be very happy and getting along even better then before! I'm thinking it was meant to be, maybe she was meant to be with them this whole time! I am actually, very happy for her and I feel very good about my decision. I still love her very much and I do still miss having her here with me. I was invited to see her whenever I want, so that helps knowing that I can go check on her and give her a big hug. It's funny how we tend to think the worst, when reality it's not that bad.. much love xoxo -Maisy's mom ;)

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        3 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Sometimes the best way to care for our beloved pets is to give them to someone else to love and care for them. Because you cared for your little kitten all she knows is a loving home. She will think of her move as a new adventure with more loving people. Maisy is in good hands. You will receive pictures and updates so you will know she is being cared for and loved. Let her go in peace and be grateful she was with you for as long as possible.

        Look after your own health and know she is cared for too.

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        Maisys mom 

        3 years ago

        Hello Marilyn, I know it has been years since you have wrote this Hub, but I just had to talk to someone about what I am about to do.. I am going to be giving away my cat..my friend... my daughter, tomorrow. I found her behind a dumpster when she was only a kitten (about 5 weeks old). She was such a sweet kitten. She laid on her back, stretched out across my lap, as I drove her half an hour back home. I knew I was allergic to cat scratch(before her, I had cat scratch fever 3x. Once so bad I had a large neck mass and had to have a biopsy to be sure it was not lymphoma/cancer), but with her I needn't worry about that! She has not a mean bone in her body, she has nothing but love, purrs and warmth to give. But here it is 3 years later and my health has went so far down hill from having her as part of my family. I don't know what else to do.. I have been told by 2 different doctors to find her a home because if I do not, I will never be well again. Apparently I was not only severely allergic to cat scratch, but I am allergic to the dandruff and hair too. I know it's for my health but I feel as though I am letting go of my vow to love and care for my baby girl. I don't want her to think she did something wrong..that I don't love her. A woman and her young daughter will be coming to pick her up tomorrow. She said she would send me pictures and updates of her periodically. They went shopping today to buy her all kinds of things and they are so excited to be bringing "Maisy" into their home and family. I just don't know how I will keep it together when I see her walking out the door with my Maisy! Omg..what will I do?!? I love her so much! Will she remember me? Will she be sad? Scared? I have never had to do this before.. what will Maisy think or feel? Where will she sleep if it's not under my covers, laying between my feet? Oh how I wish I could turn back time so that I could love her longer!

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        3 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Giving up a loving pet is so sad -- and truly hard to do. But they are loved when chosen by another pet lover. You have the best attitude about "owning" a dear pet. And you can be assured your little kitty will be OK and will bond with her new owner. They thrive when they are loved. Thank you for your comments, Christina.

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        Christina 

        3 years ago

        Brad, I'm going through a similar thing. We have to give up our dear kitty because she's eliminating improperly. It's been an on-going issue for 5 years, and I know experts say that you can work with them and keep them, but it's gotten to be too much. I have two little girls who love her, and my husband and I love her, but emotionally and financially the strain is too much. We think we've found a loving home, and my 3-year-old is heartbroken, but talks about the person who is lonely and needs her. I hope she'll be ok. I hope our kitty will be ok and won't just be sad. I hope she'll bond with her new daddy and give him the comfort he needs. That's what I tell myself--she was never really ours--she came to us when we needed her and now she's needed elsewhere. I hope eventually I can believe it. Marilyn, thank you for your beautiful post and all of your sweet, compassionate responses. I needed to find this today.

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        Christina 

        3 years ago

        Brad, I'm going through a similar thing. We have to give up our dear kitty because she's eliminating improperly. It's been an on-going issue for 5 years, and I know experts say that you can work with them and keep them, but it's gotten to be too much. I have two little girls who love her, and my husband and I love her, but emotionally and financially the strain is too much. We think we've found a loving home, and my 3-year-old is heartbroken, but talks about the person who is lonely and needs her. I hope she'll be ok. I hope our kitty will be ok and won't just be sad. I hope she'll bond with her new daddy and give him the comfort he needs. That's what I tell myself--she was never really ours--she came to us when we needed her and now she's needed elsewhere. I hope eventually I can believe it. Marilyn, thank you for your beautiful post and all of your sweet, compassionate responses. I needed to find this today.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        3 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Brad - It is so hard to give away a pet you and your family care about. Good to hear Chaos and Bear are with a loving family. Hope that helps you and your daughter bear the pain of giving them away. And you are so right, the next family gets to enjoy the pleasure of your special kitties.

        Thanks for commenting. And continue to appreciate your photographs.

        Marilyn

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        Brad 

        4 years ago

        Although its been about 7 months since I had to give away our dear cats chaos and bear, our family pets, which my daughter and I cherished the pain is still present as to the circumstances which brought it about. However for myself and for others find solice in knowing that a loving family now gets to enjoy and embrace in the things that made each of us care for them so deeply. We always have pictures and memories to help ease the heartache. Keep purring bear and Chaos, we miss you!

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        4 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Hope your 3 cats have been given to good homes. They will be happy and it should ease your pain. Thanks for commenting, Cisco.

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        Cisco 

        4 years ago

        Came home from work today to find only 1/4 of my cats... After yelling heir names and looking for them, I realized the holders were missing... my mom gave away 3 of the cats. One of which was a memento of my late brother.

        Really broke my heart.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        4 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Giving up a pet is one of the hardest things you can do. When a pet loves you unconditionally it comes close to your heart and becomes a member of your family. Pets are living beings that respond to us with love if we provide what they need. When someone adopts a pet they usually do love and care for them. They have had to go out of their way to find the pet they like.

        Thanks for sharing your experience, Debra. Have faith that your 2 cats will be loved and cared for.

        Marilyn

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        DEBRA 

        4 years ago

        I know how you feel about your kc.I'm going through the same thing.I had to send my 2 cats that I have had for 11 yrs to Foster.I can't take care of them if they ever need a vet.I want what's best for them,but I sure do miss them.I had a break down after they left.I'm just happy to know that whoever adopts them,they will be safe. Thats all I want for them is to be safe, Loved, NOT abused or Killed.They were and always will be my babies.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        4 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Brad - I truly understand your heartbreak. And I understand your reasons for having to give away your beautiful cats. You may consider telling your daughter that because you and she loved your cats so much they will look for that kind of love in their new family. You had 4 good years with your dear cats now it's time for them to give the same love to a new family. That thought helped me to release the pain and realize that my KC was a cosmic gift that I gave to others to enjoy. Share the good times with your daughter. Let her treasure the experience.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        4 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        NEVER declaw your cat!! I agree so strongly. Trim your cat's claws with the proper nail clippers. When done properly it will not hurt the cat or draw blood.

        Thank you, nArchuleta for the reminder.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        4 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Hi Victoria. I know how hard it is to have no choice but to give up a well-loved pet. Keep in mind that he will continue to be happy and if he thinks of you it will be with happiness. (if cats think of previous guardians) What I'm trying to say is that he will be more open to happiness and being loved because you loved him and treated him so well. Do not feel guilty. You will miss him but he will just think life is wonderful because you and now his new family love him so much.

        Remember the all the good times and be at peace.

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        Brad 

        4 years ago

        my heart wrenches reading these beautiful stories. Maralexa that is such a touching story. I regrettably saw two of my best friends for the last time today. my wife suffers from allergies and to avoid the strain on our marriage and to ensure her health and wellbeing I had to give them up for adoption. I found a beautiful family with 3 girls who im sure will shower them with love. Feels like my heart has been ripped out after developing that bond with my chaos and bear over the last 4 years. Their last memory is going to be of me placing them in that crate and those big eyes as they walked out the door.

        does the pain ever go away. my heart literally hurts. It hurts to hear my 3 year old daughter ask about them and say she is sad and misses them.

        i've lost two friends who touched my heart which is now broken.

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        Nadia Archuleta 

        5 years ago from Denver, Colorado

        Blessed be all those who love cats. It is a special person who puts such importance on the love of cats, both to the author and the commenter. The world needs more like us.

        Btw, never declaw -- it's amputation. But you probably already knew that.

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        Victoria 

        5 years ago

        Hi Maralexa

        I stumbled upon your page while searching giving up a cat for adoption. I too, have no other option but to give my baby who I had for 3 years for adoption tomorrow. I don't know how to calm myself down, but I've shed a million tears already... I can't imagine what kind of a mess I'll be tomorrow... It just breaks my heart so bad that I have to leave my baby behind. I'm just thinking that this would be the best for him and at least he'll have someone to play with now since the one who will adopt him has 3 other cats of the same breed. I hope he will be happy and he'll forgive me for doing this. I just love him so much and will miss him terribly :'(

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Dear Tina, I am so sorry for your loss of your dear kitty, Bella. You know that she is in good hands and will be loved. I knew the same thing about KC - that he was in good hands and would be loved. But it was so hard. Now, 6 years later, I still feel lonely without him. I hope your friend will send you pictures of Bella. That will help.

        I hope you will write to me. I also live in Vancouver. My best wishes to you on your move. And when you think of Bella, think of all the goods times you had together. It won't always make you feel better but it's a help.

        Marilyn (and KC in memory).

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        Tina Kaur 

        5 years ago

        Dear Maralexa, I don't know if you still post on here, but I wanted to say I know what you have gone through as of yesterday... Im in the UK and I am moving to Vancouver on Tuesday 24th september, I had to yesterday go take my beloved cat who I've had for 7 years to another girls house , she is going to take Bella for me, I have not stopped crying...its the worst and hardest thing I' have had to do to date...she was my first ever cat, and I feel like I have abandoned her... I can't stop crying, I know she will be loved but I miss her so badly :(

        (Tinakaur66@gmail.com)

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        nArchuleta, thanks for reading my hubs!

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        Nadia Archuleta 

        5 years ago from Denver, Colorado

        Oh, yea, I read that Hub, too. That's great KC got placed with his foster brother.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Thank you for your comments, nArchuleta. You understand the very hard decision I had to make. The last reason for taking KC to the shelter was because it was run by the woman who looked after KC when he was in hospital for his car accident. Her cat g ave blood to KC to save his life. She promised to do everything possible to find a temporary home for KC or, as a last resort, to find a person who would care for him as much as I did to adopt him. There were a number of reasons why I could not choose to not take the assignment. It was a very sad time of my life. Thanks for sharing about Minoa and Lindemann. Marilyn

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        Nadia Archuleta 

        5 years ago from Denver, Colorado

        My mom took my cat when i moved abroad. she still has Minoa and calls her "my" cat. Now I have Lindermann, and I wouldn't take a job if I couldn't take Lindemann with me. But I'm impractical. It was obviously a hard decision for you. You obviously care about KC. Lindemann was found as a stray. I wish his former guardians had been as wise and caring as you so he wouldn't have had to live on the streets. Thanks for sharing.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        kj force - It seems so outrageous to miss a cat so much. Thanks for letting me know you understand. Your experience with your 2 Siamese cats sounds equally hard. Siamese are such beautiful cats.

        Thanks for your comments.

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        kjforce 

        5 years ago from Florida

        Maralexa..so sorry to hear of your plight...your friends could not help in any way..or family ? I know the heartache of which you speak..my mother gave my 2 siamese cats away after I left for college..I was not aware until months later when I visited for holiday..it was quite awhile before I visited again..I had friends who said they would have taken & shared the responsibility of them, temporarily...I guess these are the

        " issues " that make us who we are today..enjoy your evening...kudos on a great write.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        DsyMsLizzy - Your very kind and thoughtful words have helped me enormously, thank you very much. Learning that outdoor cats can adjust to being kept inside makes me feel much better. I miss him so much - I feel like a wuss. The most important thing though is to believe that he is loved and well-cared for. Thank you again. Marilyn

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Pamela Kinnaird W, thank you so much for such comforting comments about my giving up KC. Your comments (via your daughter) have allowed me to look at my guilt at giving him up in a much more positive light. When I see another person who loves their animals so much (your cares about traveling with Emerald Kitty Kitty) it makes me realize I am not alone in experiencing the joys and the heartache of loving a pet. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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        Liz Elias 

        6 years ago from Oakley, CA

        So sad, but also good to know that you found a no-kill shelter for his temporary quarters.

        I know how hard it is to give up or lose a pet by any means. I've lost pets to old age; we had to give up the dog I had as a kid after my dad's back surgery, because the dog was too much of a wild jumper--he'd knock chairs over with people in them sometimes, so enthusiastic was his greeting!

        My husband and I now have cats...our dog passed in 2004, and we lost a kitty to a mystery illness in '08. We currently have 7 kitties, 3 of whom are "foster failures," adorable kittens who stole our hearts, and we couldn't bring them to the adoption events. Two of them are now a year old; the last is just 7 months. I don't think we can foster anymore--it's too hard to give them up, and we've no room for more.

        I do know how hard it is to think of never seeing your baby again. And if he is indoors, please know that even outdoor cats adjust well to that, and know he is forever safe, and will not end up in the street, trying to find his way "home."

        One of our kitties came to us from outside, and all of ours are indoor-only; they are happy and healthy, and even the former outdoor cat now spooks if I try to carry him outside at all. I'm sure KC is just fine.

        Thank you for sharing this heart-rending tale. Voted up, awesome and beautiful.

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        Pamela Kinnaird W 

        6 years ago from Maui and Arizona

        Hello Maralexa, my heart goes out to you. I've been through it -- with my dog, Shadow, a Pomeranian. (Not the Pom I wrote about in one of my hubs.) I also have a cat that I love.

        I really understand. In fact, I think you are very brave to be writing about it -- for therapy's sake. I've written a hundred pages about me missing Shadow -- in my journals which doesn't take much courage.

        My adult daughter helped me through the first couple of years after I had given Shadow away and couldn't see her. She helped me think of the good possibility that cats and dogs don't think in terms of "I should have been able to stay with my master/mistress all of my natural life. I've been so jipped." When they find themselves with a new master/mistress and all is good and safe, they probably think this is the way it's supposed to be.

        Little do they know, we'll be claiming them forevermore -- when we meet in heaven's glens. Best wishes to you from a former Vancouverite.

        Voting up, awesome, beautiful and Sharing.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Thanks truefaith7. Yes I can take peace believing KC's new people are loving and take good care of him. It makes all the difference in the world. Thank you for your understanding.

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        truefaith7 

        6 years ago from USA

        I am so sorry that you had to make that difficult decision Maralexa.:-( We have two cats (one of which has the same name) and it would be so hard to let them go. At least you can take peace in the knowledege that the people who adopted KC are good people and chances are he is loved and well taken care of.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        You are the only one who knows how close (geographically) KC is and how hard it is for me not to really search for him. When someone adopts a cat they have the right to remain unknown to the original "owner" of the cat. I am told the people who have KC now are good people so I can only hope that he is well and happy. But it is sad to think that he may be kept indoors now. He was SO happy and healthy being outdoors as well.

        Thanks for dropping by again, Lucky Cats. Your kind, kind thoughts are appreciated.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        By sharing your experience of having to leave your cat behind I am able to find a little more relief from the sadness I still feel today. Thanks so much kelleyward. Your comments mean so much to me.

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        Kathy 

        6 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

        Here is this sweet story again...haunting...and I am still hoping Maralexa...this one tears at my soul. Thinking of you...Kathy

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        kelleyward 

        6 years ago

        Oh Maralexa this was so touching and so sad.... In college I had to leave my cat because no one would adopt her and I couldn't keep her any longer. It was one of the most difficult things I've had to do. I remember hearing the song, "Run away train never coming back. Wrong way on a one way track" as soon as I drove away. When I hear that song now I start crying. I'll never get over that decision I made. Take care, Kelley

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        Carol 

        6 years ago from Greenwood, B.C., Canada

        Snif! Awww...Maralexa. I'm so sorry. But I'm sure there was something about your assignment that you absolutely needed to complete a portion of the learning experience that is your life. My Best Wishes!

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        7 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Thanks again Timothy! Sure happy you listened to your Mom! and thanks for your comments. I appreciate your reading my hub.

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        Timothy Donnelly 

        7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

        My Mom taught me that anyone who genuinely cares for an animal has plenty of good in their heart, and after reading this, I know that she is right!

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        Jenny_Leigh 

        7 years ago from Pennsylvania

        Oh wow, this is such a tear-jerker. I can only imagine how hard that was/still is for you. It's so sad to think that noone would foster him for a year. I agree with LuckyCats, you can probably find out who adopted him and see if they wouldn't mind you visiting with him. I'm sure they'd understand.

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        Kathy 

        7 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

        Oh, Maralexa..can't you find out who adopted him? Couldn't you leave a note and picture explaining that you JUST want to see him and hold him...if I had ado;ted him, I'd KNOW how important a reunion would be for the both of you and make absolutely SURE it happened. Don't stop, unless you WANT to..don't stop trying to find where he is...if someone who loves him enough to adopt an adult cat and give him a good home then, I am sure that person would allow you to see him..he must be in the same town...Oh..I would do it in a nanosecond..to see thejoy and happiness KC and you would share...they DO remember..I am teary eyed..this is just too sad..if you were near me...I'd help you find him...where are you?

        Oh..I see you're in Vancouver...still...Epigramman...where are you? this must be resolved...I am so sorry that you had to give him up..I understand our lives don't always allow our ideal desires but...Oh...there HAS to be a way for you to see him!

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        Shadow of Me 

        7 years ago from Pennsylvania

        That is a sad and sweet story. KC is a beautiful kitty. I would have loved to have him, but I cannot have any pets right now. Hope he is well loved and happy.

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        Marilyn Alexander 

        7 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

        Thank You moonlake. I really do appreciate your comment. I so wish I had "known" you then. Blessings, Maralexa

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        moonlake 

        7 years ago from America

        I would have taken care of you for that year. Levi Jones would have loved to have you to play with.

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