I have owned cats for over 60 years. Between them and their vets, I have learned a great deal about how they tick.
What Is My Cat Trying to Say?
Your cat speaks to you in so many different ways that sometimes, it’s hard to know what they are saying. To know where your cat is coming from, the first thing you should know is that your cat considers you to be their human, belonging to them in every respect—and all of their actions are based on that fact. So when your cat does something that angers you, keep in mind that they may be trying to tell you something.
This article will break down a whole bunch of commonly asked questions relating to why cats do what they do, what their body language indicates, and what they might be trying to communicate to you when they speak. Read on to finally figure out what your trusted feline friend might be trying to say to you.
What Is Normal Cat Behavior?
Here are a handful of common questions relating to cats and their often puzzling behaviors, along with some answers that should help shed some light why they do what they do:
Why is my cat peeing or pooping in the house?
Overly full litter boxes can make your cat upset enough to leave smelly presents on your pillow or favorite chair as a hint—meaning it has been too long between cleanings and you need to step up to the plate. Cats like themselves and their environment to be clean. That’s why they are always cleaning themselves. Imagine how you would feel if you were a perfectionist about cleaning and had to walk over your own waste in order to relieve yourself. "Yuck" is putting it mildly.
Why does my cat clean itself right after I've pet it or picked it up?
If your cat cleans itself right after you pet it or pick it up, it could be due to a few reasons. They might be annoyed that you touched them, for whatever reason, and they are cleaning off the scent—in most instances, that is an insult to you.
It is also possible that you have a scent on you that they do not like. The scent could be perfume, lotion, or even another cat you might have petted. Be aware that strong smells of perfumed items can actually anger a cat. If they ingest a lot of it, it could also make them sick. So if you have cats, keep your arsenal of perfumed items for those special nights and be sure to wash them off before cuddling Fluffy.
Why does my cat reach a paw out to me?
Your cat might reach for you with a paw, claws in or out, to indicate a desire for attention. Or, maybe, they might purposely lie down in your way for attention. They might sit on something they know is off-limits to gain your attention. Cats like their attention, but they also like their toys. If you don't give them several, they might use you or your things instead.
Why has my cat's behavior suddenly changed after many years?
As cats get older, sometimes their personalities change. Some cats that start out rambunctious and generally averse to snuggling eventually soften up over the years and turn into super cuddly lap animals that want to be around you all the time. These kinds of gradual changes are totally natural and not all that different from the sorts of changes that humans experience throughout their lives.
If such a shift happens very suddenly and in a fairly unexpected way, however, that might point to a deeper problem with your feline friend. For instance, if they are generally an independent kind of cat but then out of nowhere want to be by your side at all times, that could indicate that they are sick and fearful of being left alone in their weakened state. If you notice a change that seems curiously abrupt and bizarre, it's best to take them into the vet for a check-up to see if anything is wrong.
Why is my cat extending its claws?
A cat will extend its claws for many different things, such as to kneed. (When they are content, they might put their paws out, claws extended, and then pull them in rhythmically, which is how they get their mother’s milk to flow.)
A cat might also extend its claws in anger or fear. Claws are also extended for cleaning purposes or scratching, which can mean several things, such as ownership, sharpening claws for a fight, or dominance. Claws can be removed, but please try to refrain from doing this. Instead, you can set up a weekly routine of trimming their claws, and give them plenty of things to scratch.
Why does my cat rub up against me?
Cats will touch you and your things, pee on you or your things (otherwise known as marking), or rub against you or something you own in order to let other cats in the area know that you are theirs. Yup, when they lovingly rub their face against your face, they are leaving their scent all over you. Cats will generally mark a new home to override the scent of another cat. Fixed cats may also mark if the scent is strong or reeks of a full male. Those cat nostrils are so strong that they can pick up a scent from miles away—just like a hound dog, only with less noise.
You also assume a similar answer to the related question of: "Why does my cat put its paw on me?" That is, it's usually just another way of communicating affection. While it isn't always that simple, when your cat does this, it is more often than not displaying its level of comfortability with you.
Cat Behavior Explained
Pees or poops in your house (despite being litter trained)
Its litter may be full, and it wants you to clean it. Also done to mark its territory and communicate ownership to other cats.
Cleans itself after you pet it
You may have a scent on you (perfumes/other cats) that it wants to remove from its body.
Lies down on your stuff while you're trying to do something
It wants attention and is tired of being ignored.
Extends its claws
It could just be for kneading. It could also be out of fear or anger. Or a more practical reason like for scratching or cleaning.
Rubs up against you
It's rubbing its scent on you and marking you as its own. Also sometimes done to demand attention.
Brings you dead animals
Done as a gift to you, since it sees itself as your owner. Also done to display strength and hunting prowess.
Looks at you before it goes to sleep
Checking to make sure you're looking out for it, as it will soon be vulnerable and seeks your protection while sleeping.
Why does my cat bring me dead animals?
Cats, remember, believe that they own you. And to do a proper job, they must feed you. That is why outside cats will often kill an animal and leave it as a gift on your window or doorstep. As horrid as this may seem to you, it is perfectly natural for your cat.
Another reason for leaving little "gifts" is to show you that they are strong and capable. I have seen cats leave snakes, rats, and even squirrels as gifts. Oh, and just so you know, if you throw the gift away, your cat may be hurt by your actions. If you must—and most of us do—place it in several bags and then bury it in the trash can.
Why does my cat look at me a bunch of times before it goes to sleep?
Your cat is most likely checking to make sure you're still there. It's trying to indicate to you that it's about to sleep and thus will be vulnerable to attack. It wants to make sure you know to protect it and keep an eye out for any predators.
How Do You Tell If a Cat Likes You?
Here's some useful information to help explain what some of your cat's body language might indicate:
What do my cat's tail movements mean?
When a cat walks with their tail straight up, it means that they are relaxed, confident, and want to be noticed. If you don’t notice fast enough, they might get directly underfoot and swirl from one leg to the other. Of course, it is worse if you have something they want, like canned food or milk. They will start to yell if you aren't forthcoming or fast enough for them.
When a cat walks with their tail between their legs, it is a sign that they are afraid of something or might be submitting to a more dominant cat or human. They might also roll over and offer their belly to a dominant cat to show that they are not contesting the dominance. If a cat offers their belly to you, they are telling you that they submit to your dominance. But don’t let that fool you, because they still believe they own you.
If a cat walks with its tail down and dragging, it is trying to be hidden or unnoticed. If that behavior lasts for longer than a day, you might want to take the cat to the vet for a bit of a check-up. A cat might also lay its tail on something showing possession, or flick its tail at something that angers it. They often flick their tail to warn you that you are getting on their nerves, and you probably should stop—or the claws will come out.
A cat that is upset will not only hiss, but their tail will become the biggest bristled bottle brush you have ever seen. Be wary and don't attempt to comfort your cat when they are upset. An upset cat doesn't know the difference and might bite or scratch you in "defense."
Cat Tail Movements Explained
Tail straight up
Relaxed, confident, looking for attention.
Tail between its legs
Afraid, cautious, submissive.
Tail down and dragging
Trying to be hidden and unnoticed. (Could indicate pain or other discomfort. See a vet if this persists.)
Tail bristled and flicking
Upset, aggressive, and potentially about to attack.
What do my cat's ear movements mean?
When a cat lays back its ears, it usually means that it's upset and might attack. When they cock one ear to the side, it’s like someone raising an eyebrow or looking at you like you have three heads. When they bring both ears hard forward, they are trying to hear what is being said to them or perhaps trying to make out a distant sound (or another cat in the area).
But if your cat's ears are forward but relaxed, then it is at ease, potentially aware of its surroundings but not necessarily on alert or scared.
What do my cat's eye movements mean?
You can actually tell a good amount about how your cat is feeling by watching their eyes. If their eyes are barely open or fully closed, they are relaxed and either preparing to sleep or just enjoying your company and a good lounge. In fact, that familiar sight of seeing your cat look at you and slowly blink its eyes is a clear sign of affection and often referred to as "kitty kisses."
If their eyes are narrowed but not in a lazy way, they are most likely alert and focused. They may even be scared or aggressive. So look out for other body language clues to help further indicate how they're feeling.
But if their eyes are fully open and wide, they are almost certainly on high alert and potentially trying to find out if they are in danger. Similarly, wide pupils can also indicate high interest and focus or excitement, potentially pointing to them being fearful or aggressive. Look for other clues to help decipher what they're thinking.
What Is My Cat Trying to Tell Me?
Here are a few explanations for some of the sounds your cat might make for you and what they might be trying to tell you:
Why does my cat meow at me?
Did you know that when your cat meows at you, it is really just calling your attention to something? Perhaps you forgot breakfast or the litter box is full. Or they might just be calling another cat to play. Though since cats rarely meow at other cats, if you hear yours making distinct meows in your general direction, those sounds are probably intended for your ears.
They might meow to go out or to come in. They might meow to tell you that you need a lap cat today, or they might be thinking that you have been working too hard and need a break. (Cats have a way of insinuating themselves in such a way as to coax you into believing that you actually came up with a particular idea.)
Note: If your cat is meowing at you more than usual (and perhaps in a slightly louder or more aggressive tone), it's a good idea to follow them and see if they lead you somewhere. This repeated meowing can help them let you know that they need more food, that the litter is full and needs to be cleaned, or sometimes even more drastic matters, such as the fact that maybe they just had kittens and want you to help protect them.
Cat Verbal Communication Explained
Usually done to communicate it wants you to notice something, such as an empty food bowl, a full litter, or something it wants you to see (in which case, you should try following it).
An involuntary response that indicates comfort and affection. A good sign that it's pleased with whatever you're doing.
Indicates fear or aggression. You should probably take a step back when they do this.
Why does my cat purr at me?
When cats are happy with you, they purr when you pet them or cuddle them. A cat's purr is involuntary. They hear their mother purring when she is feeding and cleaning them and soon add their own voice when they are happy or content.
Oh, and don't get upset if your cat is purring but also simultaneously trying to get away from you. Generally, it means that they like you and want to be petted, but they were busy and you interrupted them.
Note: If you want to communicate back to your cat that you love them, then petting them on the head or on the cheeks is a good way to do so. Similarly, when a cat touches the top of their head to you, they are saying they love and trust you.
Why does my cat hiss at me?
Naturally, hissing indicates fear or aggression. The cat is essentially demanding that you back away and leave it alone. Even cats that deeply love you can do this from time to time, sometimes just because they want some space to themselves for a while. Or perhaps you pet them in a spot where they're sore and they want you to stop doing so.
Unsurprisingly, hissing is such a clear message that it actually works both ways. So if you want your cat to stop doing something—like biting you too hard, for instance—you can hiss at them a little. They'll most likely get the message.
Does Your Cat Feel Insulted?
When a cat turns its back on you and flicks its tail, watch out! It's ticked off and ready to fight if you persist in whatever it is you’re doing. Under most instances, they will walk away feeling their message has been understood. However, they might just decide that this is the last straw and decide to fight back.
What's the best way to end an agitated cat attack? Stop and cry out—loudly. In cat language, an attack between two generally friendly participants ends immediately after one of them cries out in pain. Also, by holding still until they let go, you are saving yourself long deep cuts that could occur through pulling away from them.
It's also worth noting that a cat can feel insulted for many different reasons, including:
- You took their chair.
- You are sitting on their blanket.
- You splashed them while washing your hands.
- You have bought the generic food again.
- You gave them a bath.
- You took them to the vet.
- You left them with a bunch of kids.
- You didn't get the good litter.
- You forgot to greet them when you came in the house.
- You didn't go looking for them if they weren't at the door waiting for you.
- You didn't change the water today.
- You put glassware on their favorite shelf, and it fell off when they tried to lie down.
- You had the nerve to bring in fish and then hide it behind a solid wall.
Note: Cats can also be insulted even if you didn't do anything that you can understand. They are quite fickle that way.
Signs That Your Cat Might Be Sick
In general, your cats' behaviors—as puzzling as they might sometimes be to you—are often just part of who they are and how they express themselves, and thus shouldn't be cause of too much worry on your part. There are, however, a few indicators that might point to your poor feline potentially feeling a bit under the weather and/or in need of some medical attention.
Here are some important signs to watch out for:
- Excessive licking, chewing, or scratching: Of course, these are all part of normal cat behavior and critical parts of their totally healthy self-maintenance. But if you notice that your cat has been doing one or more of these at an alarmingly higher rate than usual, it could mean that they are suffering from ticks, fleas, or parasites. So it would be a good idea to check to see if you can spot any of them in your feline's fur. Additionally, if you notice any significant hair loss or breaking of the skin, have them get checked out by a vet.
- Vomiting or diarrhea: This is another one that does unfortunately happen periodically and isn't always a cause for concern. But if your cat begins doing it a lot in a short amount of time, it could mean that they've ingested something toxic or are experiencing other digestion problems. If it lasts for more than a day—or if abdominal swelling and pain are apparent—take them in to see a vet right away.
- Different, strong odors: If you notice any new, pungent odors coming from your cat, it might be a good idea to take them in to get checked out. Often times, strange new smells indicate infections, ulcers, and other ailments that need to be treated as soon as possible. Even odors that aren't necessarily "bad"—such as a sweet, fruity smell—can occasionally be warning signs of serious illnesses like diabetes. So if you notice any weird new smells coming from your cat that you can't identify, it's probably best to have a veterinary professional take a look.
- Cat flu: Much like humans, cats can occasionally contract a form of that pesky flu virus. This typically results familiar flu symptoms like watery eyes, a runny nose, and profuse sneezing. If you notice these symptoms, you can attempt to help your cat feel better by cleaning the mucus off their eyes and nose with a cotton ball or damp washcloth, making sure they eat enough food, and repeatedly checking to ensure that they are breathing normally. If you find the latter to be strained and/or they don't seem to be getting better, take them in to a vet to be checked out.
My Wonderful Furry Friends
Stray cats can be brought inside, but you should always follow general common sense and the following:
- Strays need quiet time before you introduce them to the other cats.
- Litter boxes and sleeping beds should be periodically switched so all of the cats can smell each other.
- Be sure to remain close once you do introduce them in case they aren't quite ready to be friendly.
- Remember to get strays checked by a vet before you take them in and expose them to your other cats to protect your cats from serious illnesses like Feline Leukemia.
- It is best to have a stray dog taken by a professional and checked for behavioral problems (as well as illnesses) before taking them into your home.
Many questions owners often ask about cats, can be answered by taking a common sense approach. Just think of your cat as a permanent guest in your home and a lot will then be explained.
- Guests often do things differently. They might eat at different times, clean differently or stay up all night. This helps you to better understand your cat who has very differently behaviors.
- When behavior changes drastically, look for a cause such as a change in home life like you got a new dog or someone new moved in with you.
- If the cat doesn't use the litter box try to think of why. Is the side too high for my elderly cat; are my two cats fighting each other over the litter box usage or maybe the toddler goes after the cat every time he gets into the box.
- If your cat pees everywhere, try to see the outside and inside of your home as he would. Since scent is how they mark their safe territory, a cat will pee as close to where the outside cat peed as they can, generally on your bed or the rug if that's against the outside wall.
- If your cat meows a lot, try to think about who he might be calling. Sometimes it is just to get your attention, and sometimes it is something he lost outside. Yes, cats do grieve for their close friends and/or mates.
Using Common Sense can make it so much easier to figure out what your cat is trying to tell you.
Pay Attention to the Signals Your Cat Is Sending You
They might be trying to tell you something, and it might be important—or at least it is to them. Learn the unique ways your cat communicates with you. Each cat is different and has its own personality, so their communication might be different. Keep this in mind, and they will eventually let you know.
If you're looking for additional information on what your cat might be trying to tell you, consider checking out these other great PetHelpful articles:
- Feline Body Language: What Is Your Cat Trying to Tell You?
- How to Decode Your Cat's Behavior
- Twelve Signs Your Cat Really Loves You
- Cat Behavior 101: What Is Causing My Cat to Spray and How Can I Fix It?
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. It is not meant to substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, or formal and individualized advice from a veterinary medical professional. Animals exhibiting signs and symptoms of distress should be seen by a veterinarian immediately.
Questions & Answers
Question: My cat is meowing at me constantly, and then she grabs some part of my hand and drags me to a closet. When I looked, there was nothing in there. This has been going on for almost a week. What is she trying to tell me?
Answer: Your cat may be trying to tell you that she is going to have kittens, and that is her choice spot, so get it fixed up for her. If she is fixed, then that is obviously not the case. Or, she may be trying to tell you that an outside creature has been napping in there - check for feces or urine in the area. She might just be trying to tell you she wants to have access because it is her favorite spot. Try leaving the door open to see if she sleeps in there a lot.
Question: When my cat is lying down to sleep, he always turns his head and looks at me. Then he'll go back to sleep for a few seconds and look at me again. This happens at least four times before he falls asleep. What does this mean?
Answer: Cats like to know they are safe and secure. Your cat may be just trying to ensure you are still near him so he can be safe while sleeping. He might also be checking to see if you have moved and thus changed the 'playing field.' It is nothing to worry about, unless you think his eccentricity is dangerous (I wouldn't).
Question: I'm trying to find the answer for when a kitten is meowing and purring a lot while getting all in my face and rubbing and licking my face. Like she sniffs me and gets super close, I don't know what she wants when she does this. She just walks all over my body meowing at me and rubbing her body all over me and stuff, what could it mean from a kitten? She also grabs my hand and starts licking/nibbling my fingernail/tip.
Answer: First I will tell you that the rubbing is her way of putting her scent all over you. This is something all cats do, even kittens. The meowing could be her way of letting you know she wants to be close to you or it could mean you have not given her enough attention. Cats, especially kittens, need lots of love and a great deal of play time. As for the licking and nibbling, many cats do that. I have one that is ten and still sucks on my little finger. Some say it means the cat was taken from mom too soon, but I disagree. I believe it is just something some cats like to do.
Question: How come after my dog got sprayed by a skunk outside, my cat is always crying and hissing when he’s around him. Why is my cat always crying and hissing when around my dog?
Answer: Cats survive by instincts and his instincts are telling him that your dog smells like a dangerous wild animal. Once the smell goes away, the hissing and crying should slow down and eventually stop.
Question: My cat has suddenly started to hiss and growl at me when I’m moving around the house. As soon as I sit down she’s fine and jumps up for a cuddle, purring etc. She isn’t doing this to my partner (male) at all. She has always preferred men and I was the only female she liked. It’s real Jekyll and Hyde behavior and so confusing. Any suggestions?
Answer: There could be many reasons. If she is older, she may be expressing pain as she walks. If she is unfixed, she may be trying to tell you she wants out to mate. If she was abused at some time prior to your arrival, she may be thinking she is back there there when you walk around. If she is just an original of her own, she may be smelling something that was brought into the house when you walked around outside. Even if we can't smell it, the other cats can. I suggest you play with her when you have to walk around to keep her busy. If she is occupied while you walk around her, she may be too warn out to respond to the stimuli. Get your mate involved so the cat learns positive things from him as well.
Question: Recently my cat came up to me and put his front paws on my shoulder and held on while also jumping up and wanting me to hold him. And every time I try to put him back down, he tries to hold on tighter, or he does it again and again. Why does he do this?
Answer: There are many reasons for this behavior. The most common one is they want to be held and loved more. Try wearing them out with a toy or put them in a place where they can look out the window. If those don't work, then your cat is trying to tell you that you are not resting enough. So, sit down, pet your cat and relax a little.
Question: My new kitten will always scratch me when I try to pet her. How do I tell her scratching is not allowed and how do I stop her? ( I’ve already tried cutting her nails, but she can still scratch me somehow.)
Answer: Kittens will naturally try to play because it is how they learn to hunt and defend themselves. Try using plenty of toys and lots of scratching posts to redirect her scratching tendencies. Also, try getting her interested in something else like a play aquarium or a shelf in a window.
Question: All of a sudden, my cat has been trying to get under me and cuddle there. Why is he doing this? Is there something wrong? He is twelve years old.
Answer: I suspect your twelve-year-old cat gets colder much easier and is seeking warmth. Try getting him a self-heating bed or pad made for cats who like to be warm during their naps.
Question: My Balinese female cat constantly stretches her back legs, walks then stretches her back leg again. Why does she do this?
Answer: Balinese, like their Siamese cousins, are intelligent and very active. Your cat may be trying to tell you that she is ready to play, or she might just need to crack her leg joints a bit. Try playing with her using toys that make her jump and run. If her legs seem to bother her during play, you might want to take her for a vet visit. Also, if she is unfixed, she may be trying to attract a male cat that she can smell, perhaps one that is outside the home.
Question: My cat lies very still on the ground, with his eyes open, and just doesn't move or respond to my calls. Every time he does this, it looks like he's dead and it scares the crap out of me. Why does my cat lie so very still?
Answer: I can't be certain, however one cause can be that he sleeps that way. Many people sleep in such a manner and it has been found that many cats do as well. Though I don't know the exact cause, I don't believe it is a dangerous behavior. The best way to ensure he is still alive is to touch him gently to see if he responds. I am sorry I can't be of more help, but your vet may have more information.
Question: Why does my cat flop on her side when she wants petting?
Answer: Cats are instinctual animals for the most part and they offer their belly only to those they trust. She is telling you she trusts you.
Question: Why does my older female cat jump on my back when I bend over?
Answer: This is a matter of cat behavior. This behavior can, however, be dangerous for you. Get more cat trees or put her on surfaces that are higher up or looking out a window and play with her often.
Question: My cat loves to get close to me and rub her face against mine, but, as soon as there's a big noise, she leaps off quickly. When I see her around the house, she runs away and won't let you stroke her unless it's on her terms. What does this mean?
Answer: Believe it or not, there are many cats that don't like to be petted unless it is on their terms. When they love you, enjoy it. And when they are not, ignore them as they ignore you. It might just get them to start paying more attention. Also, play is a big part of a cat's life so try actively playing with her. She might be so glad; she will share her joy with you.
Question: My cat doesn’t let me pet her but likes to lick my hand. What does this mean?
Answer: Cats are as individual as we are, and sometimes they want to let you know they love you, but don't want to be petted. Or it could be that something hurts or they simply don't like it. Try to pet a small area and see how it works. In the meantime, enjoy the licks.
Question: My cat is continuously meowing whenever he sees me. He also tries to hide himself, his pupils are always round, he is not lying down, and he walks in an inappropriate manner. What is he trying to tell me?
Answer: I can't be sure, but your cat seems to be "in heat" which means he wants to mate. If he is not fixed, I would look into that pretty quickly. Also, your cat may have scented strays in the area that are causing him to feel he must protect his territory. Another reason could be he is injured or sick. Either way, I would see a vet before I look elsewhere for a cause.
Question: What does it mean when my cat sometimes crouches down when you try to pet him?
Answer: I can't be sure of the reason, except that sometimes they just don't want to be petted. I have cats who do that now and then so I just leave them alone.
Question: My cat recently has been sitting everywhere (she never did this before) and seems out of sorts, what does this mean?
Answer: I can't give you a good answer because I don't understand what meh means. Please elaborate. The sitting can simply mean she/he is checking things out more.
Question: My cat got neutered 2 weeks ago and within the last couple of days he has been way different. If I go get him and then set him down somewhere, he won't move at all. He just lays there. I can tell something is wrong but he isn't ill, no infection or anything. Does someone have any ideas on what's wrong?
Answer: Your cat may be angry at you and is rebelling. Try getting him interested in play with you to change the direction of his attention. He will probably come around soon enough. If not, you might want to take him back to the vet to ensure he is not injured from the surgery.
Question: My cat won't stop laying in front of the garbage can. I've tried to move him, but he keeps going back to the same spot. What does this mean?
Answer: There are several reasons a cat may choose one spot in which to lay. There may be a smell he likes; he might feel safer there; he may like the scent there; he might need shelves that he can use to look outside and to keep busy, or he may like to do it because you keep 'moving' him.
Question: My cat is a two-year-old rescue tabby. He is huge and overweight, but has the mildest temper I have ever seen in a cat. He is not a cuddler, and seems uncomfortable if petting goes on too long. He comes around every few minutes and checks on me. He doesn't want pets, he wants acknowledgment and to scent mark me on a finger. What does he want from me, and how can I make him feel at ease?
Answer: Rescues are generally not used to the gentle touch of a human being. He may be wondering if you intend to keep him and then kick him out (so to speak). Be patient and show him as much love as you can. Also, try playing with him. It will help with his weight and help him become more comfortable with you.
Question: We moved two months ago and our cat has settled really well. However, there is a cat coming into our garden and although they don't fight, they just sit and stare at each other with the other cat wailing at ours. When ours wants to move, he does so so slowly, which is quite funny to watch . The other cat comes up close to us and our cat . Are they just being territorial or trying to be friends?
Answer: They are being territorial and such behavior can get dangerous to both cats. If your cat is fixed, you should not let him out because of this cat. Feral cats are usually unfixed which will cause your cat to start peeing in and around the house to mark his territory. Also, it can make the other cat more dangerous to your cat. An unfixed cat has more male hormones. Also, a fixed male, under most situations, loses his desire to fight, but the other will fight if he feels he can win. Your cat may also be at risk of other strays who will smell the situation for miles and will respond. Another thought is that you might want to keep your cat away from strays because they carry many diseases, such as feline leukemia, which can be passed through scratches or bites.
Question: For the past few weeks, my cat has been meowing excessively. I have followed him and then he just lays down in the middle of the floor. I've rubbed on him when he does that but it still doesn't help. He will just keep meowing. He also has been kneading on blankets while chewing on them. Why does my cat act so needy?
Answer: It is hard to say why since age, gender, and whether the cat is spayed or neutered can affect the cat's behavior. Young cats, and many older ones, will do this for comfort and/or attention. Perhaps playing with your cat more and ensuring that he has his own furniture and bedding can help. Making sure he has access to a window overlooking an area of activity can help as well. Sometimes cats feel lonely and sad. They need your attention as much as you need theirs.
Question: Why does my cat like to chew the fur on his leg when I rub a certain spot?
Answer: Each cat has spots that are sensitive. I can't tell you if he likes it or not, but if he chews his leg too hard or bites you, I would stop doing it.
Question: I have 2 questions. Do cats get sexually excited? My husband argues forever with me that they can not actually get sexually excited, but I disagree. Also, why does my male (not neutered) cat knead with his back legs; and as he does, he will kind of slowly two step in an entire circle. Then he balls up blankets (or your leg will do just fine under a soft blanket), and straddles his balls on everything?
Answer: Well, in answer to your first question, yes they can; however, cats generally only want to mate if they are not fixed and it is mating season. Does that stand for all cats, no. Like us, cats are all different and they all respond differently to stimulus. For your second question, male cats are particularly troublesome if they are not fixed. I generally suggest that all cats be fixed to help prevent many common cancers. This procedure will usually reduce your cat's desire to go outside, spray on furniture and/or behave erratically.
Question: My cat keeps looking at my door in my room meowing at it around 2:35; and when I open the door, and no one is there he runs under my bed and will refuse to come out until the door is shut and I pick him up. Then he will stare at my closet looking like he is about to pounce and continues to stare at my closet for about ten minutes, then he will relax. What is he trying to tell me?
Answer: The possibilities are endless really, but a few that jump out are that someone makes him nervous outside your door at 2:35 so that he hides from them and only feels comfortable when you close the door and comfort him. The closet can be that he hears and/or can smell something in there like a mouse (in the wall most likely) or the neighbors. He could also be smelling something that bothers and/or frightens him. I would strongly recommend that you get him fixed, if he is not, because that could be causing the behavior as well. Try to occupy your cat at that time with food or play to get his mind off the door. Also, make sure he can see outside because the smells may be coming from there and he can't see them, which could upset him.
Question: I raised my male mackerel tabby from just a week old. He is an indoor cat and was raised as the only cat in the household. He is now three years old and has been fixed for two years. He has tons of toys, a large kitty kondo, perches, a scratch post, a scratch pad, two often-cleaned separate areas of the house with his litter boxes and tons of love! For whatever reason, he tries to mark the TV stand and the side of my recliner. He is fixed, but some urine does come out. Why does my cat only mark those two spots?
Answer: There are many reasons for fixed cats marking areas of the house. One could be because of stray cats marking areas outside of the home. This causes your cat to feel they need to protect what they have. Another reason could be crystals in your cat's urine which often happens with fixed males. This is a life-threatening situation and requires a visit to your vet. Finally, if another cat brushed the furniture before you got it, this could cause your cat to mark it with their scent. The scent on you that brushes them can also be an issue. Use the process of elimination and speak with your vet for further assistance.
Question: My male six-years-old neutered cat sleeps at the end of the bed. They other night he bit me on the arm. Why is this?
Answer: I can't say for certain, but let me suggest a few things. First could be that you move while he was in the mood to play. Another is he might be sleep-biting, or he was hoping you would play with him. Finally, he may be sensing a change in the air like a new cat in the area, or you were with someone he doesn't know. Cats don't like change. Think about your recent behavior and you will most likely find the answer to his actions. Giving him something to distract him, like a tunnel to run in, might help.
Question: My cat will attempt to bury me in the middle of the night. He sleeps with us, and I will wake up to him actively trying to bury me. Why is he doing this?
Answer: Cats like to lay in the warmest spot when they sleep, and you might be laying where he now wants to sleep. Or he may not like your scent after you sleep. Your cat may simply want to keep your for himself, thus hiding your scent, or he might want more blankets on you before he sleeps with you.
Question: Why has my cat suddenly started peeing and pooping all over the house?
Answer: This is usually a sign that something is wrong. Have you moved lately, if so she might need a lot of familiar things around to help her adjust? Check with your vet to see if it is a medical problem, just to be safe. Also, if you have another cat in the house, your cat may be getting bullied out of the box. If this is the case, make sure you have one litter box for each cat and don't put covers on them. Also, keep the boxes in different places throughout the house to avoid fighting. Has something new happened in the house (a new baby, a new family member, lots of new furniture for example), if so these can be the reason? If there is no medical problem, try giving her plenty of beds to sleep in throughout the house and make sure your familiar scent is on the beds and in her blankets. Be sure she has plenty of cat toys and trees that she can put her scent on as well. One more thing, if there are cats outside eating or sleeping nearby, your cat may be reacting to the 'threat' of the other cat.
Question: We have four litter boxes in our home, and no matter if they have been just cleaned and/or have had litter added or changed, there is at least one or two cats that will poo right outside or very near the boxes and then scratch on the floor to cover it up. They only do this by three of the boxes. Can you help me?
Answer: If the boxes are high on the sides, the cats may be having trouble getting in them. Also, if they are covered, try removing the covers, so no one gets trapped inside by another cat. I always recommend that you have at least one box per cat to allow for dominance claims on them. Also, be sure the boxes are big enough for the largest cat to use comfortably.
Question: Why won't my cat come into my bedroom with me anymore? When it's me and my wife, she sits at the doorway and stares, but she will go into the room when I'm not in there with my wife, why?
Answer: There are different reasons for her change in behavior. One may be that she is angry that you have someone else in the room and whether she likes your wife or not, she is not happy with you. Another reason may be that you have done something that she does not like. This could be petting a stray or someone's pet transferring their scent onto you or your clothes. Another thing could be that you don't do anything with her like playing or feeding her. If your wife does all of that then your wife is the one your cat prefers. Try spending more time with your cat and be sure to stay away from other animals. Look for strays outside your bedroom window because that may be what she is smelling.
Question: My cat is fairly affectionate anyway, but every time my husband leaves the house, he immediately runs to me and lays in my lap for a while. If I leave the house, my husband says that the cat automatically goes for the stuffed animal he's had since he was a kitten. What does this mean?
Answer: I believe your cat is trying to get comfort for the separation and potentially to offer comfort to you as well.
Question: My cat has recently become very affectionate and vocal towards me. Normally he is like this with my wife but not with me. When I get home from work he is all over me. He also wants to get into our old bedroom, as we had to move our bed and stuff to the living room for safety reasons. Why is there a sudden change in our cat's behavior toward me?
Answer: There could be several reasons, but I suspect it is the change in bedroom location and the closing of the room where he is used to being inside. I would make sure you have several of his things from the old bedroom in the living room with you including anything he liked to lay on that was located in the bedroom. Make sure he has plenty of you and your wife's clothes that he likes (put them on his beds and window shelves). Make sure he has plenty of things to keep him busy (toys and condos) and up high. As for his attention to you, he is missing the bedroom or something in the bedroom and I suspect he knows you can open the door so he can retrieve it.
Question: My cat follows me into the bathroom to get treats. Is it only that he wants treats or is there more to it? He even does it when there are no treats, why?
Answer: Cats, like dogs, are food trainable, which means they will perform a certain behavior if they are routinely given a treat as a reward. Once the behavior is there, they will continue to do it even if there is no treat.
Question: Why does my cat want me to sit with her when she is with her newborn kittens? The moment I get up and leave she comes to find me.
Answer: If your cat is a first-time mom, it could be that she wants you to help her with the babies because she isn't sure of what to do. It could also be that she wants to show them off to you. I would spend time with her, petting her and the babies (if she lets you) and tell her that the babies are wonderful and she did a great job, etc. Spend less and less time with her, and she will get comfortable with her babies on her own. Also, help her by making sure the babies are clean and growing. She could be a mother that can't handle the kittens, and you might have to take over.
Question: I throw a ball for my cat to run after and attack. Every time, he runs and brings it back, is this common, uncommon or weird?
Answer: Yes and no. Cats are fickle, and some will play fetch and others will not. If he keeps bringing it back to you, then keep throwing it.
Question: My cat covers up her privates with her tail when I pick her up. Is this normal for all cats, to cover up their privates with their tail; or is it just a the type of breed?
Answer: Every cat is different. Some will slip their tails between their legs when picked up and some will not. Many females develop this behavior when they are in heat to prevent mating with an unwanted male.
Question: This is not my first cat and all my previous ones have done it. Every time I get home, have a meal or go to bed, they always go to the litter to have a poo. Why?
Answer: I can't be sure, but generally, cats have a schedule that they keep with their bathroom habits, so you may just have the correct 'timing' that runs with their poo times.
Question: My cat just randomly attacks me. I was on my bed and he woke up and attacked me quite badly; like full on bushy tail and claws digging into my leg hurting me. About a week later he did it again as I was making a smoothie in the kitchen. He just came up behind me and full on attacked. He has always been friendly and I have never hurt him. How do I prevent it from happening again?
Answer: Your cat may be reacting to a scent that you brushed against while you were out and about. You may get this scent in a spot you frequented on those days; unfortunately, you may be totally unaware of the scent yourself. Also, your cat may be bored and is looking for something to do. Since cats are natural hunters, he is hunting you. For this, I would try playing with him a lot more. Give him his own furniture and a place to climb with a view outside to occupy him. If your cat is not fixed, I would get that done as soon as possible to reduce his hormones from causing him to act irrationally. If none of these things help, I would ask my vet about a possible chemical in-balance that causes the attacks.
Question: Why does my kitten raise her head after each drink of water?
Answer: When cats drink, they have to get a column of water running from the water to the tongue with perfect timing. Some cats take a bit of time to learn the art and some cats just don't learn. I think your kitten is learning how to properly drink water.
Question: Why does my cat always like to be with me when I am alone? Do cats worry for their owners?
Answer: Yes, cats do worry about their owners. Cats believe that their owners are part of their 'pack' and therefore family. They watch over you and try to make sure you are safe.
Question: When I come home, my cat is on the couch, so I pet her. She starts purring, but then she bites me for no reason at all. Do you know why?
Answer: Often when you pet your cat, you will reach the 'peak' point, and the cat will purr and often 'love' bite you. If the bites are gentle and don't break the skin, they probably are love bites. However, if the bites are hard, there may be a sore spot that your cat does not want you to touch anymore. Try altering where you pet the cat to see if you get a different response.
Question: Can a cat sense something wrong with you?
Answer: Cats are very sensitive to feelings and illness. Not all of them can; however, my cats had always tried to climb on me and stay close when I was sick. They even did that during the time I had a massive infection but didn't know I had one. Just like humans, cats are not all the same, so give them the benefit of the doubt.
Question: My cat just had her babies and keeps meowing at me. Today she just took one kitten and came and laid beside me. Is something wrong with the kitten?
Answer: I would definitely keep an eye on the kitten. Many times they need to be hand fed. This could be that her mouth is not formed right, her siblings are too strong and keep her from eating, or she simply isn't strong enough.
Question: My curious kitten will meow and meow at me and run to the door, so I let her outside. I don’t know how to stop her from meowing and scratching me and trying to get my attention because, quite frankly, I don’t want her outside. All it is is her getting dirtier and more money for extra shots. How do I get her to stay inside? (I also already open windows and let her climb on the window sill, so she gets fresh air.)
Answer: Your cat may want to go out for more than getting dirty. Usually, all a cat wants is to sleep and play (and of course eat). To keep your cat safe, be sure you put screens in the windows so the cat can't fall from the sills. To keep your cat inside make sure your cat has plenty to occupy her while you are busy. A TV or tablet with moving fish is a good one to keep her busy, but also cat trees and plenty of toys are necessary. Be sure to play with your cat as well. This helps to build your bond with her as well as keep her happy inside.
Question: I was petting my cat, which she is fine with, but then she digs her claws into my wrist and starts biting my hand pretty hard while growling. As I start walking away, she does a soft meow to get my attention again. Is she just playing rough or could there be something wrong with her?
Answer: There could be many reasons, but I think your cat can smell another cat on your hand. This would make your cat feel like he must protect his area.
Question: When I got home, my cat started to meow constantly and started rubbing her head on my siblings and me. We tried to feed her, but she didn't eat it, then we tried giving her water; she drank it but still kept meowing. Her tail then keeps moving back in forth as if she's angry, and according to my siblings, this started when me and my mother got home. Her ears are also pointing in many directions like she's trying to hear something. We checked if she's in heat, but she isn't. Can you help?
Answer: Your cats seem to be trying to tell you that something is near the home that shouldn't be there like a stray cat that is marking things. Look for places where a cat may have peed or pooped nearby. A male will seek out females that are not fixed and will mark their space for when they do go into heat.
Question: Every time my cat lays down she meows, why is this?
Answer: There could be many reasons for this, medical is the first thing I can think of especially if she is older or has been outside recently. Check for injuries or raw spots. Also, if your cat is a chewer, you might want to see if she has eaten something she shouldn't have eaten. I would take your cat to the vet to ensure there is nothing bad going on with her.
Question: We are a cat-loving household. I have a male cat who will meow loudly during various points of the day and night. I will call him and ask him to come to me. Sometimes he does, other times he doesn't. He used to sleep next to me, lay on my lap, and no longer does. Am I missing something?
Answer: First, if your cat is not fixed, you should get him fixed for a more laid back and healthier kitty. If he is already fixed, try spending time playing with him, he may be bored. If you wear him out, he will sleep more and may resume sleeping with you.
Question: I have adopted a 7 year old neutered male cat. He can be affectionate and comes to me when called but he will suddenly turn on me without warning while I am petting him. He scratches and bites me. I mainly just pet his head and neck because he doesn't like his tummy or sides touched ( the vet said there is nothing physically wrong and that it is behavioral). He is just so unpredictable that I don't want to touch him for fear of being scratched. What can I do?
Answer: Because your cat is seven years old, he may have been abused before you got him and that could be the reason he doesn't like to have certain places touched. Also, older cats can sometimes have 'sore' spots that just hurt when touched, or it could simply be that you are reaching his touch endurance. You can try petting him softer, don't hold or restrain him and make sure you stop as soon as he seems to be getting upset. Also, make sure he has plenty of play action and can look out the window a lot. He might also need a bed and condo of his own to help him feel more at home. Also, check his food to see if it is good for inside older cats because stomach issues can make a cat grumpy.
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Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on September 09, 2020:
There are several possibilities; she is unfixed and wants to mate; she is playing; she is smelling another cat outside and is trying to protect her territory; something has changed in the household. There are many more, but these are the most common. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on September 09, 2020:
Possibly because the cat does not like the danger your son is in when outside and wants him to go back inside where it is safe. Another possibility is the cat simply wants his company. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Makayla on September 05, 2020:
My cat Molly just recently started running around with her nails out. Her ears moving, tail twitching, and acting kind of like she's scared. But other times she's her normal self. Shes never really done this before. And she does a howl type meow sometimes. Why would she suddenly start acting scared like this?
Clare Sanchez on August 26, 2020:
If my son leaves the house to ride his scooter up and down the street the cat follows him out and sits at the bottom of the street and meows very loudly and constantly until he returns .. why is this
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on August 23, 2020:
Your cat is probably just being himself.. They all have their unique behaviors. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on August 23, 2020:
Sounds like the cat was running from something or someone; also, cats really can't drink milk because they can't digest it. Try meat or canned cat food. Then you can use it to get the cat off of your balcony. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Vineeth on August 21, 2020:
One stray cat has entered my flat and is staying in my balcony and is not leaving the house. We tried to feed it milk also but it is still not coming up to drink. What is wrong with the cat?
Jake on August 16, 2020:
My cat has continually jumped on to my bed rested got of and then did it again Could their be any pointers to this behaviour
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on August 12, 2020:
Your cat could be demonstrating labor, but with cats it is hard to tell until they get close to delivering. If her nipples are large, she is probably getting ready to deliver. Get a box, line it with a blanket you don't care if it gets bloody and put it in a hidden quiet place. Show her where it is and she will, hopefully, use that to deliver. It is best to let her do her thing. She knows the routine even if she has never given birth. Good Luck.
TheCrawfishMommy83 on August 11, 2020:
I think my cat is pregnant (this will be her first litter if so) she is showing other symptoms, but isn't super big. It has been approximatley long enough for gestation...today she is purring A LOT, meowing (different than when in heat) and is mostly lovey, but bit me twice. Could this mean she is in early labor?? I have only been around one other cat when she delivered, but missed early signs of labor. Any advice welcome
Amber on July 21, 2020:
Me (14) and my cat (13) always used to snuggle up together. He used to follow me to the bathroom, go straight into my room and on my bed when he'd come upstairs, sleep on my pillow and more but now he's only ever in my room for biscuits or when I have to have him in my room because the dog (2) does not get along well with cats and then he will scratch and meow at my door until I let him out. He is always on the landing or in my brothers room. I've game him space, made his own section for him, made sure the room is cool enough, put his biscuits and water out. He will still follow me downstairs but only because he thinks its his dinner. Why is he not close with me? Is it because I give his sisters attention too? Have I annoyed him? Is it still too hot? He was recently ill and because he is old it gave me a fright and I want to spend time with him. My brother doesn't even give him attention? He tells his friends he's 'fat'. Have I done something? This has happened since beginning of uk lockdown in march. His name is Jack by the way. Thank you.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on July 14, 2020:
This can be due to the dressing situation as stated above. There isn't much you can do except encourage her and let her know she isn't in trouble. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on July 14, 2020:
Cats can be very unique in their behaviors so I can't be sure; however, I think she might be wanting to sit at the areas where you work most because your scent is there. The waiting across the hall could be that she is not sure if she is welcome in that particular room when you are dressing. The playing can be due to the weather outside and her growing older. Most cats at that age are learning to hunt and protect themselves against predators. Your cat doesn't need that training so she is bored. Try different types of toys with different feels and scents. Also, try giving her plenty of window space to watch birds and such. Another thing you can do is make sure she has plenty of places to climb. This will give her exercise as well as a birds eye view of the house. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Aki on July 10, 2020:
Forgot mention that once I have finished changing, my cat will either join me in the bedroom or follow me when I leave it.
Aki on July 10, 2020:
I live alone and adopted a female kitty about three months ago. She's 15-months-old and has more or less begun to settle in her new home. She's been fixed and is the only pet in my household.
There're a couple of habits she does that I'm to decipher. Firstly, I regularly use my laptop at the coffee table and do model making at my folding table, but she frequently sits under them whenever I'm not using them. The second is whenever I go to my room to change clothes she always sits outside the bedroom door opposite my room. (Both doors are always open.)
Also, she's not big on toys but she used to love playing with the laser pointer and wand with a mouse attachment, to the point she will roll side-to-side on her back. Weather has been chilly for the past month and during this time she seems semi-interested in playing and after a few minutes will either walk away or lie down.
Not sure what to make of these behaviours.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on July 05, 2020:
Hi Cheyenne, your cat could be acting out of loneliness or fear, or a combination of both. Cats tend to demand attention on their own terms and will leave when they are ready. But, if they have been alone a lot lately, and have little to do while you are gone, they can get demanding. Try making sure she has a cat TV (like an aquarium or window to look out of) and plenty of places where she can get high up (shelves on walls work well). Interactive feeding bowls and toys also work to wear your cat out so that she sleeps with you more. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Cheyenne Ruiz on July 02, 2020:
Hello! I was wondering if you knew what it meant when my 3 yr old will meow at me constantly until i get on the floor w her, most times to pet her for a little but then after she’ll sit near me and doesn’t want to be close to me but i can still pet her if i went over to her. and then she’ll be all over me again. But if i get up she will start meowing again until i get on the floor. she will get on the bed/couches w me occasionally.maybe once a week ish give or take. she’ll get on the bed w me more often if i’m working less and home more. (she used to sleep with me every night until she was like 1 1/2 and then she just stopped) sometimes lll put her on there with me when she’s meowing so i don’t have to get down but she’ll jump off immediately and keep meowing. do you happen to have a theory why? thank you !!!
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on June 24, 2020:
Unfortunately, many feral cats will display unusual behaviors until they feel comfortable in the environment. It sounds like he is moving forward, he just needs time. I always suggest that you allow him to come to you. Once he knows you are not going to chase him and that the treats are not being thrown at him, he should begin to calm down. In fact, it sounds like he has already started. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
HeatherJA on June 22, 2020:
Hi, I have a semi-feral that I took in a while ago. He is very very talkative - he murrs, purrs, chatters, yowls, and everything in between. However, he will *not* let me come close to him. Even after 8 months, the closest I can get is about 3 feet; but he's fine with my other two cats. They play and he plays with all the toys. I can toss him treats, and he'll usually hiss at me (but without ears flat or anything, just hiss), and then eat them.
However, the odd part is - at night, if I sleep in my bedroom, I'll find that he will come into the bedroom and get up on the dresser, and go to sleep on there; or if I'm on the couch, he'll fall asleep on the couch next to me.
I can't figure this out, because if I just walk by the room he's in, like 10 seconds later, he'll come scrambling out of there to run behind the couch again (even if I didn't know he was in the other room). So it's one of those,... I've had cats all my life, how do I even interpret his behavior half the time?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on June 22, 2020:
Kittens require a lot of attention, and most of them have some type of quirky behavior. The kitten wants to play, which they like to do all the time. I suggest a few things for you. One, beds for each cat and beds in the crates for the dogs. This will put specific scents on each one giving them a home with their scent. Next, I would give them something to watch during the day or night. A clear window showing the world go by or an enclosed aquarium. Also, give them treat puzzles to keep them busy. High places for them to escape each other is also a good idea. I hope this advice helps, Cheryl.
Mimi-Cat-Love214 on June 19, 2020:
My 3 month old kitten has been waking me up for the past 2 weeks by prying my mouth open! I move my head around but she doesn’t stop. This relentless behavior happens around 5am, lasts about 10-15 minutes. I’ve had to raise my voice to tell her to stop. Then she eventually stops. I don’t feed them in the morning until 7:30am to 8am when I let my dogs out of their crates. So she knows our schedule/routine. I use to play w/ her and my other 2 cats at night about 9pm-10pm depending on where they are in my house. Lately I can’t find where they’re hiding or I can’t stop them from chasing each other!! So I end up falling asleep. Any and all advice is much appreciated!!
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on June 17, 2020:
It sounds like you are doing very well on your own. She may be suffering from a type of PTSD from previous owners and the best way to deal with that is to give her space and let her come to you. She will eventually relax and learn that you are not going to hurt her. Try making sure she has a high area where she can go and observe you from a distance, this often calms them down to see how you are without her at your feet. A window seat can show her the outside without fear (keep those windows closed or screened for safety). Good Luck, I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Mikki on June 16, 2020:
Hello! I recently (about a week ago) adopted an indoor 2 year old cat who had previously been adopted and returned to the shelter a number of times. I know that this has most likely caused her a lot of stress which is resulting in a lot of weird behaviors. I would really like some advice on what to do to make her feel more at ease. Sometimes she'll be extremely affectionate, she'll rub up against me then lay on chest and purr. She even decides to sleep with me each night. Other times she'll suddenly act like she's never seen me before and become extremely terrified, her tail becomes fluffed and she arches her back while looking at me and then bolts around the room. I've never hit her (and never will), and I've never accidentally stepped on her tail. Sometimes if she attacks me aggressively I'll tell her no and clap my hands once, but otherwise I never show any aggression towards her. Most times her fear/anxiety seems unprompted. I went to my kitchen to get some iced tea and when i walked back to my office she was looking at me like I was a ghost. Tail all fluffed and back arched, I'm not sure what I did to prompt this from her. I make sure to give her as much play as she wants, I don't force her to do anything she doesn't want to. I think she may have some bad memories with some of the toys the shelter had given her because she will go after my hands instead of the toy in my hand, but this reaction isn't with all of them. I'm working to replace her toys bit by bit, I don't want to shock her with a bunch of new things immediately. I try to lay with her on the floor with my eyes closed for about 20 mins a day to show her that she can trust me. This is her forever home and I want to make her feel as safe and as comfortable as possible, but I'm not sure what to do to help with the mood changes. I'm hoping that over time she'll become more and more comfortable and no longer be nervous or afraid. Do you have any advice?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on June 10, 2020:
Your cat is suffering from PTSD. You left her without you for two weeks, then moved and took her to a new environment inside and out. Then you left her outside where she has to fight to survive. You have also betrayed your cat by trying to kick her out while under attack. To help with this situation, you might want to set up a cat outdoor yard which will protect her while outside. Also, try interacting with her in fun ways like treats for tricks and stick toys. Be sure she has lots of places to climb and rest above everyone. This might actually keep her inside more. The aggression should slow as you spend more time with her. Lastly, be patient with her, she needs your love now more than ever. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Faridah Ismail on June 09, 2020:
My cat has been behaving strangely, she might just see you sitting or doing something and then comes at you and bite you in an aggressive way, I think she's possessed, coz we left her for about 2wks, then came back and moved to our family house, and behaviour has bn really disturbing, she became harsher, making really weird meows and noises than normal, so we leave her to stay out, then she leaves d house and comes back at night, this has been going on for 2 days now, this midnight we saw her by the window trying to come in through the ner window, we tried to push her back out, suddenly we saw another car sitting outside, looking straight at us in a pretty strange way, not moving and then suddenly our cat seemed scared of the other car..... I'm really scared, i don't know what to do, is she really possessed or what, pls help me
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on May 21, 2020:
Most likely your cat seeks attention from you. She is wanting play or pets. Cats need to be active. If there isn't enough to stimulate her, she will use you and anything she can reach in your house, just like a toddler would do. When offering pets, be sure to touch belly and tail slowly, even if she offers them. If she pulls from you or tries to slap you with her paw, she is saying hands off. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Sophia Thompson on May 18, 2020:
Every time I walk toward my cat, she just lays her self on the floor and meows. Please help me, I’d ont know if it mean that she wants to play or something?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on May 17, 2020:
As cats get older, they do tend to cling to the one who cares for them. It could be that they feel they are now getting too old to care for themselves, or simply because they have always counted on your for their care. The accidents are most likely because of their age. Many can no longer climb into the larger boxes because of arthritis, and many have bladder issues because of crystals in their urethra. You might want to get them checked out and maybe cut down the side of their litter box to make it easier for them to climb into the box. Also, try feeding them food for the older generation to help with their digestion. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Bridget KieasFecyk on May 17, 2020:
My cats, both of them are getting very clingy. No matter where I go, they both have to be with me, laying on me or pawing at me for attention. They don't do this to my husband so much. I clean their boxes every single day, but I still find occasional messes on the floor, but NEVER in my office. And if I'm sitting with him in the living room, both are right there, but the moment I go to my office, both will ditch him and follow me to my office. I normally wouldn't mind, but it can be quite annoying when they're clinging and demanding attention when I'm working. And the occasional messes on the floor, especially since I do the boxes every day, sometimes twice a day, is getting really annoying. Their ages are 14 and 11.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on May 06, 2020:
Your cat is most likely going through the hormonal changes of growing up. She was feeling you were mommy. Now you are not really what she wants as she learns to be grown-up. My advice is to play with her and offer her comfort, but don't push it. She will come back when she is ready. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Marise on May 05, 2020:
My cat has been very affectionate since I got her at 3 months. She always slept with me til a few weeks ago. She is 16 months old now and wants nothing to do with me. It's breaking my heart. I don't know why or what to do. Any ideas??
Crying myself to sleep..
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on April 30, 2020:
If this is not her usual behavior, I would get her checked out. She may have something wrong with her eyes or neurological issues developing. It may be life threatening depending upon what it is; however, it could just be that she is getting bored and wants something else to do. Check with the vet first. If she is still doing this, try new toys or routines. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Sophiapuspus on April 29, 2020:
My cat is about four years old. Last couple of days, she has been “batting” a couple of things. I have a cover over a chair and she batts at it. A blanket on another chair, and she is batting that too. Today, I had a shirt hanging over a chair and she did the same thing. Does this mean anything?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on April 29, 2020:
Nova, for your first question about spraying. Males get crystals in their urinary tract when they have been fixed. It is painful for them to pee, and sometimes they pee where they smell you because they are trying to get you to pay attention. For this, I would take him to a vet. The crystals will eventually block him completely and he will die. Also, check your routes outdoors. He may be smelling another cat and is marking his territory so they know to stay away. Second: the tail issue can be directly related to the crystals. Third: you are most likely correct, but I think it might be the sound rather than the feel. Plus, your bed doesn't smell of you like it did, which could also explain this behavior. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Nova Rose on April 28, 2020:
So, I have a couple questions that hopefully you can answer. 1. I have a male cat (who is fixed) and he sprays my clothes all the time. Hanging, in the laundry basket, doesn't matter where, if he can reach it, he pees on in. I used to have other cats but sadly had to get rid of all except him, so there are no other cats present for him to be territorial right? (I've had him for well over 10 years now. 2. He always used to love the top of his back right by his tail getting scratched but now he doesn't, is that just him being finicky or is it something I need to worry about and 3. He almost always was on my bed day and night, almost 24/7 unless he wanted to adventure outside (he's an indoor-outdoor cat), or wants to eat, but now, ever since I put a mattress pad on my bed, he never comes and chills out on my bed anymore and it's kind of sad because that would always be our chill/hang out time... Is it because he doesn't like the texture/feeling of the mattress pad or..? Thanks for the help!
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on April 27, 2020:
I believe you are describing an infection in the mammary glands of your cat. This can be deadly for the kittens who cannot feed, or might ingest the infected milk. Also, the mother can die of the infection. Though I can't guarantee that this is the problem, I would get your cat to the vet as soon as possible, just in case. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Nicole Mckenzie on April 26, 2020:
My cat had a kittens a week ago, she leaves them for longer periods now maybe too long but we try to encourage her to go back to them, she has also started being more affectionate towards me by lying on her back wanting tummy rubs and waiting by the door for me when I’m out. Is this ok behaviour?? Thanks xx
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on April 18, 2020:
Awww, that sounds so sweet. I love kittens.
Someone on April 15, 2020:
My cat just had babies, it was so cute
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on April 15, 2020:
Thank you for your compliment. I am glad my article has helped so many find out what their cat is saying.
Stella Stivachtari from Thessaloniki, Greece on April 15, 2020:
Very helpful, thank you!
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on April 10, 2020:
A pregnant female cat will have a very swollen tummy and her mammary glands will be swollen and, in some cases, they will drip milk. Be sure to have a warm dry place out of the way for her to keep her kittens safe once they are born.
lilly sanders on April 09, 2020:
How can I tell if my cats is going to have kittens?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on March 28, 2020:
Cats live by scent and you may have picked up something he was trying to mask when you walked away. If the scent was of an unfixed cat, he would react in such a way. Also, remember that cats smell things that we cannot. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Coco on March 26, 2020:
I was walking to my friends hoise and there was a girnger cat looking and me and rubbing his fur on me and meowing. When i tried to walk away he followed me and was hissing!! But why......
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on February 20, 2020:
Cats are patient animals and you have to be patient with them, especially if they have not been in an environment like yours before. Let him come to you. He will let you know when he is feeling more comfortable and will welcome attention. But don't let his behavior throw you off, because he is simply not used to you yet. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
kat on February 18, 2020:
I sometimes lay near my cat (5 years old, lived on a farm for five years as a stray and we have now adopted him) when i lay near him, not too close, he sometimes just ups and leaves.. I'm trying to bond with him, he eats, drinks, plays but mostly hides and isnt keen on any sort of touch. What more can i do if anything?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on January 11, 2020:
Yes, but it also means she doesn't have enough to keep her occupied. Try putting up shelves that she can climb to get above the doors and move around the room using the shelves. This will give her a chance to work off a lot of energy without scratching walls or your daughter. Also, try playing with your kitten on a regular schedule. Play until you have worn her out. This will slow down unwanted activity and keep your cat from getting bored. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Stacy on January 07, 2020:
I'd love to know why my 5month old kitten bolts through the house from room to room, back and forth and literally tries to climb the walls, mostly around door ways or edges of two walls for up to an hour at a time, and up to three times a day, everyday.
She also follows my 3yo daughter around, when in this mood, and basically attacks her, seemingly to play, but always ends up scratching her.
Is all this simply because she's a healthy energetic kitten??
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on December 28, 2019:
Cats suffer in silence but their behaviors can tell us when something is wrong. Have them both checked out to see if something is wrong. If they are well, ask for the plug in that helps calm the cats. And if they are not fixed, get them fixed to reduce their hormonal reactions to each other. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on December 28, 2019:
Aimee, like us, cats have likes and dislikes. If you know she doesn't like to be petted in a certain area, then avoid it. Also there are a lot of cats that do not want to sit on the lap of anyone. This can change as they get older because your lap is warm and helps with any joint aches they may have, but don't push it. Letting the cat come to you is the best way to do it. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Daniela on December 27, 2019:
My female cat always would like to be touched and she would always play with my other cat they were like bestfriends but ever since yesterday she started to be mean to him and she doesn't want anyone to touch her or she doesn't want any cat near her why is she acting this way now?
Aimee on December 21, 2019:
Hiya, My cat has been skittish since the day she was born however has gotten better over the years, she still doesn’t like being picked up. Whenever I stroke her she puts her bum down as if she doesn’t like it or runs away. It makes me really sad. Sometimes when she is on my bed she will let me stroke her, purr and show me her belly but has never sat on my lap or got too close to my face. I know she is probably just unique but I feel like it’s more than that :( I feel as though she doesn’t like anyone only her food.
Gamer-Chick on December 07, 2019:
When my cat starts to bite and scratch me, just then to start licking my finger.What does this mean?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on December 02, 2019:
When you try to pick up your cat, you are actually frightening him/her. Cats judge their safety level by scents and if you don't live with the cat he/she might not feel comfortable in your presence. Try playing with the cat from a distance; offering treats; speaking softly to them so they get used to your voice; and wash your hands often to avoid the scents of other cats. Even if you don't touch another cat, you can often brush against something that another cat has touched. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on December 02, 2019:
It could be that your cat is reacting to your mother as in intrusion to his home base. She could have brushed against a bush or an item that has been sprayed by another male, or a female in heat. This is especially true if your mother has an unfixed male or female in heat in her home. If your cat is not fixed, that is the first step. Then, have your mother wash her hands when she enters the home. Also, you mother could spray her clothing with something that will add a scent to them. This might cover the odor enough to stop the behavior. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Marmar on November 29, 2019:
When i tryy to pick up ky cat which i dont live with it lays down almost about swat at me
Beth on November 28, 2019:
My male cat does not like my mother when she comes over my cat will hiss and swat at
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on November 04, 2019:
It is hard to say. Cats can be afraid of things they don't understand, so that is possible. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Keira on October 30, 2019:
My cat is 6 years old and she as been very adventurous and inderpendant her whole life but we were watching tv last night and she was suddenly all over us, hiding under the blanket and sitting on our laps is she scared because of some early fireworks ?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on October 23, 2019:
Just like toddlers with a pacifier, cats have a need for comfort. The blanket may be his answer to that. Just keep it for him either on the bed or in his bed. Try not to use it for anything else. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Sara on October 17, 2019:
My kitten moews none stop until I get him a fluffy blanket and place it on the bed for his to kneed and suck on once his done with the blanket he finds somewhere on my bed to sleep frist time he ever done this
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on September 25, 2019:
Long haired cats will appreciate a cut in the summer or when it is very hot. They also like it when they can see what is in front of them instead of their fur. Part of the answer lies there, heat and seeing better. Don't try to understand it, however, just enjoy the sweetness. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Michelle I St.Marie on September 19, 2019:
I got my cat a hair cut
And now she’s different,she won’t let you love her but she will come to you when she wants love ,I can’t pet or hold her until she wants it ,after the cut she’s super sweet and loving ,I can now hold her and touch her all I want ,as sweet as it is I wonder what happened and is she sad???
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on September 18, 2019:
Most likely it is habit. Or it could also be a comfortable position for her. I really wish our cats could tell us what they want or how they feel sometimes. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
katy on September 17, 2019:
my cat will sit like she is going to wash her bum but then just sit there with her legs to the side off the floor, it looks like she is posing for a photo. she was overweight and started doing it i think as she couldnt groom her bottom but now she can reach she still does it. could it be a habbit?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on August 12, 2019:
This could be a sign that something is wrong. Diabetes could be a cause, but I would be more concerned that the cat has crystals in his bladder that is causing this issue. I would get him to a vet as soon as possible because this issue can cause death if not treated. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Harry N Magnani on August 09, 2019:
I have 2 cats and one or both produces very sticky urine in their litter box.It has become more frequent in the last year. They are brothers (neutered) and 14 years old but apparently very healthy. Is this a sign of diabetes, or dehydration or what?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on July 27, 2019:
You might want to observe the interactions between your dog and your cat to see if the puppy is 'playing' too roughly and has injured the cat. Also, the older the cat is, the harder it is for their system to digest their fur when they clean. Plus, they can't always reach to properly clean themselves when they get older. I would take the cat to the vet before anything else, just to be sure everything is okay, then watch that puppy. You will have to start grooming your cat as well. Make sure your cat has plenty of places to get away from the dog (the higher the better) so she can have peace. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Carmen814 on July 26, 2019:
My cat is 7 years old n has always taken care of her everyday maitenance she is long haired my husband and i just adopted a puppy weve had our puppy for 6 months now all of a sudden my cats fur is all mattered and shes shedding she usually sheds with the weather change but shes never been natted now her sides are looking like dreads n when i try to pet her on her sides she tries to scratch me what is causing this is she sick is she jealous i love her n my new puppy so much i want her to be happy still i feel like ive hurt her feelings by bringing in a new animal is this possible ? Should i bring her to the vet ?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on July 19, 2019:
Your cat is most likely trying to play. You can use toys on sticks to distract him and show him a different way to play. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
A on July 17, 2019:
my cat lays down next to me hugs my hands and licks them then rests its head on my hand but then starts kicking me with its feet all while hugging and licking me?
Kritta on July 14, 2019:
My family and I were recently away for an entire month. I left my grandkitty (my young son's cat) in care of a combination of extended family staying at our place for the first part and neighbours feeding her for another part with another animal loving friend coming as well, a few times, to give her affection. When we did get home, my grandkitty did this "jitter bug" kind of thing that really surprised me, before she let herself be picked up and full of purrs. I was actually expecting her to have a bad attitude twards us being away for so long. I've grown up with cats (I'm now 48), but I'd never seen such a "jitterbug" reaction before. Insight please and thank you in advance. Truly intrigued.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on July 12, 2019:
More than likely your cat has a bit of arthritis in his spine and the stretch puts pressure on that area. Most cats will continue to do so even if it hurts because they have an instinct to keep fit in case they have to flee. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on July 12, 2019:
Sadly, kittens born to an older cat can have development issues and may die shortly after birth. The mother cat wants them, but they die, so she adopts others who need help. On the other hand, some cats do not understand what has happened when they give birth and they might leave the kittens to die. Some will even kill their kittens right after birth. I cannot tell you which it is, but you might want to get her fixed to prevent further kittens. If you want her to continue to have kittens, a warm out-of-the-way area is best so the mother and the babies are comfortable for at least the first few days. Sadly, most kittens that are taken from their mother at birth will die. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Melissa on July 11, 2019:
My cat periodically arches his back and yelps, then he will act normal. He is 10 years old.
Priscilla on July 09, 2019:
My outdoor senior cat recently gave birth about a day ago in our garage, to 6 healthy kittens, but today when I found her she was in a new spot with only one kitten. To me, the other kittens look perfectly normal and healthy, and in her last pregnancy she also kept just one(which later died, but she took in 5 orphaned kittens later). And I have no idea if she's stressed or should she be left alone (because we use the garage for laundry and going to the backyard)or how to know if the other five babies are healthy and if they are, how can I get her to be with them.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on June 27, 2019:
There could be several reasons why your cat is doing this. First: she could have an injury of some sort that is bothering her. She would bite and run if your petting touched that area and hurt her. Second: she might have a chemical in-balance that is causing her to behave that way. Third: she may be suffering from PTSD from her previous life. Four: she could have hormonal issues, especially if she is not fixed. A trip to the vet can fix all of these issues, or at least get you an answer. The only other thing I can think of is she might need to have climbing shelves to get up high for a bit where she can see everything and be left alone. I hope this helps you, Cheryl.
Marie Both on June 27, 2019:
Hi, I got my cat when she was about 3 weeks old. Her tail got broke by a truck running over it. I saved her, brought her home and kept her. She was lovable and always cuddled. As she got older she would let you pet her but then she would bite you and run off. I thought she would out grow this but it is only getting worse. One min she is nice and purring on you, the next min she is biting and clawing you. Then she runs off. Can you plz tell me what is wrong. I have tried everything, I bought her a bunch of toys, I got her treats she gets every day, I got her cat nip, her own bed. Nothing seems to work. I know it can’t be my other cat causing her to act like this. She was raised with her from the day I got her at 3 weeks. She will even attack her sometimes, or chases her out of the room. But then they will play together, and my oldest one kit will clean Winnie and she allows it. But then like I said Winnie will just turn mean for no reason.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on June 20, 2019:
Some cats like to get close to people who are afraid of them or don't like them. I can't be certain why except that many cats will get close to show their dominance (if you are afraid) or to get you to like them. Rather than running away from the cat, try just letting him do what he wants. You may have to put up with a rub or two, but by ignoring him, he will eventually move on and leave you alone. I hope that this helps, Cheryl.
Kailah on June 20, 2019:
Hi there, I was visiting my friends house and she has a deaf cat. I usually avoid this cat because I simply don’t like cats. One day I was sitting on the couch on my phone and the cat usually doesn’t really bother me, but today the cat started following me where ever I went. I started to slowly run away from it but that’s when I noticed it was coming for me. I got really nervous and locked myself in the bathroom until she put her cat up. So I’m really confused as to why all of the sudden the cat is suddenly coming at me.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on June 04, 2019:
Joz, the first thing you learn about cats is that they are independent, and each one has their own unique qualities. In your case, your cat may be asking you to play. A young cat, especially a Siamese, needs the play to stay fit and health as well as keeping them occupied. They also need their own furniture to keep them content. Try getting her a few beds, some scratching posts and/or cat trees. Be sure she has toys to play with as well. You will discover which toys she prefers very quickly. Siamese like to look outside a lot, so make sure she has a window seat. Also, Siamese like to climb. Make sure she has a lot of shelves and pathways to climb on and be sure some of them get her high up because they love looking down on the world in which they live. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Joz on May 31, 2019:
hi, my cat is an indoor siamese and she would just lay around and meow at me until I look at her (sometimes she still meows while I watch her) and if I approach to her she just runs off (or nimble on my hand soflty) then go back to spot and start over. Shes 1yo and spayed.
Shes my very first cat so I pretty much know nothing. Is this normal or Im doing something wrong?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on May 18, 2019:
It seems he is trying to tell you something like there might be a cat outside the house. Try keeping your door open for a bit. This might help him to relax. Also, look for a new cat outside. Hope this helps, Cheryl.
T on May 17, 2019:
My cat will sit outside of my bedroom door and meow or scratch so I open the door for him and he races into the room, but then like 2 minutes later he wants to leave again. He’s been doing this for a few days now
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on May 09, 2019:
Cats that have been abused or received great trauma can suffer from PTSD. This means he will be happy one minute and then angry or fearful the next. Many cats that suffer this dilemma will often have stress related licking. Like humans, animal PTSD is hard to overcome. I hope your cat is the exception. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Lap on May 07, 2019:
My cat is 14 and he's started acting weird for the last month or so. He hasn't had the easiest life. He got attacked by my neighbors dogs when he was about 2 or 3. He had serious injuries and surgeries. He also lost one of his top fang teeth a few years ago. He has been an inside cat for about 3 years. But lately he's been super affectionate but didn't think much of it as we are heading into winter. When I'm laying in bed he'll come up really close to my face purring like a v8 and I pat him for a bit then he moves backwards a little and I let him snooze then I look at him and he attacks my face and runs to his corner of the bed. The first time he did it he was super close to clawing my eye, he literally got my his claw about my bottom eyelashes. I had blood everwhere! I know he suffers anxiety, he will continuously lick parts of his front paws till there is no hair left and that's what our vet said. But this new behavior is scaring me. He also doesn't really groom himself anymore and sits on the window basically howling. If he can here us and can't get to us he stands there constantly meowing. Anyone have any ideas on why this is all happening? It's been suggested that it could be cat dementia but I have no clue.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on May 02, 2019:
Venus, I do sometimes believe that, but it is our tone of voice and body language that they interpret. Whether they listen or not is a totally different thing.
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on May 02, 2019:
Alyssa, I would check her for injuries of some sort. Also, I would try to see if there are other cats living in your area, or humans that don't like cats, that are making her feel threatened. Also, try luring her out with treats and keeping her out with play. Another thing that might help is lots of places to climb on and watch the world so she can be social yet out of reach. I hope this helps.
Alyssa Warren on April 29, 2019:
Ive had my cat for 4-5 ish years. I took her in as a stray. She is usually pretty social, but lately she has been just hiding under my bed. She comes out when i look under and call her, but after a minute, she goes back in. I dont k kw whats wrong or what to do
VenusPsychic from wales on April 29, 2019:
cats always do what ever they want and pretend do not understand what we are saying hahahah
trixxane on April 26, 2019:
My cat is suddenly being all nice he looks at me and when im doing homework he sleeps on my books he is usually distant and sleeps on the chair but now he sleeps on the hard table he comes closer to my face if anything i was wondering is he okay
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on April 09, 2019:
BB, Siamese are very intelligent and sometimes eccentric. Your thought about demented could be correct. If her behavior becomes dangerous for her or you, you might want to check with your vet; otherwise, I would not be worried.
BB Haddock on April 08, 2019:
My small Siamese is not very lovable, but, she will lay on my upper extended arm, for about three to five minutes, then make a meow sound and run away. She will return later and does the same thing. Her sister is the total opposite. I sometimes think the cat is demented. Any others have the same problem?
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on March 29, 2019:
Your cat may just not like the smell of your husband and children. Perhaps if the children and your husband got her active in play it would be different. I hope this helps, Cheryl.
Tracy on March 28, 2019:
Hi my cat is 5 now she only lets me touch her i have a family of five and when my husband trys to touch her she moves just out of his reach why dose she do this ?
And she sometimes sleeps on my tummy all night usually when I'm having a bad night why? I like it just want to understand
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on March 03, 2019:
:Laura, if your cat has begun to act differently, chances are something is wrong. I would take your cat to the vet as soon as possible.
Laura on March 03, 2019:
Wy does my cat sad. Lays down all the time she dont whant me to grab her any more she would sleep on top of me i whant to help her
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on March 01, 2019:
I think you cat is looking for you to play and interact with him. Try playing for a bit before you do your chores. Make sure he has plenty of window space so he can watch outside and be sure he has something to climb up high.
Christy on March 01, 2019:
When i try to do the dishes or do the laundry or even clean my house my cat acts strange and obsessively meows at me or tries to get under my feet at times he wont let me finish my chores so what do i do what he he tring to tell me?