What Your Cat's Behaviors, Body Language, and Sounds Mean

Updated on September 11, 2019
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I have owned cats for over 60 years. Between them and their vets, I have learned a great deal about how they tick.

If you've ever wondered what your cat might be trying to communicate to you with their behaviors, body language, and sounds, then this article will help you find some answers.
If you've ever wondered what your cat might be trying to communicate to you with their behaviors, body language, and sounds, then this article will help you find some answers. | Source

What Is My Cat Trying to Say?

Your cat speaks to you in so many different ways that sometimes, it’s hard to know what they are saying. To know where your cat is coming from, the first thing you should know is that your cat considers you to be their human, belonging to them in every respect—and all of their actions are based on that fact. So when your cat does something that angers you, keep in mind that they may be trying to tell you something.

This article will break down a whole bunch of commonly asked questions relating to why cats do what they do, what their body language indicates, and what they might be trying to communicate to you when they speak. Read on to finally figure out what your trusted feline friend might be trying to say to you.

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What Is Normal Cat Behavior?

Here are a handful of common questions relating to cats and their often puzzling behaviors, along with some answers that should help shed some light why they do what they do:

Why is my cat peeing or pooping in the house?

Overly full litter boxes can make your cat upset enough to leave smelly presents on your pillow or favorite chair as a hint—meaning it has been too long between cleanings and you need to step up to the plate. Cats like themselves and their environment to be clean. That’s why they are always cleaning themselves. Imagine how you would feel if you were a perfectionist about cleaning and had to walk over your own waste in order to relieve yourself. "Yuck" is putting it mildly.

Why does my cat clean itself right after I've pet it or picked it up?

If your cat cleans itself right after you pet it or pick it up, it could be due to a few reasons. They might be annoyed that you touched them, for whatever reason, and they are cleaning off the scent—in most instances, that is an insult to you.

It is also possible that you have a scent on you that they do not like. The scent could be perfume, lotion, or even another cat you might have petted. Be aware that strong smells of perfumed items can actually anger a cat. If they ingest a lot of it, it could also make them sick. So if you have cats, keep your arsenal of perfumed items for those special nights and be sure to wash them off before cuddling Fluffy.

Why does my cat reach a paw out to me?

Your cat might reach for you with a paw, claws in or out, to indicate a desire for attention. Or, maybe, they might purposely lie down in your way for attention. They might sit on something they know is off-limits to gain your attention. Cats like their attention, but they also like their toys. If you don't give them several, they might use you or your things instead.

Why has my cat's behavior suddenly changed after many years?

As cats get older, sometimes their personalities change. Some cats that start out rambunctious and generally averse to snuggling eventually soften up over the years and turn into super cuddly lap animals that want to be around you all the time. These kinds of gradual changes are totally natural and not all that different from the sorts of changes that humans experience throughout their lives.

If such a shift happens very suddenly and in a fairly unexpected way, however, that might point to a deeper problem with your feline friend. For instance, if they are generally an independent kind of cat but then out of nowhere want to be by your side at all times, that could indicate that they are sick and fearful of being left alone in their weakened state. If you notice a change that seems curiously abrupt and bizarre, it's best to take them into the vet for a check-up to see if anything is wrong.

Sudden Changes May Indicate Something's Wrong

If you notice that your cat is suddenly behaving suspiciously out of character and acting strange, you may want to have them checked out by a vet. Gradual changes are totally normal, but drastic shifts in behavior or personality can sometimes point to bigger problems.

Why is my cat extending its claws?

A cat will extend its claws for many different things, such as to kneed. (When they are content, they might put their paws out, claws extended, and then pull them in rhythmically, which is how they get their mother’s milk to flow.)

A cat might also extend its claws in anger or fear. Claws are also extended for cleaning purposes or scratching, which can mean several things, such as ownership, sharpening claws for a fight, or dominance. Claws can be removed, but please try to refrain from doing this. Instead, you can set up a weekly routine of trimming their claws, and give them plenty of things to scratch.

Why does my cat rub up against me?

Cats will touch you and your things, pee on you or your things (otherwise known as marking), or rub against you or something you own in order to let other cats in the area know that you are theirs. Yup, when they lovingly rub their face against your face, they are leaving their scent all over you. Cats will generally mark a new home to override the scent of another cat. Fixed cats may also mark if the scent is strong or reeks of a full male. Those cat nostrils are so strong that they can pick up a scent from miles away—just like a hound dog, only with less noise.

You also assume a similar answer to the related question of: "Why does my cat put its paw on me?" That is, it's usually just another way of communicating affection. While it isn't always that simple, when your cat does this, it is more often than not displaying its level of comfortability with you.

Cat Behavior Explained

Behavior
Meaning
Pees or poops in your house (despite being litter trained)
Its litter may be full, and it wants you to clean it. Also done to mark its territory and communicate ownership to other cats.
Cleans itself after you pet it
You may have a scent on you (perfumes/other cats) that it wants to remove from its body.
Lies down on your stuff while you're trying to do something
It wants attention and is tired of being ignored.
Extends its claws
It could just be for kneading. It could also be out of fear or anger. Or a more practical reason like for scratching or cleaning.
Rubs up against you
It's rubbing its scent on you and marking you as its own. Also sometimes done to demand attention.
Brings you dead animals
Done as a gift to you, since it sees itself as your owner. Also done to display strength and hunting prowess.
Looks at you before it goes to sleep
Checking to make sure you're looking out for it, as it will soon be vulnerable and seeks your protection while sleeping.

Why does my cat bring me dead animals?

Cats, remember, believe that they own you. And to do a proper job, they must feed you. That is why outside cats will often kill an animal and leave it as a gift on your window or doorstep. As horrid as this may seem to you, it is perfectly natural for your cat.

Another reason for leaving little "gifts" is to show you that they are strong and capable. I have seen cats leave snakes, rats, and even squirrels as gifts. Oh, and just so you know, if you throw the gift away, your cat may be hurt by your actions. If you must—and most of us do—place it in several bags and then bury it in the trash can.

Why does my cat look at me a bunch of times before it goes to sleep?

Your cat is most likely checking to make sure you're still there. It's trying to indicate to you that it's about to sleep and thus will be vulnerable to attack. It wants to make sure you know to protect it and keep an eye out for any predators.

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How Do You Tell If a Cat Likes You?

Here's some useful information to help explain what some of your cat's body language might indicate:

What do my cat's tail movements mean?

When a cat walks with their tail straight up, it means that they are relaxed, confident, and want to be noticed. If you don’t notice fast enough, they might get directly underfoot and swirl from one leg to the other. Of course, it is worse if you have something they want, like canned food or milk. They will start to yell if you aren't forthcoming or fast enough for them.

When a cat walks with their tail between their legs, it is a sign that they are afraid of something or might be submitting to a more dominant cat or human. They might also roll over and offer their belly to a dominant cat to show that they are not contesting the dominance. If a cat offers their belly to you, they are telling you that they submit to your dominance. But don’t let that fool you, because they still believe they own you.

If a cat walks with its tail down and dragging, it is trying to be hidden or unnoticed. If that behavior lasts for longer than a day, you might want to take the cat to the vet for a bit of a check-up. A cat might also lay its tail on something showing possession, or flick its tail at something that angers it. They often flick their tail to warn you that you are getting on their nerves, and you probably should stop—or the claws will come out.

A cat that is upset will not only hiss, but their tail will become the biggest bristled bottle brush you have ever seen. Be wary and don't attempt to comfort your cat when they are upset. An upset cat doesn't know the difference and might bite or scratch you in "defense."

Cat Tail Movements Explained

Tail Position
Meaning
Tail straight up
Relaxed, confident, looking for attention.
Tail between its legs
Afraid, cautious, submissive.
Tail down and dragging
Trying to be hidden and unnoticed. (Could indicate pain or other discomfort. See a vet if this persists.)
Tail bristled and flicking
Upset, aggressive, and potentially about to attack.

What do my cat's ear movements mean?

When a cat lays back its ears, it usually means that it's upset and might attack. When they cock one ear to the side, it’s like someone raising an eyebrow or looking at you like you have three heads. When they bring both ears hard forward, they are trying to hear what is being said to them or perhaps trying to make out a distant sound (or another cat in the area).

But if your cat's ears are forward but relaxed, then it is at ease, potentially aware of its surroundings but not necessarily on alert or scared.

What do my cat's eye movements mean?

You can actually tell a good amount about how your cat is feeling by watching their eyes. If their eyes are barely open or fully closed, they are relaxed and either preparing to sleep or just enjoying your company and a good lounge. In fact, that familiar sight of seeing your cat look at you and slowly blink its eyes is a clear sign of affection and often referred to as "kitty kisses."

If their eyes are narrowed but not in a lazy way, they are most likely alert and focused. They may even be scared or aggressive. So look out for other body language clues to help further indicate how they're feeling.

But if their eyes are fully open and wide, they are almost certainly on high alert and potentially trying to find out if they are in danger. Similarly, wide pupils can also indicate high interest and focus or excitement, potentially pointing to them being fearful or aggressive. Look for other clues to help decipher what they're thinking.

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What Is My Cat Trying to Tell Me?

Here are a few explanations for some of the sounds your cat might make for you and what they might be trying to tell you:

Why does my cat meow at me?

Did you know that when your cat meows at you, it is really just calling your attention to something? Perhaps you forgot breakfast or the litter box is full. Or they might just be calling another cat to play. Though since cats rarely meow at other cats, if you hear yours making distinct meows in your general direction, those sounds are probably intended for your ears.

They might meow to go out or to come in. They might meow to tell you that you need a lap cat today, or they might be thinking that you have been working too hard and need a break. (Cats have a way of insinuating themselves in such a way as to coax you into believing that you actually came up with a particular idea.)

Note: If your cat is meowing at you more than usual (and perhaps in a slightly louder or more aggressive tone), it's a good idea to follow them and see if they lead you somewhere. This repeated meowing can help them let you know that they need more food, that the litter is full and needs to be cleaned, or sometimes even more drastic matters, such as the fact that maybe they just had kittens and want you to help protect them.

Cat Verbal Communication Explained

Verbal Queue
Meaning
Meowing
Usually done to communicate it wants you to notice something, such as an empty food bowl, a full litter, or something it wants you to see (in which case, you should try following it).
Purring
An involuntary response that indicates comfort and affection. A good sign that it's pleased with whatever you're doing.
Hissing
Indicates fear or aggression. You should probably take a step back when they do this.

Why does my cat purr at me?

When cats are happy with you, they purr when you pet them or cuddle them. A cat's purr is involuntary. They hear their mother purring when she is feeding and cleaning them and soon add their own voice when they are happy or content.

Oh, and don't get upset if your cat is purring but also simultaneously trying to get away from you. Generally, it means that they like you and want to be petted, but they were busy and you interrupted them.

Note: If you want to communicate back to your cat that you love them, then petting them on the head or on the cheeks is a good way to do so. Similarly, when a cat touches the top of their head to you, they are saying they love and trust you.

Why does my cat hiss at me?

Naturally, hissing indicates fear or aggression. The cat is essentially demanding that you back away and leave it alone. Even cats that deeply love you can do this from time to time, sometimes just because they want some space to themselves for a while. Or perhaps you pet them in a spot where they're sore and they want you to stop doing so.

Unsurprisingly, hissing is such a clear message that it actually works both ways. So if you want your cat to stop doing something—like biting you too hard, for instance—you can hiss at them a little. They'll most likely get the message.

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Does Your Cat Feel Insulted?

When a cat turns its back on you and flicks its tail, watch out! It's ticked off and ready to fight if you persist in whatever it is you’re doing. Under most instances, they will walk away feeling their message has been understood. However, they might just decide that this is the last straw and decide to fight back.

What's the best way to end an agitated cat attack? Stop and cry out—loudly. In cat language, an attack between two generally friendly participants ends immediately after one of them cries out in pain. Also, by holding still until they let go, you are saving yourself long deep cuts that could occur through pulling away from them.

It's also worth noting that a cat can feel insulted for many different reasons, including:

  • You took their chair.
  • You are sitting on their blanket.
  • You splashed them while washing your hands.
  • You have bought the generic food again.
  • You gave them a bath.
  • You took them to the vet.
  • You left them with a bunch of kids.
  • You didn't get the good litter.
  • You forgot to greet them when you came in the house.
  • You didn't go looking for them if they weren't at the door waiting for you.
  • You didn't change the water today.
  • You put glassware on their favorite shelf, and it fell off when they tried to lie down.
  • You had the nerve to bring in fish and then hide it behind a solid wall.

Note: Cats can also be insulted even if you didn't do anything that you can understand. They are quite fickle that way.

Signs That Your Cat Might Be Sick

In general, your cats' behaviors—as puzzling as they might sometimes be to you—are often just part of who they are and how they express themselves, and thus shouldn't be cause of too much worry on your part. There are, however, a few indicators that might point to your poor feline potentially feeling a bit under the weather and/or in need of some medical attention.

Here are some important signs to watch out for:

  • Excessive licking, chewing, or scratching: Of course, these are all part of normal cat behavior and critical parts of their totally healthy self-maintenance. But if you notice that your cat has been doing one or more of these at an alarmingly higher rate than usual, it could mean that they are suffering from ticks, fleas, or parasites. So it would be a good idea to check to see if you can spot any of them in your feline's fur. Additionally, if you notice any significant hair loss or breaking of the skin, have them get checked out by a vet.
  • Vomiting or diarrhea: This is another one that does unfortunately happen periodically and isn't always a cause for concern. But if your cat begins doing it a lot in a short amount of time, it could mean that they've ingested something toxic or are experiencing other digestion problems. If it lasts for more than a day—or if abdominal swelling and pain are apparent—take them in to see a vet right away.
  • Different, strong odors: If you notice any new, pungent odors coming from your cat, it might be a good idea to take them in to get checked out. Often times, strange new smells indicate infections, ulcers, and other ailments that need to be treated as soon as possible. Even odors that aren't necessarily "bad"—such as a sweet, fruity smell—can occasionally be warning signs of serious illnesses like diabetes. So if you notice any weird new smells coming from your cat that you can't identify, it's probably best to have a veterinary professional take a look.
  • Cat flu: Much like humans, cats can occasionally contract a form of that pesky flu virus. This typically results familiar flu symptoms like watery eyes, a runny nose, and profuse sneezing. If you notice these symptoms, you can attempt to help your cat feel better by cleaning the mucus off their eyes and nose with a cotton ball or damp washcloth, making sure they eat enough food, and repeatedly checking to ensure that they are breathing normally. If you find the latter to be strained and/or they don't seem to be getting better, take them in to a vet to be checked out.

My Wonderful Furry Friends

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Salty: "Hey, where'd you put my toys?"Dakota: "But my stocking is so much smaller than yours! *Sigh*"Mittens: "I know you are in there, I can smell you!"Shadow: "How come I can see them, but I can't touch them?"Tigger: "Did you want me for something?"Cocoa: "It is time to stop all this work stuff."Louie, age 15, still living it up.
Salty: "Hey, where'd you put my toys?"
Salty: "Hey, where'd you put my toys?" | Source
Dakota: "But my stocking is so much smaller than yours! *Sigh*"
Dakota: "But my stocking is so much smaller than yours! *Sigh*" | Source
Mittens: "I know you are in there, I can smell you!"
Mittens: "I know you are in there, I can smell you!" | Source
Shadow: "How come I can see them, but I can't touch them?"
Shadow: "How come I can see them, but I can't touch them?" | Source
Tigger: "Did you want me for something?"
Tigger: "Did you want me for something?" | Source
Cocoa: "It is time to stop all this work stuff."
Cocoa: "It is time to stop all this work stuff." | Source
Louie, age 15, still living it up.
Louie, age 15, still living it up. | Source

Strays

Stray cats can be brought inside, but you should always follow general common sense and the following:

  • Strays need quiet time before you introduce them to the other cats.
  • Litter boxes and sleeping beds should be periodically switched so all of the cats can smell each other.
  • Be sure to remain close once you do introduce them in case they aren't quite ready to be friendly.
  • Remember to get strays checked by a vet before you take them in and expose them to your other cats to protect your cats from serious illnesses like Feline Leukemia.
  • It is best to have a stray dog taken by a professional and checked for behavioral problems (as well as illnesses) before taking them into your home.

Common Sense

Many questions owners often ask about cats, can be answered by taking a common sense approach. Just think of your cat as a permanent guest in your home and a lot will then be explained.

  • Guests often do things differently. They might eat at different times, clean differently or stay up all night. This helps you to better understand your cat who has very differently behaviors.
  • When behavior changes drastically, look for a cause such as a change in home life like you got a new dog or someone new moved in with you.
  • If the cat doesn't use the litter box try to think of why. Is the side too high for my elderly cat; are my two cats fighting each other over the litter box usage or maybe the toddler goes after the cat every time he gets into the box.
  • If your cat pees everywhere, try to see the outside and inside of your home as he would. Since scent is how they mark their safe territory, a cat will pee as close to where the outside cat peed as they can, generally on your bed or the rug if that's against the outside wall.
  • If your cat meows a lot, try to think about who he might be calling. Sometimes it is just to get your attention, and sometimes it is something he lost outside. Yes, cats do grieve for their close friends and/or mates.

Using Common Sense can make it so much easier to figure out what your cat is trying to tell you.

Pay Attention to the Signals Your Cat Is Sending You

They might be trying to tell you something, and it might be important—or at least it is to them. Learn the unique ways your cat communicates with you. Each cat is different and has its own personality, so their communication might be different. Keep this in mind, and they will eventually let you know.

If you're looking for additional information on what your cat might be trying to tell you, consider checking out these other great PetHelpful articles:

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. It is not meant to substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, or formal and individualized advice from a veterinary medical professional. Animals exhibiting signs and symptoms of distress should be seen by a veterinarian immediately.

Questions & Answers

  • My cat is meowing at me constantly, and then she grabs some part of my hand and drags me to a closet. When I looked, there was nothing in there. This has been going on for almost a week. What is she trying to tell me?

    Your cat may be trying to tell you that she is going to have kittens, and that is her choice spot, so get it fixed up for her. If she is fixed, then that is obviously not the case. Or, she may be trying to tell you that an outside creature has been napping in there - check for feces or urine in the area. She might just be trying to tell you she wants to have access because it is her favorite spot. Try leaving the door open to see if she sleeps in there a lot.

  • When my cat is lying down to sleep, he always turns his head and looks at me. Then he'll go back to sleep for a few seconds and look at me again. This happens at least four times before he falls asleep. What does this mean?

    Cats like to know they are safe and secure. Your cat may be just trying to ensure you are still near him so he can be safe while sleeping. He might also be checking to see if you have moved and thus changed the 'playing field.' It is nothing to worry about, unless you think his eccentricity is dangerous (I wouldn't).

  • I'm trying to find the answer for when a kitten is meowing and purring a lot while getting all in my face and rubbing and licking my face. Like she sniffs me and gets super close, I don't know what she wants when she does this. She just walks all over my body meowing at me and rubbing her body all over me and stuff, what could it mean from a kitten? She also grabs my hand and starts licking/nibbling my fingernail/tip.

    First I will tell you that the rubbing is her way of putting her scent all over you. This is something all cats do, even kittens. The meowing could be her way of letting you know she wants to be close to you or it could mean you have not given her enough attention. Cats, especially kittens, need lots of love and a great deal of play time. As for the licking and nibbling, many cats do that. I have one that is ten and still sucks on my little finger. Some say it means the cat was taken from mom too soon, but I disagree. I believe it is just something some cats like to do.

  • My cat is a two-year-old rescue tabby. He is huge and overweight, but has the mildest temper I have ever seen in a cat. He is not a cuddler, and seems uncomfortable if petting goes on too long. He comes around every few minutes and checks on me. He doesn't want pets, he wants acknowledgment and to scent mark me on a finger. What does he want from me, and how can I make him feel at ease?

    Rescues are generally not used to the gentle touch of a human being. He may be wondering if you intend to keep him and then kick him out (so to speak). Be patient and show him as much love as you can. Also, try playing with him. It will help with his weight and help him become more comfortable with you.

  • My new kitten will always scratch me when I try to pet her. How do I tell her scratching is not allowed and how do I stop her? ( I’ve already tried cutting her nails, but she can still scratch me somehow.)

    Kittens will naturally try to play because it is how they learn to hunt and defend themselves. Try using plenty of toys and lots of scratching posts to redirect her scratching tendencies. Also, try getting her interested in something else like a play aquarium or a shelf in a window.

© 2011 Cheryl Simonds

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      Amber 

      12 days ago

      Me (14) and my cat (13) always used to snuggle up together. He used to follow me to the bathroom, go straight into my room and on my bed when he'd come upstairs, sleep on my pillow and more but now he's only ever in my room for biscuits or when I have to have him in my room because the dog (2) does not get along well with cats and then he will scratch and meow at my door until I let him out. He is always on the landing or in my brothers room. I've game him space, made his own section for him, made sure the room is cool enough, put his biscuits and water out. He will still follow me downstairs but only because he thinks its his dinner. Why is he not close with me? Is it because I give his sisters attention too? Have I annoyed him? Is it still too hot? He was recently ill and because he is old it gave me a fright and I want to spend time with him. My brother doesn't even give him attention? He tells his friends he's 'fat'. Have I done something? This has happened since beginning of uk lockdown in march. His name is Jack by the way. Thank you.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 weeks ago from Connecticut

      This can be due to the dressing situation as stated above. There isn't much you can do except encourage her and let her know she isn't in trouble. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 weeks ago from Connecticut

      Cats can be very unique in their behaviors so I can't be sure; however, I think she might be wanting to sit at the areas where you work most because your scent is there. The waiting across the hall could be that she is not sure if she is welcome in that particular room when you are dressing. The playing can be due to the weather outside and her growing older. Most cats at that age are learning to hunt and protect themselves against predators. Your cat doesn't need that training so she is bored. Try different types of toys with different feels and scents. Also, try giving her plenty of window space to watch birds and such. Another thing you can do is make sure she has plenty of places to climb. This will give her exercise as well as a birds eye view of the house. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Aki 

      3 weeks ago

      Forgot mention that once I have finished changing, my cat will either join me in the bedroom or follow me when I leave it.

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      Aki 

      3 weeks ago

      I live alone and adopted a female kitty about three months ago. She's 15-months-old and has more or less begun to settle in her new home. She's been fixed and is the only pet in my household.

      There're a couple of habits she does that I'm to decipher. Firstly, I regularly use my laptop at the coffee table and do model making at my folding table, but she frequently sits under them whenever I'm not using them. The second is whenever I go to my room to change clothes she always sits outside the bedroom door opposite my room. (Both doors are always open.)

      Also, she's not big on toys but she used to love playing with the laser pointer and wand with a mouse attachment, to the point she will roll side-to-side on her back. Weather has been chilly for the past month and during this time she seems semi-interested in playing and after a few minutes will either walk away or lie down.

      Not sure what to make of these behaviours.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      4 weeks ago from Connecticut

      Hi Cheyenne, your cat could be acting out of loneliness or fear, or a combination of both. Cats tend to demand attention on their own terms and will leave when they are ready. But, if they have been alone a lot lately, and have little to do while you are gone, they can get demanding. Try making sure she has a cat TV (like an aquarium or window to look out of) and plenty of places where she can get high up (shelves on walls work well). Interactive feeding bowls and toys also work to wear your cat out so that she sleeps with you more. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Cheyenne Ruiz 

      4 weeks ago

      Hello! I was wondering if you knew what it meant when my 3 yr old will meow at me constantly until i get on the floor w her, most times to pet her for a little but then after she’ll sit near me and doesn’t want to be close to me but i can still pet her if i went over to her. and then she’ll be all over me again. But if i get up she will start meowing again until i get on the floor. she will get on the bed/couches w me occasionally.maybe once a week ish give or take. she’ll get on the bed w me more often if i’m working less and home more. (she used to sleep with me every night until she was like 1 1/2 and then she just stopped) sometimes lll put her on there with me when she’s meowing so i don’t have to get down but she’ll jump off immediately and keep meowing. do you happen to have a theory why? thank you !!!

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      5 weeks ago from Connecticut

      Unfortunately, many feral cats will display unusual behaviors until they feel comfortable in the environment. It sounds like he is moving forward, he just needs time. I always suggest that you allow him to come to you. Once he knows you are not going to chase him and that the treats are not being thrown at him, he should begin to calm down. In fact, it sounds like he has already started. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      HeatherJA 

      5 weeks ago

      Hi, I have a semi-feral that I took in a while ago. He is very very talkative - he murrs, purrs, chatters, yowls, and everything in between. However, he will *not* let me come close to him. Even after 8 months, the closest I can get is about 3 feet; but he's fine with my other two cats. They play and he plays with all the toys. I can toss him treats, and he'll usually hiss at me (but without ears flat or anything, just hiss), and then eat them.

      However, the odd part is - at night, if I sleep in my bedroom, I'll find that he will come into the bedroom and get up on the dresser, and go to sleep on there; or if I'm on the couch, he'll fall asleep on the couch next to me.

      I can't figure this out, because if I just walk by the room he's in, like 10 seconds later, he'll come scrambling out of there to run behind the couch again (even if I didn't know he was in the other room). So it's one of those,... I've had cats all my life, how do I even interpret his behavior half the time?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      5 weeks ago from Connecticut

      Kittens require a lot of attention, and most of them have some type of quirky behavior. The kitten wants to play, which they like to do all the time. I suggest a few things for you. One, beds for each cat and beds in the crates for the dogs. This will put specific scents on each one giving them a home with their scent. Next, I would give them something to watch during the day or night. A clear window showing the world go by or an enclosed aquarium. Also, give them treat puzzles to keep them busy. High places for them to escape each other is also a good idea. I hope this advice helps, Cheryl.

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      Mimi-Cat-Love214 

      6 weeks ago

      My 3 month old kitten has been waking me up for the past 2 weeks by prying my mouth open! I move my head around but she doesn’t stop. This relentless behavior happens around 5am, lasts about 10-15 minutes. I’ve had to raise my voice to tell her to stop. Then she eventually stops. I don’t feed them in the morning until 7:30am to 8am when I let my dogs out of their crates. So she knows our schedule/routine. I use to play w/ her and my other 2 cats at night about 9pm-10pm depending on where they are in my house. Lately I can’t find where they’re hiding or I can’t stop them from chasing each other!! So I end up falling asleep. Any and all advice is much appreciated!!

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      6 weeks ago from Connecticut

      It sounds like you are doing very well on your own. She may be suffering from a type of PTSD from previous owners and the best way to deal with that is to give her space and let her come to you. She will eventually relax and learn that you are not going to hurt her. Try making sure she has a high area where she can go and observe you from a distance, this often calms them down to see how you are without her at your feet. A window seat can show her the outside without fear (keep those windows closed or screened for safety). Good Luck, I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Mikki 

      6 weeks ago

      Hello! I recently (about a week ago) adopted an indoor 2 year old cat who had previously been adopted and returned to the shelter a number of times. I know that this has most likely caused her a lot of stress which is resulting in a lot of weird behaviors. I would really like some advice on what to do to make her feel more at ease. Sometimes she'll be extremely affectionate, she'll rub up against me then lay on chest and purr. She even decides to sleep with me each night. Other times she'll suddenly act like she's never seen me before and become extremely terrified, her tail becomes fluffed and she arches her back while looking at me and then bolts around the room. I've never hit her (and never will), and I've never accidentally stepped on her tail. Sometimes if she attacks me aggressively I'll tell her no and clap my hands once, but otherwise I never show any aggression towards her. Most times her fear/anxiety seems unprompted. I went to my kitchen to get some iced tea and when i walked back to my office she was looking at me like I was a ghost. Tail all fluffed and back arched, I'm not sure what I did to prompt this from her. I make sure to give her as much play as she wants, I don't force her to do anything she doesn't want to. I think she may have some bad memories with some of the toys the shelter had given her because she will go after my hands instead of the toy in my hand, but this reaction isn't with all of them. I'm working to replace her toys bit by bit, I don't want to shock her with a bunch of new things immediately. I try to lay with her on the floor with my eyes closed for about 20 mins a day to show her that she can trust me. This is her forever home and I want to make her feel as safe and as comfortable as possible, but I'm not sure what to do to help with the mood changes. I'm hoping that over time she'll become more and more comfortable and no longer be nervous or afraid. Do you have any advice?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      7 weeks ago from Connecticut

      Your cat is suffering from PTSD. You left her without you for two weeks, then moved and took her to a new environment inside and out. Then you left her outside where she has to fight to survive. You have also betrayed your cat by trying to kick her out while under attack. To help with this situation, you might want to set up a cat outdoor yard which will protect her while outside. Also, try interacting with her in fun ways like treats for tricks and stick toys. Be sure she has lots of places to climb and rest above everyone. This might actually keep her inside more. The aggression should slow as you spend more time with her. Lastly, be patient with her, she needs your love now more than ever. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Faridah Ismail 

      7 weeks ago

      My cat has been behaving strangely, she might just see you sitting or doing something and then comes at you and bite you in an aggressive way, I think she's possessed, coz we left her for about 2wks, then came back and moved to our family house, and behaviour has bn really disturbing, she became harsher, making really weird meows and noises than normal, so we leave her to stay out, then she leaves d house and comes back at night, this has been going on for 2 days now, this midnight we saw her by the window trying to come in through the ner window, we tried to push her back out, suddenly we saw another car sitting outside, looking straight at us in a pretty strange way, not moving and then suddenly our cat seemed scared of the other car..... I'm really scared, i don't know what to do, is she really possessed or what, pls help me

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 months ago from Connecticut

      Most likely your cat seeks attention from you. She is wanting play or pets. Cats need to be active. If there isn't enough to stimulate her, she will use you and anything she can reach in your house, just like a toddler would do. When offering pets, be sure to touch belly and tail slowly, even if she offers them. If she pulls from you or tries to slap you with her paw, she is saying hands off. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Sophia Thompson 

      2 months ago

      Every time I walk toward my cat, she just lays her self on the floor and meows. Please help me, I’d ont know if it mean that she wants to play or something?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 months ago from Connecticut

      As cats get older, they do tend to cling to the one who cares for them. It could be that they feel they are now getting too old to care for themselves, or simply because they have always counted on your for their care. The accidents are most likely because of their age. Many can no longer climb into the larger boxes because of arthritis, and many have bladder issues because of crystals in their urethra. You might want to get them checked out and maybe cut down the side of their litter box to make it easier for them to climb into the box. Also, try feeding them food for the older generation to help with their digestion. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Bridget KieasFecyk 

      2 months ago

      My cats, both of them are getting very clingy. No matter where I go, they both have to be with me, laying on me or pawing at me for attention. They don't do this to my husband so much. I clean their boxes every single day, but I still find occasional messes on the floor, but NEVER in my office. And if I'm sitting with him in the living room, both are right there, but the moment I go to my office, both will ditch him and follow me to my office. I normally wouldn't mind, but it can be quite annoying when they're clinging and demanding attention when I'm working. And the occasional messes on the floor, especially since I do the boxes every day, sometimes twice a day, is getting really annoying. Their ages are 14 and 11.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 months ago from Connecticut

      Your cat is most likely going through the hormonal changes of growing up. She was feeling you were mommy. Now you are not really what she wants as she learns to be grown-up. My advice is to play with her and offer her comfort, but don't push it. She will come back when she is ready. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Marise 

      2 months ago

      My cat has been very affectionate since I got her at 3 months. She always slept with me til a few weeks ago. She is 16 months old now and wants nothing to do with me. It's breaking my heart. I don't know why or what to do. Any ideas??

      Signed

      Crying myself to sleep..

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      If this is not her usual behavior, I would get her checked out. She may have something wrong with her eyes or neurological issues developing. It may be life threatening depending upon what it is; however, it could just be that she is getting bored and wants something else to do. Check with the vet first. If she is still doing this, try new toys or routines. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Sophiapuspus 

      3 months ago

      My cat is about four years old. Last couple of days, she has been “batting” a couple of things. I have a cover over a chair and she batts at it. A blanket on another chair, and she is batting that too. Today, I had a shirt hanging over a chair and she did the same thing. Does this mean anything?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      Nova, for your first question about spraying. Males get crystals in their urinary tract when they have been fixed. It is painful for them to pee, and sometimes they pee where they smell you because they are trying to get you to pay attention. For this, I would take him to a vet. The crystals will eventually block him completely and he will die. Also, check your routes outdoors. He may be smelling another cat and is marking his territory so they know to stay away. Second: the tail issue can be directly related to the crystals. Third: you are most likely correct, but I think it might be the sound rather than the feel. Plus, your bed doesn't smell of you like it did, which could also explain this behavior. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Nova Rose 

      3 months ago

      So, I have a couple questions that hopefully you can answer. 1. I have a male cat (who is fixed) and he sprays my clothes all the time. Hanging, in the laundry basket, doesn't matter where, if he can reach it, he pees on in. I used to have other cats but sadly had to get rid of all except him, so there are no other cats present for him to be territorial right? (I've had him for well over 10 years now. 2. He always used to love the top of his back right by his tail getting scratched but now he doesn't, is that just him being finicky or is it something I need to worry about and 3. He almost always was on my bed day and night, almost 24/7 unless he wanted to adventure outside (he's an indoor-outdoor cat), or wants to eat, but now, ever since I put a mattress pad on my bed, he never comes and chills out on my bed anymore and it's kind of sad because that would always be our chill/hang out time... Is it because he doesn't like the texture/feeling of the mattress pad or..? Thanks for the help!

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      I believe you are describing an infection in the mammary glands of your cat. This can be deadly for the kittens who cannot feed, or might ingest the infected milk. Also, the mother can die of the infection. Though I can't guarantee that this is the problem, I would get your cat to the vet as soon as possible, just in case. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Nicole Mckenzie 

      3 months ago

      My cat had a kittens a week ago, she leaves them for longer periods now maybe too long but we try to encourage her to go back to them, she has also started being more affectionate towards me by lying on her back wanting tummy rubs and waiting by the door for me when I’m out. Is this ok behaviour?? Thanks xx

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      Awww, that sounds so sweet. I love kittens.

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      Someone 

      3 months ago

      My cat just had babies, it was so cute

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      Thank you for your compliment. I am glad my article has helped so many find out what their cat is saying.

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      Stella Stivachtari 

      3 months ago from Thessaloniki, Greece

      Very helpful, thank you!

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      A pregnant female cat will have a very swollen tummy and her mammary glands will be swollen and, in some cases, they will drip milk. Be sure to have a warm dry place out of the way for her to keep her kittens safe once they are born.

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      lilly sanders 

      3 months ago

      How can I tell if my cats is going to have kittens?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      4 months ago from Connecticut

      Cats live by scent and you may have picked up something he was trying to mask when you walked away. If the scent was of an unfixed cat, he would react in such a way. Also, remember that cats smell things that we cannot. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Coco 

      4 months ago

      I was walking to my friends hoise and there was a girnger cat looking and me and rubbing his fur on me and meowing. When i tried to walk away he followed me and was hissing!! But why......

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      5 months ago from Connecticut

      Cats are patient animals and you have to be patient with them, especially if they have not been in an environment like yours before. Let him come to you. He will let you know when he is feeling more comfortable and will welcome attention. But don't let his behavior throw you off, because he is simply not used to you yet. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      kat 

      5 months ago

      I sometimes lay near my cat (5 years old, lived on a farm for five years as a stray and we have now adopted him) when i lay near him, not too close, he sometimes just ups and leaves.. I'm trying to bond with him, he eats, drinks, plays but mostly hides and isnt keen on any sort of touch. What more can i do if anything?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      6 months ago from Connecticut

      Yes, but it also means she doesn't have enough to keep her occupied. Try putting up shelves that she can climb to get above the doors and move around the room using the shelves. This will give her a chance to work off a lot of energy without scratching walls or your daughter. Also, try playing with your kitten on a regular schedule. Play until you have worn her out. This will slow down unwanted activity and keep your cat from getting bored. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Stacy 

      6 months ago

      I'd love to know why my 5month old kitten bolts through the house from room to room, back and forth and literally tries to climb the walls, mostly around door ways or edges of two walls for up to an hour at a time, and up to three times a day, everyday.

      She also follows my 3yo daughter around, when in this mood, and basically attacks her, seemingly to play, but always ends up scratching her.

      Is all this simply because she's a healthy energetic kitten??

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      7 months ago from Connecticut

      Cats suffer in silence but their behaviors can tell us when something is wrong. Have them both checked out to see if something is wrong. If they are well, ask for the plug in that helps calm the cats. And if they are not fixed, get them fixed to reduce their hormonal reactions to each other. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      7 months ago from Connecticut

      Aimee, like us, cats have likes and dislikes. If you know she doesn't like to be petted in a certain area, then avoid it. Also there are a lot of cats that do not want to sit on the lap of anyone. This can change as they get older because your lap is warm and helps with any joint aches they may have, but don't push it. Letting the cat come to you is the best way to do it. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Daniela 

      7 months ago

      My female cat always would like to be touched and she would always play with my other cat they were like bestfriends but ever since yesterday she started to be mean to him and she doesn't want anyone to touch her or she doesn't want any cat near her why is she acting this way now?

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      Aimee 

      7 months ago

      Hiya, My cat has been skittish since the day she was born however has gotten better over the years, she still doesn’t like being picked up. Whenever I stroke her she puts her bum down as if she doesn’t like it or runs away. It makes me really sad. Sometimes when she is on my bed she will let me stroke her, purr and show me her belly but has never sat on my lap or got too close to my face. I know she is probably just unique but I feel like it’s more than that :( I feel as though she doesn’t like anyone only her food.

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      Gamer-Chick 

      7 months ago

      When my cat starts to bite and scratch me, just then to start licking my finger.What does this mean?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      8 months ago from Connecticut

      When you try to pick up your cat, you are actually frightening him/her. Cats judge their safety level by scents and if you don't live with the cat he/she might not feel comfortable in your presence. Try playing with the cat from a distance; offering treats; speaking softly to them so they get used to your voice; and wash your hands often to avoid the scents of other cats. Even if you don't touch another cat, you can often brush against something that another cat has touched. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      8 months ago from Connecticut

      It could be that your cat is reacting to your mother as in intrusion to his home base. She could have brushed against a bush or an item that has been sprayed by another male, or a female in heat. This is especially true if your mother has an unfixed male or female in heat in her home. If your cat is not fixed, that is the first step. Then, have your mother wash her hands when she enters the home. Also, you mother could spray her clothing with something that will add a scent to them. This might cover the odor enough to stop the behavior. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Marmar 

      8 months ago

      When i tryy to pick up ky cat which i dont live with it lays down almost about swat at me

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      Beth 

      8 months ago

      My male cat does not like my mother when she comes over my cat will hiss and swat at

      her why?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      9 months ago from Connecticut

      It is hard to say. Cats can be afraid of things they don't understand, so that is possible. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Keira 

      9 months ago

      My cat is 6 years old and she as been very adventurous and inderpendant her whole life but we were watching tv last night and she was suddenly all over us, hiding under the blanket and sitting on our laps is she scared because of some early fireworks ?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      9 months ago from Connecticut

      Just like toddlers with a pacifier, cats have a need for comfort. The blanket may be his answer to that. Just keep it for him either on the bed or in his bed. Try not to use it for anything else. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Sara 

      9 months ago

      My kitten moews none stop until I get him a fluffy blanket and place it on the bed for his to kneed and suck on once his done with the blanket he finds somewhere on my bed to sleep frist time he ever done this

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      10 months ago from Connecticut

      Long haired cats will appreciate a cut in the summer or when it is very hot. They also like it when they can see what is in front of them instead of their fur. Part of the answer lies there, heat and seeing better. Don't try to understand it, however, just enjoy the sweetness. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Michelle I St.Marie 

      10 months ago

      I got my cat a hair cut

      And now she’s different,she won’t let you love her but she will come to you when she wants love ,I can’t pet or hold her until she wants it ,after the cut she’s super sweet and loving ,I can now hold her and touch her all I want ,as sweet as it is I wonder what happened and is she sad???

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      10 months ago from Connecticut

      Most likely it is habit. Or it could also be a comfortable position for her. I really wish our cats could tell us what they want or how they feel sometimes. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      katy 

      10 months ago

      my cat will sit like she is going to wash her bum but then just sit there with her legs to the side off the floor, it looks like she is posing for a photo. she was overweight and started doing it i think as she couldnt groom her bottom but now she can reach she still does it. could it be a habbit?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      11 months ago from Connecticut

      This could be a sign that something is wrong. Diabetes could be a cause, but I would be more concerned that the cat has crystals in his bladder that is causing this issue. I would get him to a vet as soon as possible because this issue can cause death if not treated. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Harry N Magnani 

      11 months ago

      I have 2 cats and one or both produces very sticky urine in their litter box.It has become more frequent in the last year. They are brothers (neutered) and 14 years old but apparently very healthy. Is this a sign of diabetes, or dehydration or what?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      12 months ago from Connecticut

      You might want to observe the interactions between your dog and your cat to see if the puppy is 'playing' too roughly and has injured the cat. Also, the older the cat is, the harder it is for their system to digest their fur when they clean. Plus, they can't always reach to properly clean themselves when they get older. I would take the cat to the vet before anything else, just to be sure everything is okay, then watch that puppy. You will have to start grooming your cat as well. Make sure your cat has plenty of places to get away from the dog (the higher the better) so she can have peace. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Carmen814 

      12 months ago

      My cat is 7 years old n has always taken care of her everyday maitenance she is long haired my husband and i just adopted a puppy weve had our puppy for 6 months now all of a sudden my cats fur is all mattered and shes shedding she usually sheds with the weather change but shes never been natted now her sides are looking like dreads n when i try to pet her on her sides she tries to scratch me what is causing this is she sick is she jealous i love her n my new puppy so much i want her to be happy still i feel like ive hurt her feelings by bringing in a new animal is this possible ? Should i bring her to the vet ?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      12 months ago from Connecticut

      Your cat is most likely trying to play. You can use toys on sticks to distract him and show him a different way to play. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      12 months ago

      my cat lays down next to me hugs my hands and licks them then rests its head on my hand but then starts kicking me with its feet all while hugging and licking me?

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      Kritta 

      12 months ago

      My family and I were recently away for an entire month. I left my grandkitty (my young son's cat) in care of a combination of extended family staying at our place for the first part and neighbours feeding her for another part with another animal loving friend coming as well, a few times, to give her affection. When we did get home, my grandkitty did this "jitter bug" kind of thing that really surprised me, before she let herself be picked up and full of purrs. I was actually expecting her to have a bad attitude twards us being away for so long. I've grown up with cats (I'm now 48), but I'd never seen such a "jitterbug" reaction before. Insight please and thank you in advance. Truly intrigued.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      12 months ago from Connecticut

      More than likely your cat has a bit of arthritis in his spine and the stretch puts pressure on that area. Most cats will continue to do so even if it hurts because they have an instinct to keep fit in case they have to flee. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      12 months ago from Connecticut

      Sadly, kittens born to an older cat can have development issues and may die shortly after birth. The mother cat wants them, but they die, so she adopts others who need help. On the other hand, some cats do not understand what has happened when they give birth and they might leave the kittens to die. Some will even kill their kittens right after birth. I cannot tell you which it is, but you might want to get her fixed to prevent further kittens. If you want her to continue to have kittens, a warm out-of-the-way area is best so the mother and the babies are comfortable for at least the first few days. Sadly, most kittens that are taken from their mother at birth will die. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Melissa 

      12 months ago

      My cat periodically arches his back and yelps, then he will act normal. He is 10 years old.

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      Priscilla 

      13 months ago

      My outdoor senior cat recently gave birth about a day ago in our garage, to 6 healthy kittens, but today when I found her she was in a new spot with only one kitten. To me, the other kittens look perfectly normal and healthy, and in her last pregnancy she also kept just one(which later died, but she took in 5 orphaned kittens later). And I have no idea if she's stressed or should she be left alone (because we use the garage for laundry and going to the backyard)or how to know if the other five babies are healthy and if they are, how can I get her to be with them.

      Thank you.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      13 months ago from Connecticut

      There could be several reasons why your cat is doing this. First: she could have an injury of some sort that is bothering her. She would bite and run if your petting touched that area and hurt her. Second: she might have a chemical in-balance that is causing her to behave that way. Third: she may be suffering from PTSD from her previous life. Four: she could have hormonal issues, especially if she is not fixed. A trip to the vet can fix all of these issues, or at least get you an answer. The only other thing I can think of is she might need to have climbing shelves to get up high for a bit where she can see everything and be left alone. I hope this helps you, Cheryl.

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      Marie Both 

      13 months ago

      Hi, I got my cat when she was about 3 weeks old. Her tail got broke by a truck running over it. I saved her, brought her home and kept her. She was lovable and always cuddled. As she got older she would let you pet her but then she would bite you and run off. I thought she would out grow this but it is only getting worse. One min she is nice and purring on you, the next min she is biting and clawing you. Then she runs off. Can you plz tell me what is wrong. I have tried everything, I bought her a bunch of toys, I got her treats she gets every day, I got her cat nip, her own bed. Nothing seems to work. I know it can’t be my other cat causing her to act like this. She was raised with her from the day I got her at 3 weeks. She will even attack her sometimes, or chases her out of the room. But then they will play together, and my oldest one kit will clean Winnie and she allows it. But then like I said Winnie will just turn mean for no reason.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      13 months ago from Connecticut

      Some cats like to get close to people who are afraid of them or don't like them. I can't be certain why except that many cats will get close to show their dominance (if you are afraid) or to get you to like them. Rather than running away from the cat, try just letting him do what he wants. You may have to put up with a rub or two, but by ignoring him, he will eventually move on and leave you alone. I hope that this helps, Cheryl.

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      Kailah 

      13 months ago

      Hi there, I was visiting my friends house and she has a deaf cat. I usually avoid this cat because I simply don’t like cats. One day I was sitting on the couch on my phone and the cat usually doesn’t really bother me, but today the cat started following me where ever I went. I started to slowly run away from it but that’s when I noticed it was coming for me. I got really nervous and locked myself in the bathroom until she put her cat up. So I’m really confused as to why all of the sudden the cat is suddenly coming at me.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      14 months ago from Connecticut

      Joz, the first thing you learn about cats is that they are independent, and each one has their own unique qualities. In your case, your cat may be asking you to play. A young cat, especially a Siamese, needs the play to stay fit and health as well as keeping them occupied. They also need their own furniture to keep them content. Try getting her a few beds, some scratching posts and/or cat trees. Be sure she has toys to play with as well. You will discover which toys she prefers very quickly. Siamese like to look outside a lot, so make sure she has a window seat. Also, Siamese like to climb. Make sure she has a lot of shelves and pathways to climb on and be sure some of them get her high up because they love looking down on the world in which they live. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Joz 

      14 months ago

      hi, my cat is an indoor siamese and she would just lay around and meow at me until I look at her (sometimes she still meows while I watch her) and if I approach to her she just runs off (or nimble on my hand soflty) then go back to spot and start over. Shes 1yo and spayed.

      Shes my very first cat so I pretty much know nothing. Is this normal or Im doing something wrong?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      14 months ago from Connecticut

      It seems he is trying to tell you something like there might be a cat outside the house. Try keeping your door open for a bit. This might help him to relax. Also, look for a new cat outside. Hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      14 months ago

      My cat will sit outside of my bedroom door and meow or scratch so I open the door for him and he races into the room, but then like 2 minutes later he wants to leave again. He’s been doing this for a few days now

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      15 months ago from Connecticut

      Cats that have been abused or received great trauma can suffer from PTSD. This means he will be happy one minute and then angry or fearful the next. Many cats that suffer this dilemma will often have stress related licking. Like humans, animal PTSD is hard to overcome. I hope your cat is the exception. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Lap 

      15 months ago

      My cat is 14 and he's started acting weird for the last month or so. He hasn't had the easiest life. He got attacked by my neighbors dogs when he was about 2 or 3. He had serious injuries and surgeries. He also lost one of his top fang teeth a few years ago. He has been an inside cat for about 3 years. But lately he's been super affectionate but didn't think much of it as we are heading into winter. When I'm laying in bed he'll come up really close to my face purring like a v8 and I pat him for a bit then he moves backwards a little and I let him snooze then I look at him and he attacks my face and runs to his corner of the bed. The first time he did it he was super close to clawing my eye, he literally got my his claw about my bottom eyelashes. I had blood everwhere! I know he suffers anxiety, he will continuously lick parts of his front paws till there is no hair left and that's what our vet said. But this new behavior is scaring me. He also doesn't really groom himself anymore and sits on the window basically howling. If he can here us and can't get to us he stands there constantly meowing. Anyone have any ideas on why this is all happening? It's been suggested that it could be cat dementia but I have no clue.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      15 months ago from Connecticut

      Venus, I do sometimes believe that, but it is our tone of voice and body language that they interpret. Whether they listen or not is a totally different thing.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      15 months ago from Connecticut

      Alyssa, I would check her for injuries of some sort. Also, I would try to see if there are other cats living in your area, or humans that don't like cats, that are making her feel threatened. Also, try luring her out with treats and keeping her out with play. Another thing that might help is lots of places to climb on and watch the world so she can be social yet out of reach. I hope this helps.

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      Alyssa Warren 

      15 months ago

      Ive had my cat for 4-5 ish years. I took her in as a stray. She is usually pretty social, but lately she has been just hiding under my bed. She comes out when i look under and call her, but after a minute, she goes back in. I dont k kw whats wrong or what to do

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      VenusPsychic 

      15 months ago from wales

      cats always do what ever they want and pretend do not understand what we are saying hahahah

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      trixxane 

      15 months ago

      My cat is suddenly being all nice he looks at me and when im doing homework he sleeps on my books he is usually distant and sleeps on the chair but now he sleeps on the hard table he comes closer to my face if anything i was wondering is he okay

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      16 months ago from Connecticut

      BB, Siamese are very intelligent and sometimes eccentric. Your thought about demented could be correct. If her behavior becomes dangerous for her or you, you might want to check with your vet; otherwise, I would not be worried.

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      BB Haddock 

      16 months ago

      My small Siamese is not very lovable, but, she will lay on my upper extended arm, for about three to five minutes, then make a meow sound and run away. She will return later and does the same thing. Her sister is the total opposite. I sometimes think the cat is demented. Any others have the same problem?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      16 months ago from Connecticut

      Your cat may just not like the smell of your husband and children. Perhaps if the children and your husband got her active in play it would be different. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Tracy 

      16 months ago

      Hi my cat is 5 now she only lets me touch her i have a family of five and when my husband trys to touch her she moves just out of his reach why dose she do this ?

      And she sometimes sleeps on my tummy all night usually when I'm having a bad night why? I like it just want to understand

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      17 months ago from Connecticut

      :Laura, if your cat has begun to act differently, chances are something is wrong. I would take your cat to the vet as soon as possible.

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      Laura 

      17 months ago

      Wy does my cat sad. Lays down all the time she dont whant me to grab her any more she would sleep on top of me i whant to help her

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      17 months ago from Connecticut

      I think you cat is looking for you to play and interact with him. Try playing for a bit before you do your chores. Make sure he has plenty of window space so he can watch outside and be sure he has something to climb up high.

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      Christy 

      17 months ago

      When i try to do the dishes or do the laundry or even clean my house my cat acts strange and obsessively meows at me or tries to get under my feet at times he wont let me finish my chores so what do i do what he he tring to tell me?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      17 months ago from Connecticut

      Wow, sounds like you have your hands full! Before I go further, I would like to thank you for helping so many kitties. As for your Starr, I believe he may have suffered some type of seizure or head injury when very young which is probably the cause of his being unable to take care of himself in the wild. The time that he ran off and was desperate to come back could indicate a fight with another cat, dog or wild animal and could be another source of injury to his head. I would simply take your time with him and allow him to come to you. Since purring is not something cats do consciously, he may not be able to purr when most cats would. Don't worry though, I don't think it will affect him physically except for the falling. Just try to help him with a step stool to get up onto something and maybe a helpful hand down the stairs. You might want to visit your vet to see if he can offer any other options for you. Good luck in your quests for these beautiful animals.

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      UnScenePunx 

      17 months ago

      Hi, I'm kind of hoping you can help me while providing some answers or explanations. I am a cat lover and have been around them all my life.

      I started to adopt adolescent/adult feral cats from the Humane Society's in South Florida about 14 years ago -- between the ages of 6 months to 1 years old (if they didn't feel comfortable being picked up or even touched by people at all, I would adopt them and they become my family ... Because the Humane Society's in South Florida are kill shelters, and I can't bear the thought of anyone being murdered, in 7 days no less, because they don't conform to the norm of what most people what they're cat companion to be.) Anyway all of them thrive with me and became the most affectionate, loving cats -- who still won't take no guff and even try to protect me by running and confronting my brothers dog when he tries to enter our space ... Don't worry, they don't have any fights at all, they see him coming to me for attention and they come sprinting in between us and hiss and the poor dog hightails it right outta there. Well, I am theirs so what else would you expect, right?. LOL.

      So, it seems like everything is going great ... They are indoor only and purr like crazy, head bumps, love nips while curled in my armpit and slow eye blinks galore.

      Then last April my mom was at an abandoned property and she saw a beautiful long haired, black baby. He was so weak, starving to death, and didn't even know how to eat solid food -- he was pushing a piece of cooked egg with his nose and trying to suck on it. And she quickly scooped him up and brought him to me.

      Because he was only 2 pounds and his whole body fit inside her hand we thought he was barely 8 weeks old.

      I took him to the vet once he reached 5 pounds (about 6 weeks) and he got a check-up and shots. The vet told us he was at least 24 weeks (6 months old) and not 3-4 months, because he had all of his permanent teeth.

      So he got rabies shot and was neutered the same day, and had a full check up - very healthy but underweight.

      Well 2 months later he disappeared early one morning because he was still getting accustomed to indoor only, so I would let him in the front yard next to my window for 1-2 hours per day. Well, when he disappeared it was from 9:30 am until 4:00 am the next morning. I waited up all night and had searched the whole neighborhood that day ... When he came home he was running full speed to my window and splayed his body vertically across it to come in. I immediately brought him inside and he has never wanted to be outside since then ... But that night was the only time he has ever purred (other than the once during our first week together).

      However, this is my issue ... He won't let people touch him or brush him. And he doesn't know how to groom his back area but won't even let me do that.

      The only things he will do are -- (lay by legs at night to sleep, but if I move or touch him that's it and he leaves; he places my forefinger in the gap between his incisors (canines or fangs) and his molars and will lightly suckle on my finger; he also will lick me anywhere repeatedly (similar to grooming), my forehead, mouth, chin, hands, arms, legs, I mean anywhere/everywhere; and when he is lying on my bed he will either sleep with his head on my pillow if I am not home or grab me softly with his front paws and claws when I try to walk past ... But if I try to engage with toys or petting or kisses he gets up and leaves.

      I know his grabbing me is not for food because when he is hungry and even if I am sleeping he will come to my face and meow repeatedly while nudging my shoulder or face with his front paws (so he seems to be doing fine when it comes to training me, LOL but true).

      So why do you think he is so adverse to human touch even after nearly a year?

      And why do you think he won't purr?

      I just love my baby Ringo Starr so much (his name btw) and I want him to be able to relax and enjoy his life.

      For many of the other domesticated ferals that have been and are a part of my family, it took about 1 year to get them really comfortable around me and others and after about 1 year they also began showing massive amounts of affection.

      My girl Karma, is a loner and always has been and he does try to be near her but she will hiss and swat even now after so long. I stop it immediately when I see it happening and then try to comfort him with strokes, scratches and kisses .. I then will do the same for Karma, after. But he just doesn't seem comfortable with any human touch except a very rare scratching session, that he will slightly initiate, of no more than 5 minutes and only on his chin and neck.

      Sorry about this long post but I am at a loss for answers and feel the more information, the better the understanding and insight.

      Also, I should mention that since I have been with him he has very bad coordination ... Falls all the time while trying to balance where another cat would have no problem at all.

      He also seems to have some sort of vision impairment ... He will constantly not see the edge or a step down/up and walk right over it and stumble or he will walk slowly and cautiously directly into walls or the step going up. Even the stairs I got him to climb on to the rather low bed, he falls right off the side of while going up and down. And before (even still) when he tries to jump up on the bed, he will misjudge the edge and not jump far enough on to it and falls right over the side ... Nearly every single time (1 out of 12 he will make it). When he goes into a room he can't find the open door to get out, he goes to cabinets and corners thinking this could be the doorway back out.

      But, by no means does any of this mean that I feel he less than or unintelligent ... In fact, so many people in my human family say I am attributing too much to his intelligence and assigning human reactions or traits to him ... But I will swear on myself that he is so smart, whip smart - his development of responses and actions are on the same level to that of a 10 year old adolescent right now. Just possibly a traumatized, neglected, abused 10 year old who is distrustful due to life experience and in need of glasses. (Maybe?)

      Anyway, I really hope you can help me with understanding my little Starr which can make his life less stressful and calming.

      Thank you for all the information and again sorry for throwing so much at you all at once.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      18 months ago from Connecticut

      Amanda, this could be a warning sign, however it could signify something else is wrong. Perhaps she smells another cat on you and is jealous. Cat scents can be passed on to you even if you haven't been near a cat, but they have been around a place where you walked. Also, the cat may be trying to claim you as hers against this smell or even if there is another cat outside that she can see or smell. If she is fixed, then just make sure you love on her more when you come home and don't pet any outside or strange cats. If she isn't fixed, I think you might consider that option before things get more difficult for you.

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      Amanda patterson 

      18 months ago

      Today I awoke with my cat licking my face and sleeping next to my head. She never does this and she refused to leave my side. Is she ok? Am I ok?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      18 months ago from Connecticut

      Briana, cats have a sort of sixth sense that tells them things we can't possibly know. He may be trying to tell you that there are changes going on within your body. Many say it is to say you are pregnant, and that can be the case, but also good and bad changes to your health. Hopefully, he sees good things for you.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      18 months ago from Connecticut

      I am glad you like it. I hope you have fun with the new app and more articles about pets. Cherylone

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      Briana 

      19 months ago

      So my mother in laws cat lately has been jumping on me when I’m sitting down to sit with me and lay on my stomach and my friends keep telling me he sense I’m pregnant but I’m not pregnant it’s just weird he been all over me for a week now

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      Dija 

      20 months ago

      Why does my cat go to the kitchen and hide under the kitchen chairs is ,she hunting mice there?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      21 months ago from Connecticut

      Some cats find it painful or uncomfortable when you pet them. Sometimes softer pets will work. Also, make sure you are keeping your cat busy with plenty of play to distract him from the licking part. A contented cat may accept your pets more readily.

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      Jennifer L DaRosa 

      22 months ago

      Our cat licks us quite often but when we try to return the affection (scratch head, cheeks) he immediately moves away. He will also snuggle but when we try to pet him, he moves away. Do some cats not like being petted at all?

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