What Your Cat's Behaviors, Body Language, and Sounds Mean

Updated on May 24, 2019
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I have owned cats for over 60 years. Between them and their vets, I have learned a great deal about how they tick.

If you've ever wondered what your cat might be trying to communicate to you with their behaviors, body language, and sounds, then this article will help you find some answers.
If you've ever wondered what your cat might be trying to communicate to you with their behaviors, body language, and sounds, then this article will help you find some answers. | Source

What Is My Cat Trying to Say?

Your cat speaks to you in so many different ways that sometimes, it’s hard to know what they are saying. To know where your cat is coming from, the first thing you should know is that your cat considers you to be their human, belonging to them in every respect—and all of their actions are based on that fact. So when your cat does something that angers you, keep in mind that they may be trying to tell you something.

This article will break down a whole bunch of commonly asked questions relating to why cats do what they do, what their body language indicates, and what they might be trying to communicate to you when they speak. Read on to finally figure out what your trusted feline friend might be trying to say to you.

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What Is Normal Cat Behavior?

Here are a handful of common questions relating to cats and their often puzzling behaviors, along with some answers that should help shed some light why they do what they do:

Why is my cat peeing or pooping in the house?

Overly full litter boxes can make your cat upset enough to leave smelly presents on your pillow or favorite chair as a hint—meaning it has been too long between cleanings and you need to step up to the plate. Cats like themselves and their environment to be clean. That’s why they are always cleaning themselves. Imagine how you would feel if you were a perfectionist about cleaning and had to walk over your own waste in order to relieve yourself. "Yuck" is putting it mildly.

Why does my cat clean itself right after I've pet it or picked it up?

If your cat cleans itself right after you pet it or pick it up, it could be due to a few reasons. They might be annoyed that you touched them, for whatever reason, and they are cleaning off the scent—in most instances, that is an insult to you.

It is also possible that you have a scent on you that they do not like. The scent could be perfume, lotion, or even another cat you might have petted. Be aware that strong smells of perfumed items can actually anger a cat. If they ingest a lot of it, it could also make them sick. So if you have cats, keep your arsenal of perfumed items for those special nights and be sure to wash them off before cuddling Fluffy.

Why does my cat reach a paw out to me?

Your cat might reach for you with a paw, claws in or out, to indicate a desire for attention. Or, maybe, they might purposely lie down in your way for attention. They might sit on something they know is off-limits to gain your attention. Cats like their attention, but they also like their toys. If you don't give them several, they might use you or your things instead.

Why has my cat's behavior suddenly changed after many years?

As cats get older, sometimes their personalities change. Some cats that start out rambunctious and generally averse to snuggling eventually soften up over the years and turn into super cuddly lap animals that want to be around you all the time. These kinds of gradual changes are totally natural and not all that different from the sorts of changes that humans experience throughout their lives.

If such a shift happens very suddenly and in a fairly unexpected way, however, that might point to a deeper problem with your feline friend. For instance, if they are generally an independent kind of cat but then out of nowhere want to be by your side at all times, that could indicate that they are sick and fearful of being left alone in their weakened state. If you notice a change that seems curiously abrupt and bizarre, it's best to take them into the vet for a check-up to see if anything is wrong.

Sudden Changes May Indicate Something's Wrong

If you notice that your cat is suddenly behaving suspiciously out of character and acting strange, you may want to have them checked out by a vet. Gradual changes are totally normal, but drastic shifts in behavior or personality can sometimes point to bigger problems.

Why is my cat extending its claws?

A cat will extend its claws for many different things, such as to kneed. (When they are content, they might put their paws out, claws extended, and then pull them in rhythmically, which is how they get their mother’s milk to flow.)

A cat might also extend its claws in anger or fear. Claws are also extended for cleaning purposes or scratching, which can mean several things, such as ownership, sharpening claws for a fight, or dominance. Claws can be removed, but please try to refrain from doing this. Instead, you can set up a weekly routine of trimming their claws, and give them plenty of things to scratch.

Why does my cat rub up against me?

Cats will touch you and your things, pee on you or your things (otherwise known as marking), or rub against you or something you own in order to let other cats in the area know that you are theirs. Yup, when they lovingly rub their face against your face, they are leaving their scent all over you. Cats will generally mark a new home to override the scent of another cat. Fixed cats may also mark if the scent is strong or reeks of a full male. Those cat nostrils are so strong that they can pick up a scent from miles away—just like a hound dog, only with less noise.

You also assume a similar answer to the related question of: "Why does my cat put its paw on me?" That is, it's usually just another way of communicating affection. While it isn't always that simple, when your cat does this, it is more often than not displaying its level of comfortability with you.

Cat Behavior Explained

Behavior
Meaning
Pees or poops in your house (despite being litter trained)
Its litter may be full, and it wants you to clean it. Also done to mark its territory and communicate ownership to other cats.
Cleans itself after you pet it
You may have a scent on you (perfumes/other cats) that it wants to remove from its body.
Lies down on your stuff while you're trying to do something
It wants attention and is tired of being ignored.
Extends its claws
It could just be for kneading. It could also be out of fear or anger. Or a more practical reason like for scratching or cleaning.
Rubs up against you
It's rubbing its scent on you and marking you as its own. Also sometimes done to demand attention.
Brings you dead animals
Done as a gift to you, since it sees itself as your owner. Also done to display strength and hunting prowess.
Looks at you before it goes to sleep
Checking to make sure you're looking out for it, as it will soon be vulnerable and seeks your protection while sleeping.

Why does my cat bring me dead animals?

Cats, remember, believe that they own you. And to do a proper job, they must feed you. That is why outside cats will often kill an animal and leave it as a gift on your window or doorstep. As horrid as this may seem to you, it is perfectly natural for your cat.

Another reason for leaving little "gifts" is to show you that they are strong and capable. I have seen cats leave snakes, rats, and even squirrels as gifts. Oh, and just so you know, if you throw the gift away, your cat may be hurt by your actions. If you must—and most of us do—place it in several bags and then bury it in the trash can.

Why does my cat look at me a bunch of times before it goes to sleep?

Your cat is most likely checking to make sure you're still there. It's trying to indicate to you that it's about to sleep and thus will be vulnerable to attack. It wants to make sure you know to protect it and keep an eye out for any predators.

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How Do You Tell If a Cat Likes You?

Here's some useful information to help explain what some of your cat's body language might indicate:

What do my cat's tail movements mean?

When a cat walks with their tail straight up, it means that they are relaxed, confident, and want to be noticed. If you don’t notice fast enough, they might get directly underfoot and swirl from one leg to the other. Of course, it is worse if you have something they want, like canned food or milk. They will start to yell if you aren't forthcoming or fast enough for them.

When a cat walks with their tail between their legs, it is a sign that they are afraid of something or might be submitting to a more dominant cat or human. They might also roll over and offer their belly to a dominant cat to show that they are not contesting the dominance. If a cat offers their belly to you, they are telling you that they submit to your dominance. But don’t let that fool you, because they still believe they own you.

If a cat walks with its tail down and dragging, it is trying to be hidden or unnoticed. If that behavior lasts for longer than a day, you might want to take the cat to the vet for a bit of a check-up. A cat might also lay its tail on something showing possession, or flick its tail at something that angers it. They often flick their tail to warn you that you are getting on their nerves, and you probably should stop—or the claws will come out.

A cat that is upset will not only hiss, but their tail will become the biggest bristled bottle brush you have ever seen. Be wary and don't attempt to comfort your cat when they are upset. An upset cat doesn't know the difference and might bite or scratch you in "defense."

Cat Tail Movements Explained

Tail Position
Meaning
Tail straight up
Relaxed, confident, looking for attention.
Tail between its legs
Afraid, cautious, submissive.
Tail down and dragging
Trying to be hidden and unnoticed. (Could indicate pain or other discomfort. See a vet if this persists.)
Tail bristled and flicking
Upset, aggressive, and potentially about to attack.

What do my cat's ear movements mean?

When a cat lays back its ears, it usually means that it's upset and might attack. When they cock one ear to the side, it’s like someone raising an eyebrow or looking at you like you have three heads. When they bring both ears hard forward, they are trying to hear what is being said to them or perhaps trying to make out a distant sound (or another cat in the area).

But if your cat's ears are forward but relaxed, then it is at ease, potentially aware of its surroundings but not necessarily on alert or scared.

What do my cat's eye movements mean?

You can actually tell a good amount about how your cat is feeling by watching their eyes. If their eyes are barely open or fully closed, they are relaxed and either preparing to sleep or just enjoying your company and a good lounge. In fact, that familiar sight of seeing your cat look at you and slowly blink its eyes is a clear sign of affection and often referred to as "kitty kisses."

If their eyes are narrowed but not in a lazy way, they are most likely alert and focused. They may even be scared or aggressive. So look out for other body language clues to help further indicate how they're feeling.

But if their eyes are fully open and wide, they are almost certainly on high alert and potentially trying to find out if they are in danger. Similarly, wide pupils can also indicate high interest and focus or excitement, potentially pointing to them being fearful or aggressive. Look for other clues to help decipher what they're thinking.

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What Is My Cat Trying to Tell Me?

Here are a few explanations for some of the sounds your cat might make for you and what they might be trying to tell you:

Why does my cat meow at me?

Did you know that when your cat meows at you, it is really just calling your attention to something? Perhaps you forgot breakfast or the litter box is full. Or they might just be calling another cat to play. Though since cats rarely meow at other cats, if you hear yours making distinct meows in your general direction, those sounds are probably intended for your ears.

They might meow to go out or to come in. They might meow to tell you that you need a lap cat today, or they might be thinking that you have been working too hard and need a break. (Cats have a way of insinuating themselves in such a way as to coax you into believing that you actually came up with a particular idea.)

Note: If your cat is meowing at you more than usual (and perhaps in a slightly louder or more aggressive tone), it's a good idea to follow them and see if they lead you somewhere. This repeated meowing can help them let you know that they need more food, that the litter is full and needs to be cleaned, or sometimes even more drastic matters, such as the fact that maybe they just had kittens and want you to help protect them.

Cat Verbal Communication Explained

Verbal Queue
Meaning
Meowing
Usually done to communicate it wants you to notice something, such as an empty food bowl, a full litter, or something it wants you to see (in which case, you should try following it).
Purring
An involuntary response that indicates comfort and affection. A good sign that it's pleased with whatever you're doing.
Hissing
Indicates fear or aggression. You should probably take a step back when they do this.

Why does my cat purr at me?

When cats are happy with you, they purr when you pet them or cuddle them. A cat's purr is involuntary. They hear their mother purring when she is feeding and cleaning them and soon add their own voice when they are happy or content.

Oh, and don't get upset if your cat is purring but also simultaneously trying to get away from you. Generally, it means that they like you and want to be petted, but they were busy and you interrupted them.

Note: If you want to communicate back to your cat that you love them, then petting them on the head or on the cheeks is a good way to do so. Similarly, when a cat touches the top of their head to you, they are saying they love and trust you.

Why does my cat hiss at me?

Naturally, hissing indicates fear or aggression. The cat is essentially demanding that you back away and leave it alone. Even cats that deeply love you can do this from time to time, sometimes just because they want some space to themselves for a while. Or perhaps you pet them in a spot where they're sore and they want you to stop doing so.

Unsurprisingly, hissing is such a clear message that it actually works both ways. So if you want your cat to stop doing something—like biting you too hard, for instance—you can hiss at them a little. They'll most likely get the message.

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Does Your Cat Feel Insulted?

When a cat turns its back on you and flicks its tail, watch out! It's ticked off and ready to fight if you persist in whatever it is you’re doing. Under most instances, they will walk away feeling their message has been understood. However, they might just decide that this is the last straw and decide to fight back.

What's the best way to end an agitated cat attack? Stop and cry out—loudly. In cat language, an attack between two generally friendly participants ends immediately after one of them cries out in pain. Also, by holding still until they let go, you are saving yourself long deep cuts that could occur through pulling away from them.

It's also worth noting that a cat can feel insulted for many different reasons, including:

  • You took their chair.
  • You are sitting on their blanket.
  • You splashed them while washing your hands.
  • You have bought the generic food again.
  • You gave them a bath.
  • You took them to the vet.
  • You left them with a bunch of kids.
  • You didn't get the good litter.
  • You forgot to greet them when you came in the house.
  • You didn't go looking for them if they weren't at the door waiting for you.
  • You didn't change the water today.
  • You put glassware on their favorite shelf, and it fell off when they tried to lie down.
  • You had the nerve to bring in fish and then hide it behind a solid wall.

Note: Cats can also be insulted even if you didn't do anything that you can understand. They are quite fickle that way.

Signs That Your Cat Might Be Sick

In general, your cats' behaviors—as puzzling as they might sometimes be to you—are often just part of who they are and how they express themselves, and thus shouldn't be cause of too much worry on your part. There are, however, a few indicators that might point to your poor feline potentially feeling a bit under the weather and/or in need of some medical attention.

Here are some important signs to watch out for:

  • Excessive licking, chewing, or scratching: Of course, these are all part of normal cat behavior and critical parts of their totally healthy self-maintenance. But if you notice that your cat has been doing one or more of these at an alarmingly higher rate than usual, it could mean that they are suffering from ticks, fleas, or parasites. So it would be a good idea to check to see if you can spot any of them in your feline's fur. Additionally, if you notice any significant hair loss or breaking of the skin, have them get checked out by a vet.
  • Vomiting or diarrhea: This is another one that does unfortunately happen periodically and isn't always a cause for concern. But if your cat begins doing it a lot in a short amount of time, it could mean that they've ingested something toxic or are experiencing other digestion problems. If it lasts for more than a day—or if abdominal swelling and pain are apparent—take them in to see a vet right away.
  • Different, strong odors: If you notice any new, pungent odors coming from your cat, it might be a good idea to take them in to get checked out. Often times, strange new smells indicate infections, ulcers, and other ailments that need to be treated as soon as possible. Even odors that aren't necessarily "bad"—such as a sweet, fruity smell—can occasionally be warning signs of serious illnesses like diabetes. So if you notice any weird new smells coming from your cat that you can't identify, it's probably best to have a veterinary professional take a look.
  • Cat flu: Much like humans, cats can occasionally contract a form of that pesky flu virus. This typically results familiar flu symptoms like watery eyes, a runny nose, and profuse sneezing. If you notice these symptoms, you can attempt to help your cat feel better by cleaning the mucus off their eyes and nose with a cotton ball or damp washcloth, making sure they eat enough food, and repeatedly checking to ensure that they are breathing normally. If you find the latter to be strained and/or they don't seem to be getting better, take them in to a vet to be checked out.

My Wonderful Furry Friends

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Salty: "Hey, where'd you put my toys?"Dakota: "But my stocking is so much smaller than yours! *Sigh*"Mittens: "I know you are in there, I can smell you!"Shadow: "How come I can see them, but I can't touch them?"Tigger: "Did you want me for something?"Cocoa: "It is time to stop all this work stuff."Louie, age 15, still living it up.
Salty: "Hey, where'd you put my toys?"
Salty: "Hey, where'd you put my toys?" | Source
Dakota: "But my stocking is so much smaller than yours! *Sigh*"
Dakota: "But my stocking is so much smaller than yours! *Sigh*" | Source
Mittens: "I know you are in there, I can smell you!"
Mittens: "I know you are in there, I can smell you!" | Source
Shadow: "How come I can see them, but I can't touch them?"
Shadow: "How come I can see them, but I can't touch them?" | Source
Tigger: "Did you want me for something?"
Tigger: "Did you want me for something?" | Source
Cocoa: "It is time to stop all this work stuff."
Cocoa: "It is time to stop all this work stuff." | Source
Louie, age 15, still living it up.
Louie, age 15, still living it up. | Source

Strays

Stray cats can be brought inside, but you should always follow general common sense and the following:

  • Strays need quiet time before you introduce them to the other cats.
  • Litter boxes and sleeping beds should be periodically switched so all of the cats can smell each other.
  • Be sure to remain close once you do introduce them in case they aren't quite ready to be friendly.
  • Remember to get strays checked by a vet before you take them in and expose them to your other cats to protect your cats from serious illnesses like Feline Leukemia.
  • It is best to have a stray dog taken by a professional and checked for behavioral problems (as well as illnesses) before taking them into your home.

Pay Attention to the Signals Your Cat Is Sending You

They might be trying to tell you something, and it might be important—or at least it is to them. Learn the unique ways your cat communicates with you. Each cat is different and has its own personality, so their communication might be different. Keep this in mind, and they will eventually let you know.

If you're looking for additional information on what your cat might be trying to tell you, consider checking out these other great PetHelpful articles:

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. It is not meant to substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, or formal and individualized advice from a veterinary medical professional. Animals exhibiting signs and symptoms of distress should be seen by a veterinarian immediately.

Questions & Answers

  • My cat is meowing at me constantly, and then she grabs some part of my hand and drags me to a closet. When I looked, there was nothing in there. This has been going on for almost a week. What is she trying to tell me?

    Your cat may be trying to tell you that she is going to have kittens, and that is her choice spot, so get it fixed up for her. If she is fixed, then that is obviously not the case. Or, she may be trying to tell you that an outside creature has been napping in there - check for feces or urine in the area. She might just be trying to tell you she wants to have access because it is her favorite spot. Try leaving the door open to see if she sleeps in there a lot.

  • When my cat is lying down to sleep, he always turns his head and looks at me. Then he'll go back to sleep for a few seconds and look at me again. This happens at least four times before he falls asleep. What does this mean?

    Cats like to know they are safe and secure. Your cat may be just trying to ensure you are still near him so he can be safe while sleeping. He might also be checking to see if you have moved and thus changed the 'playing field.' It is nothing to worry about, unless you think his eccentricity is dangerous (I wouldn't).

  • My cat has recently been meowing a lot and latching onto my hands and wrists with his teeth. Sometimes it feels like he’s trying to take me somewhere or just wrap himself around my arm and bite between my thumb and index finger. I figure the meowing signifies something, but what does it mean?

    Your cat may be trying to tell you something as you believe, however, the where and how would be your answer. If the cat is older and hurts you, the cat may be hurting when you touch her, but if the cat does it at one particular place, it could mean there is something wrong with the area.

  • My Bengal cat Amber went into labor yesterday. When it started, she was very fidgety and, anxious to comfort her, I continuously rubbed her belly which she allowed me to do. In the morning her belly was no longer fat, but I can't find her litter. They are not in the box I prepared for her. What could have happened to them? Also, what is a cat's behavior shortly after birth? Will she seclude herself or will she sit on my bed and sleep as she always does?

    Your mom-to-be may have hidden her litter in a very exclusive spot, as many will. Once they start moving, you will see them. Just check under things to see if she might have lost the litter and left them where they were. Most cats will dispose of a dead litter in their own manner.

  • My kitten is insistent when I am scratching her. Should I be concerned?

    No, I wouldn't be worried. Most cats like to have their backs scratched. I find that using a cat brush helps and gets rid of excess hair.

© 2011 Cheryl Simonds

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    • cherylone profile imageAUTHOR

      Cheryl Simonds 

      13 days ago from Connecticut

      Joz, the first thing you learn about cats is that they are independent, and each one has their own unique qualities. In your case, your cat may be asking you to play. A young cat, especially a Siamese, needs the play to stay fit and health as well as keeping them occupied. They also need their own furniture to keep them content. Try getting her a few beds, some scratching posts and/or cat trees. Be sure she has toys to play with as well. You will discover which toys she prefers very quickly. Siamese like to look outside a lot, so make sure she has a window seat. Also, Siamese like to climb. Make sure she has a lot of shelves and pathways to climb on and be sure some of them get her high up because they love looking down on the world in which they live. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Joz 

      2 weeks ago

      hi, my cat is an indoor siamese and she would just lay around and meow at me until I look at her (sometimes she still meows while I watch her) and if I approach to her she just runs off (or nimble on my hand soflty) then go back to spot and start over. Shes 1yo and spayed.

      Shes my very first cat so I pretty much know nothing. Is this normal or Im doing something wrong?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      4 weeks ago from Connecticut

      It seems he is trying to tell you something like there might be a cat outside the house. Try keeping your door open for a bit. This might help him to relax. Also, look for a new cat outside. Hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      4 weeks ago

      My cat will sit outside of my bedroom door and meow or scratch so I open the door for him and he races into the room, but then like 2 minutes later he wants to leave again. He’s been doing this for a few days now

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      5 weeks ago from Connecticut

      Cats that have been abused or received great trauma can suffer from PTSD. This means he will be happy one minute and then angry or fearful the next. Many cats that suffer this dilemma will often have stress related licking. Like humans, animal PTSD is hard to overcome. I hope your cat is the exception. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Lap 

      5 weeks ago

      My cat is 14 and he's started acting weird for the last month or so. He hasn't had the easiest life. He got attacked by my neighbors dogs when he was about 2 or 3. He had serious injuries and surgeries. He also lost one of his top fang teeth a few years ago. He has been an inside cat for about 3 years. But lately he's been super affectionate but didn't think much of it as we are heading into winter. When I'm laying in bed he'll come up really close to my face purring like a v8 and I pat him for a bit then he moves backwards a little and I let him snooze then I look at him and he attacks my face and runs to his corner of the bed. The first time he did it he was super close to clawing my eye, he literally got my his claw about my bottom eyelashes. I had blood everwhere! I know he suffers anxiety, he will continuously lick parts of his front paws till there is no hair left and that's what our vet said. But this new behavior is scaring me. He also doesn't really groom himself anymore and sits on the window basically howling. If he can here us and can't get to us he stands there constantly meowing. Anyone have any ideas on why this is all happening? It's been suggested that it could be cat dementia but I have no clue.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      6 weeks ago from Connecticut

      Venus, I do sometimes believe that, but it is our tone of voice and body language that they interpret. Whether they listen or not is a totally different thing.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      6 weeks ago from Connecticut

      Alyssa, I would check her for injuries of some sort. Also, I would try to see if there are other cats living in your area, or humans that don't like cats, that are making her feel threatened. Also, try luring her out with treats and keeping her out with play. Another thing that might help is lots of places to climb on and watch the world so she can be social yet out of reach. I hope this helps.

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      Alyssa Warren 

      6 weeks ago

      Ive had my cat for 4-5 ish years. I took her in as a stray. She is usually pretty social, but lately she has been just hiding under my bed. She comes out when i look under and call her, but after a minute, she goes back in. I dont k kw whats wrong or what to do

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      VenusPsychic 

      7 weeks ago from wales

      cats always do what ever they want and pretend do not understand what we are saying hahahah

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      trixxane 

      7 weeks ago

      My cat is suddenly being all nice he looks at me and when im doing homework he sleeps on my books he is usually distant and sleeps on the chair but now he sleeps on the hard table he comes closer to my face if anything i was wondering is he okay

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 months ago from Connecticut

      BB, Siamese are very intelligent and sometimes eccentric. Your thought about demented could be correct. If her behavior becomes dangerous for her or you, you might want to check with your vet; otherwise, I would not be worried.

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      BB Haddock 

      2 months ago

      My small Siamese is not very lovable, but, she will lay on my upper extended arm, for about three to five minutes, then make a meow sound and run away. She will return later and does the same thing. Her sister is the total opposite. I sometimes think the cat is demented. Any others have the same problem?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 months ago from Connecticut

      Your cat may just not like the smell of your husband and children. Perhaps if the children and your husband got her active in play it would be different. I hope this helps, Cheryl.

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      Tracy 

      2 months ago

      Hi my cat is 5 now she only lets me touch her i have a family of five and when my husband trys to touch her she moves just out of his reach why dose she do this ?

      And she sometimes sleeps on my tummy all night usually when I'm having a bad night why? I like it just want to understand

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      :Laura, if your cat has begun to act differently, chances are something is wrong. I would take your cat to the vet as soon as possible.

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      Laura 

      3 months ago

      Wy does my cat sad. Lays down all the time she dont whant me to grab her any more she would sleep on top of me i whant to help her

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      I think you cat is looking for you to play and interact with him. Try playing for a bit before you do your chores. Make sure he has plenty of window space so he can watch outside and be sure he has something to climb up high.

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      Christy 

      3 months ago

      When i try to do the dishes or do the laundry or even clean my house my cat acts strange and obsessively meows at me or tries to get under my feet at times he wont let me finish my chores so what do i do what he he tring to tell me?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 months ago from Connecticut

      Wow, sounds like you have your hands full! Before I go further, I would like to thank you for helping so many kitties. As for your Starr, I believe he may have suffered some type of seizure or head injury when very young which is probably the cause of his being unable to take care of himself in the wild. The time that he ran off and was desperate to come back could indicate a fight with another cat, dog or wild animal and could be another source of injury to his head. I would simply take your time with him and allow him to come to you. Since purring is not something cats do consciously, he may not be able to purr when most cats would. Don't worry though, I don't think it will affect him physically except for the falling. Just try to help him with a step stool to get up onto something and maybe a helpful hand down the stairs. You might want to visit your vet to see if he can offer any other options for you. Good luck in your quests for these beautiful animals.

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      UnScenePunx 

      3 months ago

      Hi, I'm kind of hoping you can help me while providing some answers or explanations. I am a cat lover and have been around them all my life.

      I started to adopt adolescent/adult feral cats from the Humane Society's in South Florida about 14 years ago -- between the ages of 6 months to 1 years old (if they didn't feel comfortable being picked up or even touched by people at all, I would adopt them and they become my family ... Because the Humane Society's in South Florida are kill shelters, and I can't bear the thought of anyone being murdered, in 7 days no less, because they don't conform to the norm of what most people what they're cat companion to be.) Anyway all of them thrive with me and became the most affectionate, loving cats -- who still won't take no guff and even try to protect me by running and confronting my brothers dog when he tries to enter our space ... Don't worry, they don't have any fights at all, they see him coming to me for attention and they come sprinting in between us and hiss and the poor dog hightails it right outta there. Well, I am theirs so what else would you expect, right?. LOL.

      So, it seems like everything is going great ... They are indoor only and purr like crazy, head bumps, love nips while curled in my armpit and slow eye blinks galore.

      Then last April my mom was at an abandoned property and she saw a beautiful long haired, black baby. He was so weak, starving to death, and didn't even know how to eat solid food -- he was pushing a piece of cooked egg with his nose and trying to suck on it. And she quickly scooped him up and brought him to me.

      Because he was only 2 pounds and his whole body fit inside her hand we thought he was barely 8 weeks old.

      I took him to the vet once he reached 5 pounds (about 6 weeks) and he got a check-up and shots. The vet told us he was at least 24 weeks (6 months old) and not 3-4 months, because he had all of his permanent teeth.

      So he got rabies shot and was neutered the same day, and had a full check up - very healthy but underweight.

      Well 2 months later he disappeared early one morning because he was still getting accustomed to indoor only, so I would let him in the front yard next to my window for 1-2 hours per day. Well, when he disappeared it was from 9:30 am until 4:00 am the next morning. I waited up all night and had searched the whole neighborhood that day ... When he came home he was running full speed to my window and splayed his body vertically across it to come in. I immediately brought him inside and he has never wanted to be outside since then ... But that night was the only time he has ever purred (other than the once during our first week together).

      However, this is my issue ... He won't let people touch him or brush him. And he doesn't know how to groom his back area but won't even let me do that.

      The only things he will do are -- (lay by legs at night to sleep, but if I move or touch him that's it and he leaves; he places my forefinger in the gap between his incisors (canines or fangs) and his molars and will lightly suckle on my finger; he also will lick me anywhere repeatedly (similar to grooming), my forehead, mouth, chin, hands, arms, legs, I mean anywhere/everywhere; and when he is lying on my bed he will either sleep with his head on my pillow if I am not home or grab me softly with his front paws and claws when I try to walk past ... But if I try to engage with toys or petting or kisses he gets up and leaves.

      I know his grabbing me is not for food because when he is hungry and even if I am sleeping he will come to my face and meow repeatedly while nudging my shoulder or face with his front paws (so he seems to be doing fine when it comes to training me, LOL but true).

      So why do you think he is so adverse to human touch even after nearly a year?

      And why do you think he won't purr?

      I just love my baby Ringo Starr so much (his name btw) and I want him to be able to relax and enjoy his life.

      For many of the other domesticated ferals that have been and are a part of my family, it took about 1 year to get them really comfortable around me and others and after about 1 year they also began showing massive amounts of affection.

      My girl Karma, is a loner and always has been and he does try to be near her but she will hiss and swat even now after so long. I stop it immediately when I see it happening and then try to comfort him with strokes, scratches and kisses .. I then will do the same for Karma, after. But he just doesn't seem comfortable with any human touch except a very rare scratching session, that he will slightly initiate, of no more than 5 minutes and only on his chin and neck.

      Sorry about this long post but I am at a loss for answers and feel the more information, the better the understanding and insight.

      Also, I should mention that since I have been with him he has very bad coordination ... Falls all the time while trying to balance where another cat would have no problem at all.

      He also seems to have some sort of vision impairment ... He will constantly not see the edge or a step down/up and walk right over it and stumble or he will walk slowly and cautiously directly into walls or the step going up. Even the stairs I got him to climb on to the rather low bed, he falls right off the side of while going up and down. And before (even still) when he tries to jump up on the bed, he will misjudge the edge and not jump far enough on to it and falls right over the side ... Nearly every single time (1 out of 12 he will make it). When he goes into a room he can't find the open door to get out, he goes to cabinets and corners thinking this could be the doorway back out.

      But, by no means does any of this mean that I feel he less than or unintelligent ... In fact, so many people in my human family say I am attributing too much to his intelligence and assigning human reactions or traits to him ... But I will swear on myself that he is so smart, whip smart - his development of responses and actions are on the same level to that of a 10 year old adolescent right now. Just possibly a traumatized, neglected, abused 10 year old who is distrustful due to life experience and in need of glasses. (Maybe?)

      Anyway, I really hope you can help me with understanding my little Starr which can make his life less stressful and calming.

      Thank you for all the information and again sorry for throwing so much at you all at once.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      4 months ago from Connecticut

      Amanda, this could be a warning sign, however it could signify something else is wrong. Perhaps she smells another cat on you and is jealous. Cat scents can be passed on to you even if you haven't been near a cat, but they have been around a place where you walked. Also, the cat may be trying to claim you as hers against this smell or even if there is another cat outside that she can see or smell. If she is fixed, then just make sure you love on her more when you come home and don't pet any outside or strange cats. If she isn't fixed, I think you might consider that option before things get more difficult for you.

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      Amanda patterson 

      4 months ago

      Today I awoke with my cat licking my face and sleeping next to my head. She never does this and she refused to leave my side. Is she ok? Am I ok?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      5 months ago from Connecticut

      Briana, cats have a sort of sixth sense that tells them things we can't possibly know. He may be trying to tell you that there are changes going on within your body. Many say it is to say you are pregnant, and that can be the case, but also good and bad changes to your health. Hopefully, he sees good things for you.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      5 months ago from Connecticut

      I am glad you like it. I hope you have fun with the new app and more articles about pets. Cherylone

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      Briana 

      5 months ago

      So my mother in laws cat lately has been jumping on me when I’m sitting down to sit with me and lay on my stomach and my friends keep telling me he sense I’m pregnant but I’m not pregnant it’s just weird he been all over me for a week now

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      Dija 

      7 months ago

      Why does my cat go to the kitchen and hide under the kitchen chairs is ,she hunting mice there?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      7 months ago from Connecticut

      Some cats find it painful or uncomfortable when you pet them. Sometimes softer pets will work. Also, make sure you are keeping your cat busy with plenty of play to distract him from the licking part. A contented cat may accept your pets more readily.

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      Jennifer L DaRosa 

      8 months ago

      Our cat licks us quite often but when we try to return the affection (scratch head, cheeks) he immediately moves away. He will also snuggle but when we try to pet him, he moves away. Do some cats not like being petted at all?

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      Betty 

      9 months ago

      I have two 14 week old kittens. They both grab at me claws first or jump up on me claws first, or attempt to use me as a scratching post. They have a 5' scratching tree and other scratching posts. I'm getting claws stuck in me constantly and I am tired of the pain! Is this normal at this age and if so when will they begin to approach with retracted claws? They play very roughly with one another but I don't want to be a participant in their rough play. What is the best way to stop this? I should add that even when I'm petting and they are at their happiest purring and snuggling, they raise their heads sweetly then bite my chin. I welcome your suggestions! I'm trying to clip claws but get scratched from that too?

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      Angel 

      9 months ago

      My 4 month old kitten has been sleeping in my bed with me for as long as I've had him (about a month).

      But now he will lay on the bed until i get up there, or until i get close to him and then he wilk move onto the floor.

      He went from snuggling close to me, to sleeping on the end of the bed, to the floor or under the bed.

      Did i upset him or something?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      10 months ago from Connecticut

      Iionor, I believe the cats are being wary because they don't know you. Start slowly with strays because they can be unpredictable. Giving them food is one step, but don't try to pet them. Let them come to you. It will take time, but it will be worth it in the end.

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      lionor 

      10 months ago

      I had some cats out of our house and I started to feed them 2 days before and the cats looks excited but i doesn't really know how to mingle with them . when ever i try to touch one of the cat it just stare at my hand and that scares me .is that any sign of anger ??

      how to really touch them and make them feel more friendly and safe with me ??

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      Jk 

      11 months ago

      My cat

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      I’m 

      11 months ago

      What can I do to detour my car from peeing in s certain area? He’s 8 and always very clean and never problems. He’s been sneaking to go and today I caught him red handed. What kind of things can I do to loose his interest in being s naughty cat?

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      Bree 

      11 months ago

      We just recently got a 9 week old kitten who sleep between my fiance and I, but every other night she'll switch who she leans closer to. Why could she be doing this? Is it just random positioning?

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      mia 

      11 months ago

      Kris

      My 7 year old cat Misty did the same thing when we got a new dog,which means you did something he didn't like or he is getting old, try moving the litter box somewhere more private but easy to reach then show him.

      Katie when a cat spends time near your stuff it means she is lonely and misses you, cause simply your her favorite, try to get someone in your family or house to spend more time so she won't be so lonely when your gone, my sister Pumpkin did that to all the time.

      Pat Green

      When a cat hits you it means they are upset with you and want you to back off, in this case you might be snoring or sleep talking since it happens at night try recording your self to see why he is upset then apologize.

      Rolly Polly

      Your new cats just had a big change, Mango likes you but Miffy doesn't, WELL YOUR WRONG, Miffy doesn't hate you she is scared, change is hard for cats, ask your friend what Miffy likes then find where she likes to hide and try to gain her trust, hold out you hand to her every day but give her some time to get over the move then do something your friend didn't play with her, brush her, or give her treats.

      HOPE THIS HELPED YOU ALL AND BELIEVE ME I EXPERIENCED ALL OF THIS BEFORE. : )

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      Rollypolly 

      12 months ago

      My friend had to move and gave me her two cats, one is orange and her name is Mango. She loves me because I would frequently go to my friends house so she recognizes me. The second Miffy hates me. She hissed and scratched me every chance she's got. She is very shy and never comes up to me, help!

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      Pat Green 

      12 months ago

      Last night I was sleeping. My cat jump in my bed at around 3pm and pulled the blanket down at my neck and hit me with his paw. I did not respond and he hit me again with his paw.He is 5 Years old and has never done this before.What was he trying to tell me?

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      Katie 

      12 months ago

      When I’m at my dads place my mom tells me that my cat Sylvie spends a lot of time in my room. What does it mean?

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      Kris 

      12 months ago

      My 5 yr. old spayed cat is peeing and pooping all over the house. How do I get him to stop? It’s been going on for a month now. We took Him to the vet and she gave him an antibiotic for to see if that would help . He’s still doing the messes? Help!

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      mia 

      12 months ago

      My grandma's male car used to love when I came over, he is a indoor cat but always claws the door so we got him a leash because he always wants to leave the yard but the roads and houses are to harmful (dogs cars PEOPLE) I usually move him from the door so some one come get in and it never bothered him but when we found a stray kitten who was hurt (better now) he started to run from me when I would go to pet him, and he thinks he the mother cat he cleans, he picks him up , plays, and showed him the litter box. Why?But now that we had the kitten for a month now he doesn't want to play just go outside,why?P.S.we have skunks is the back.please help me with our cat Castiel.

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      Maxi,Tiger,MeowandI 

      12 months ago

      Why do two of my cats not get on? I've now had to send tiger and meow to my grandads barn and I think my other cat Is just trying to get me to himself. Is that right?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      13 months ago from Connecticut

      If your cat is a stray, he may be trying to ensure you are still there. Also, some cats like to know where you are at all times. I have a cat named Salty who follows me all over my apartment when I first get up. If I stop to pet him a bit, he will usually go lay down and wait for me to feed him.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      13 months ago from Connecticut

      Yes cats are stubborn and deliberate. They are also intelligent, he may be trying to tell you he wants attention. Take a moment to pet him when he does this then gently move him out of the way. Also, try paying more attention to him when you are home. Try playing with him, that will wear him out.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      13 months ago from Connecticut

      First, keep the cats away from the door especially if they are not fixed. One of them may be marking the door or somewhere outside. Second, be sure your cat has plenty of high places to hide on and watch the activity below. Because they climb by nature it will keep him active and make him feel more at home.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      13 months ago from Connecticut

      First, a declawed cat should not be outside since you have taken away their ability to fight. The second time the stray came back he knew he couldn't fight him so he didn't try. Please bring your cat inside and keep him there for his safety. Also, what is given to your cat is his and he will fight for it which is probably why he attacked the cat in the first place.

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      June Prince 

      13 months ago

      My cat waits at the bottom of the stairs then follows me up when I'm not in view why is this

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      linda 

      13 months ago

      my cat gets in the way of things by coming to a dead stop even when we come home we have to move him first

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      Jeam 

      13 months ago

      My cat is starting to hiss and trying to bite us only at the door snd we do have cats out side

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      RobertTheCatLover 

      13 months ago

      This article was really helpful now I know how to properly take care of my cat named J.J. (Jack Junior). Also one time my cat saw a stray cat eating my cat's food so my cat freaked out and chased the poor stray until it was off my mom's property even though my mom took him to the vet to get declawed and the stray obviously wasn't but the stray also came back again but the second time the stray came he didn't chase the stray away. Why would he do that?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      13 months ago from Connecticut

      Hi Dar, cats are nocturnal in nature which means playtime is at night when we silly humans are sleeping. Try playing with him to wear him out before you go to bed. Also, make sure he has enough toys to keep him occupied when you are not available. Let me know if I can help further. Cherylone

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      Dar 

      13 months ago

      My cat is an indoor cat, never goes outside at all. He plays and is rowdy at night. while I am sleeping he pounces me in the stomach and knocks all the air out of me and I feel like I am going to actually die when I wake up, I can not breath at all and I choke for a good 2 minutes. I don't know why he does this and I don't know how to stop him. I wish I could tell him that this is hurting me. I think if he knew, he might stop. I fear he will start doing this to my kids. I think he is trying to wake me for attention. I don't know what to do. I don't want to shut my door because then he will feel alone and I don't want that either.

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      Alyssa 

      14 months ago

      Okay so my cat recently just had kittens there was only 3 kittens in the litter. She kept bring me one of the kittens and the next day later it died. The mom cat picks the kittens up and puts them in front of my dog. My dog and the cat do not like each other at all I mean they always fight. My mom told someone at her work about the cat bring the dog the kittens and he said that the cat wants the dog to kill the kittens I’m not sure if that’s true or not or if there sick. I looked it up and it said the cat is just asking the dog to help take care of the kitten?

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      Jean 

      14 months ago

      My cat keeps me up at night. He will whine or jump on the counter top, I do not allow him. But he will do it anyways especially if I am asleep. If I do manage to get him to get close I try to pick him up, he runs off. I keep everything clean. He has food and clean water(I change like 30 times a day). I play with him, When he wants to cuddle I never deny him of it. He has alot of kitten in him. He is only 7 months. I got him fixed 3 weeks ago as well thinking he will settle. He was biting me and my guest that would visit. So any tips, I would appreciate some information. Thanks

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      watergirl 

      14 months ago

      Actually cats don't bring you dead animals as gifts, they bring them to you because they think your hunting skills are lacking. Usually if you get them food they don't like or not enough of it. A dead mouse on your doorstep is your cat's way of saying that your hunting skills suck.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      14 months ago from Connecticut

      Chelsea, generally when a cat lays down in front of you he is acknowledging your seniority in the pack order. It just means he is saying "I surrender to you," and then, "pet me". Being on their side or back makes cats vulnerable to attack, that means he also trusts you. Hope it is a great pet session, cherylone

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      Chelsea 

      14 months ago

      Okay so my cat ks a boy and his name is snowball and when i call his name to come to me so i could pet him he comes in front of me and lays down down and looks at me what dose that mean?

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      Kenzie 

      15 months ago

      hello!! i really enjoyed your article. i have six cats who are all the sweetest and i love with everything in me. a while back, my eldest cat began laying in the cat box? i was wondering if that is possibly an anxiety thing for cats? stress even? my three girls have been going into heat and could be possibly stressing him out because he’s a fixed male? i’m not to sure. i’d like your input. thank you!

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      Bella 

      15 months ago

      How do you know so much about cats have you been studying them or something

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      16 months ago from Connecticut

      Sometimes, as they get older, they want a bit more of your attention. They also have a way of knowing things about us that we do not know. Be sure to keep an eye on the health of both of you while enjoying a bit more cuddles from your cat.

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      Sue Taylor 

      16 months ago

      Why would a cat of 13years start to lie on my arm and put a paw on me as well is there something wrong

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      16 months ago from Connecticut

      Cats have a great inner sense that tells them when a member of their pack is ill or sad and they will try to comfort the member. In your case, you are the Leader and thus they will try harder and harder to comfort you. My cats leave bruises on me all the time, so I know what you mean. The only ways out are: leave the house, close them out of the room, or let them cuddle up. I find that if I let them cuddle up they usually drift off to sleep, and so do I. Hope this helps. Thank you littlegems for stopping by.

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      Littlegems 

      17 months ago

      When I'm sick or feeling really bad my cats will not leave me alone, even if I squirt them with a water bottle. They just keep coming back and try to sit or lay on me. sometimes they will grab me with their claws if I keep trying to push them away. I have 4 cats, and they will do this one at a time, almost so close together it's like they are standing in line. I would let them sit on me, but most of them times it hurts. They will stand on me with their front paws having at least 50 more pounds. I get bruises. I know I'm whining, but it's when I'm sick or feel bad and I don't want to be touched at all, or especially trying to sleep . Do you have any idea what is going on and what I should do about it?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      18 months ago from Connecticut

      ninja2008, I am so glad this article helped you with your little bundle of kitty joy. I love my little ones and they are spoiled, as you can see by their pictures. Thanks for dropping by, cherylone

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      ninja2008 

      18 months ago

      Loved this!! My cat is very much a one person cat. She is always there to greet me and listens to what I say. I believe she thinks she is human. Its great to see that her behaviours are normal and I took alot from your article. I must be doing something right after all.

      Its great to understand she loves me as much as I love her. She truly is a one in a million to me. Whenever I am low she knows and reacts to my emotions. If I am gone for any length of time she will not listen to anyone until I come home. Her bed is mine and she loves her hugs and cuddles at night. She's not the typical head booper but she will nudge my hands and curl up on me any chance she gets. She even helps me "cook" in the kitchen lol. Again, thanks for such an amazing article and I cant wait to see more.

      Much luv from me and my little ninja kittie.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      19 months ago from Connecticut

      I don't know for certain, but I suspect she is trying to tell you she loves you and missed you. Of course it could be something as simple as she wants the post moved as well. Try getting her another one and putting it near a window.

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      Megan 

      19 months ago

      I’ve had my girl for about 5 months she’s super sweet and super spazzy. I live in the attic of my parents and her scratching post is at the top of the stairs *she likes the view*. Every time Ieave she watches me from the top and soon as I open the door to come up she is waiting for me either at the bottom few stairs or is meowing from the top. Wherever she starts at she always seems to dart for the scratching post as soon as I make it to the top and she glares at me while she attacks it lol. Why is this ? She uses it seldomly other times why does she go for it each time I come in ?? And it’s EVERY time lol.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      20 months ago from Connecticut

      Animals can suffer many things including mental issues and arthritis. Have your cat(s) checked out by a vet to see if they are having trouble getting into the litter box, have issues with their sinus cavities due to dusty litter, and sometimes new types of litter can smell off to them. I hope this helps, Cherylone

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      Mkay K55 

      20 months ago

      Had these cats almost a year, 2 spayed female Siamese. Never been friendly, tried treat_food based training. Suspect first 12 weeks at crowded breeder. Anyway, just now started peeing. We clean both boxes daily. Just don't get it.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      20 months ago from Connecticut

      Think about the animals quality of life because quantity is no good if the quality is bad.

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      Gordon Brown 

      22 months ago

      I don't know if I believe about the insulted things. But its possible.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      23 months ago from Connecticut

      Sounds like you have a real independant feline, they can be so snobbish, lol. I hope your strategy works. Write and let me know, please.

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      JackG1979 

      23 months ago

      Thanks Cheryl, We actually have two cats. One WAS abused before it came to us & the other (one I wrote about) we have had since he was first old enough to go to a home. He has been with us all his life. Coincidentally, the cat that was abused, HAS warmed up to me. He comes to me all the time and I can pet and pick him up and he purrs and follows me around the house. The one that was abused before we got him is Oliver. The one that seems to not like attention is Milo. Milo just LOVES my son. He will sleep in bed with my son all night. And during the day my son will be in there playing Xbox and computer games and milo will lay on his bed nearly all day. Open the door, and the Cats head pops up and the kid stays buried in the Ipad game. As soon as I walk over to pet the cat it'll get up and run past me. Or if I see him sitting some place i'll try to pet him and he'll either just get up and leave or keep pulling away. Most cats if u scratch their back they push up into it especially by the tail. Not this guy as you pet from his head to his back, he does the limbo so you don't touch him. He is so rude. LOL I have stopped trying to get close to him. I just figure that something about me scares him. I am 6'4 and almost 250lbs. so IDK if that would scare him... I would assume EVERYONE is big to a cat. I have and would never abuse our pets. Quite the contrary. I buy them lots of toys, treats, scratching posts, a little cat nip once in a while. Both wet and dry food and I leave the baby gates open when i'm not home so they have free run of the place. I am a clean person who washes hands regularly and what not. everyone in the house uses the same hand soaps I do. Neither of them are outdoors cats and we make sure they have no fleas, ticks, or anything regularly. We didn't even DeClaw them because we didn't want to hurt them. They get along great. They run back and forth through the house and sometimes wrestle in the living room. I have never seen a blow out where they screamed or hissed at each other or drew blood or anything. They actually wrestle pretty lightly. For now I"ll just keep my distance. If he wants to see me, he can. I'd never turn him away. But cats seem to like the one that ignores them the most. So I guess that is my next strategy.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      23 months ago from Connecticut

      Before you convict your cat, check out these simple things. A cat will pull away for many reasons, generally because they are afraid or hurt. If your cat is not hurt, try checking for hair matts that can be painful when you pet the cat. Also, check for parasites in the ears and/or inside them (your vet can help you here). Another thing you can check for is fleas and/or ticks which can leave sores especially if your cat is allergic to them. If you have exhausted all of these and the cat is still pulling away, check out his past history. Previous abuse or abandonment can cause a cat to become permanently afraid of human touch. And if you can't find answers there, you should probably let him come to you when he wants attention. Some cats are like that. Please be sure to check with your vet before you try anything else.

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      JackG1979 

      23 months ago

      I was googling why my cat always pulls away when I put him, and why he always cleans himself. I was upset that I didn't think my cat liked me, because he just seems annoyed by me, no matter how much nice food, treats, or attention i show him. He would rather I just left him alone. This article just confirms that he does hat me, and it just breaks my heart, because I love him so much. :.-(

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      Cats cry for many different reasons; however if they didn't before, like your cat, there could be something wrong. First of all, cats will cry through-out the house looking for companions. They might cry because they are in pain and can't sleep or eat. I would check to ensure she is using the litter box for urine and stools and if that is okay, check to see if she has a bad tooth. A sure sign of a bad tooth is whether or not the cat is eating. Also, check for parasites-worms and fleas are the most prevalent. If none of these work, you might want to have her checked by a vet just to ensure she is well. Older cats get joint pain just like us only they can't complain about it. Finally, check for a hairball (I use a bag of 'hairball' food once a month to help my cats pass all that hair they ingest. jane o teske, I hope I have helped you with your kittie.

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      jane o teske 

      2 years ago

      my older cat that never meowed before, she was very quiet, now is meowing all the time. it usually starts at 3am and can last for hours. I have tried to ignore it but it seems to be getting back. Is she lonely, looking for something or getting just older. I think she is greater than 12 hrs. I adopted her as approximately a 2 year old and have had her for 8 to 9 years.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      Although there are male cats that love the kittens, usually the male will attack them, especially the males ones because they will grow up to be his competition for the females so I don't think he is looking for the kittens. I do, however, think he might be 'tomming'. What I mean is that this is the best time for females to go into heat (ready to mate) and he is probably looking to mate again. If you haven't gotten him fixed, that could be the case. Most males who have been fixed will not tom. Another thing is--if he is not fixed, he might spray around, in and on your house to let females know he is there and to warn off other males. FYI-- an unfixed male can create many, many, many kittens. Hope I have helped, Marysol. Let me know if I can help you further.

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      Marysol 

      2 years ago

      My cat has been meeting a female cat outside our house. I think, it got pregnant, he has been with it the whole time, these past few days, he has been purring loudly and seems to be searching from the bushes all the time. I think, he is worried the female cat has given birth. How could I understand him?, help Please!!!!

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      Your voice probably has a calming affect on her because you show her love. However, it is hard to know what is actually happening because cats can't tell us. I have had cats that behaved as though they had been abused, yet I had raised them from the day they were born; others who were abused have been the sweetest ever. I am afraid I can't tell you directly why she might be doing this, but you could try to change her sleeping area (it might remind her of something), change her food (she might be getting an upset stomach) or make sure she gets plenty of exercise during the day (she may have digestive issues that hurt when the food passes a certain point). And sometimes all you can do is give them lots of love and hope they eventually forget what might be bothering them. I wish you and her good luck. Sometimes a vet can help in these situations, so be sure to ask the next time you visit a vet.

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      Che 

      2 years ago

      I rescued a kitten when she was approximately 10 weeks..the female(Empress Luna) tends to always cry out when she's sleeping...like, she'll be sleeping and then all of a sudden she'll wake up and cry out and once she sees me and hears my voice she lays back down and sleeps..I'm very perplexed by this and wonder what the original owners did to her for her to always do this

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      That could also be true. Either way, at least you know he wants to be with you. Thanks for telling me that.

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      Daphnne 

      2 years ago

      thanks for the reply! I spoke to some colleagues of mine who had dozens of cats. She suggested that maybe he was abandoned before (found at 5 months old) and is afraid i might abandon him?

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      Daphnne, Let me first say this--cats are individual in their behavior so don't be surprised at anything your cat might do. Now the scratching and biting---yes, they learn by demonstration and in the cat world if you cry out in pain, they had better stop (unless it is prey and then watch out, lol). The inverted "U" just means he is content in his environment. My cats will often swirl their tail-tip around when they are content. The last one is a funny one, cats are babies at heart. They love your attention when they want it, but they will take off if they aren't in the mood for pets. Because you react by calling him and petting him, he cries for your attention when you are not immediately available to him. Once he finds you, he is happy. Don't be fooled by their baby-face though because they can be rotten when they want to be and devious as well. Your cat is most likely just trying to get you to pay attention to him. If it worked once, it will work again is their motto. Hope I have helped you. Be sure to contact me again if you have more questions and thanks for stopping by.

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      Daphnne 

      2 years ago

      My adopted kitty (7months old, I had him for a month) used to claw my leg till it bleed and when I cry and yell and show him my leg, he now only uses his paws to grab my legs, should this be encouraged?

      Also, sometimes he walks with his tail straight up but other times I noticed his tail is in inverted 'U' shape. Not directly between his legs, or low on the floor but it arches up and bends down low. What does it mean?

      Lastly, he doesn't like to be alone, I once left him in the living room and went to my bedroom (doors opened) for half an hour when suddenly I heard him yowling (like a crying sound) and I called his name and he came running and purring and rubbing against me , with me cuddling him and asking him " don't u know im in here? I am here with you good boy~"

      He doesn't like being alone i think, because if he realise he is alone in the living room while me and my sis went to our bedroom to lie down (again, our doors are never closed) he immediately run in and give off a frightened low growl or like an exasperated sound.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      I hope I have helped both you and your cat. Thanks for stopping by!

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      Unknown 

      2 years ago

      Awesome thanks for telling me that

      I will remember this for next time my cat does something

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      Julie, cats become aggressive for several reasons-change in environment like new people in the house is one; young children can make a cat's life miserable which could also cause aggression; sometimes it is as simple as getting them furniture of their own like a cat tree or scratching pad; if there are other cats in the house, you might want to ensure that there is a litter box for each of them; try having a different member of the family feeding the cat to get them used to the scent; try getting a toy to help the cat work out their aggression on the toy and not you-I like the laser lights and anything with feathers-if you play with them, it works better-try just before feeding time; I hope these suggestions help. Let me know if they don't and I will work to get you other ideas.

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      Julie 

      2 years ago

      My daughter has a cat that has become very aggressive towards every one except her,she has had her neutered but it has made no difference,she attacks for no reason scratches and bite's please help !!

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      This answer will depend on many factors. How long have you had your cat? Being in a new environment could cause such behavior. Does he have toys and cat trees to play on? Since cats are normally nocturnal, if he has nothing to keep him busy, he is probably trying to let you know he is bored. Do you let your cat sleep with you at night, or does he sleep on the bed during the day? Sometimes the cat will sleep during the day on the bed and then stare at night because you are sleeping on their bed. Something you could try is to get the cat his own bed, kept near your bed so he is in the same room. Also, an unfixed cat will stare at night because they want to go outside to mate or protect their territory. An easy fix for that is to get him/her fixed. Let me know if I can help any further.

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      Mal 

      2 years ago

      My cat has been staring at me from the corner of my room at night and it is creepy! I was hoping this would help me with that situation and why he is doing so. Please help

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      2 years ago from Connecticut

      I am so glad I could help. Thank you for letting me know you liked it.

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      kittygirl 

      3 years ago

      i love this article! ive had multiple cats of my own[ they've all died or run away:( ] and it helped me understand a few things they did. THANKS!!!!!

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 years ago from Connecticut

      ma ma, it does happen. Quite often in fact. Each cat has their own set of quirks and personality traits just like us.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 years ago from Connecticut

      jbgjbj, sorry, didn't see this one when I asked the question above. I believe the cat is curious because of the flame dancing and giving off heat. Try using a spray bottle set on single spray to shock him away from the flame. Other than that, sometimes we just have to give in and use flame-less candles.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      3 years ago from Connecticut

      jbgjb, I had a cat that would go after my candles all the time. I wouldn't leave a lite candle in any room unless I was there for fear she would stick her nose in it and set herself on fire. I believe it was because the flame 'danced' and gave off heat. Sadly, she is not with me anymore. None of my vets could tell me why, and none of my other cats were interested in candles or any other type of flame, so I guess I have to wait for more info. What does your cat do with the flame?

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      ma ma 

      3 years ago

      That does sound wierd , are you shore that this is true

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      jbgjbj 

      3 years ago

      my cat keeps going near fire and geting burned

      i try to punish the my cat or stop lighting candles, i dont know if hes trying to get attention or what

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      jbgjbj 

      3 years ago

      what happens if your cat likes fire

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