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Why Does My Cat Bite Me?

Bridget is a long-time cat owner, cat sitter, and cat lover with years of feline research and hands-on experience.

Find out why your cat is biting you and how to deal with it.

Find out why your cat is biting you and how to deal with it.

Why Is My Cat Biting Me?

The first thing to do when dealing with a cat that bites is to distinguish between aggressive cat biting and gentle bites (sometimes called "love bites").

In order to change or work with a behavior, we need to understand why it is happening.

Two Types of Cat Bites Explained

  1. Play Aggression: Aggressive biting is painful and can lead to bleeding, infection, and even scarring. When a cat bites aggressively, it is usually because they are feeling fearful or because they are reacting to their senses picking up on another cat in the area.

    These types of bites may have to do with play aggression (playing too roughly) territorial aggression, or a response based on early abuse that the cat may have endured. Play aggression is the most common reason for cat bites to humans.
  2. "Love Bites": So-called "love bites" are actually a form of cat communication and typically occur when a cat is feeling overstimulated or when the cat feels a strong bond with you. These bites are typically gentler bites that do not break human skin.
This kitten appears sweet and gentle right now, but watch out at play time!

This kitten appears sweet and gentle right now, but watch out at play time!

1. Play Aggression: A Common Problem

Play aggression is the most typical reason for aggressive biting, particularly among young kittens and cats. Our cats are a part of our families, but they are still animals and need to play to let out some of their excess energy, as well as to instinctively hone their natural hunting skills. Cats typically play with each other to practice their social skills and to work on their coordination, too. However, many cats are the only cat in the household, so it makes sense that they need and want to play with humans!

The problem occurs when cats play a bit too roughly for our human skin. Cats have a thick coat of fur, and will often bite, scratch, and wrestle with each other. This behavior comes naturally to them, and our cats don't realize that we have sensitive skin with no fur for protection.

Cats are natural predators.

Cats are natural predators.

Five Ways to Stop Play Aggression

Now that we know the reasons for play aggression, it's time to think about ways of handling our cat's rough play while still allowing them to have fun and get their exercise.

  1. Set regular play times with your cat. If a cat or kitten is feeling bored and trying to get you to play, they may bite or scratch at you roughly to try to get your attention and provoke a reaction, much as it would with another cat. If the cat knows to expect us to play at certain times of the day, they may be less likely to try to go after our hands or feet every time we walk by. This play time will also use up a good amount of the cat's excess energy and give them a chance to hunt some "prey" and practice their skills. 10 minutes of play time twice daily is a common recommendation.
  2. Play with the cat using toys. It's cute and fun to move our hands under a blanket or across the floor and let a tiny kitten attack, but once a cat is older they may associate our hands and feet with playtime and attack as much as possible, causing pain and open wounds! Cats do best when we use toys that are separated from our hands and feet, such as fishing pole type toys, for instance, which they can chase, attack, and bite. This way, our cat will associate the toys with play time and not our bodies.
  3. Carry a toy and use it as a distraction. Use this trick if the cat attacks feet and legs when we walk by. As the cat is getting used to the idea that toys are for playing and human bodies are not, we may need to distract them before they pounce and bite. This means that it is a good idea to have a toy on hand (or in a pocket) whenever possible so it can be tossed to the floor as a distraction from our ankles and toes if we sense an oncoming cat attack!
  4. If the cat does attack during play time or at any other time: walk away, look away, and do not engage. Cats try to attack and play because they are trying to get us to play back. They do not respond well to punishment, yelling, or any type of negative stimulus. Cats do understand when we ignore them and stop providing attention for bad behavior, though. If our cat is suddenly biting us or becoming aggressive toward us during play time, the best course of action is to walk way into another room and ignore the cat if it follows. Do not make eye contact, do not touch the cat, and do not offer treats or pick the cat up.
  5. Keep the environment interesting. Try giving the cat new toys every so often, or set up perches and hiding spaces for the cat so it can spend time playing alone as well. If provided with a number of toys as well as a fun environment, our cats are able to entertain themselves (and use up a good amount of their energy) for quite some time!

2. "Love Bites"

"Love bites" are another type of cat or kitten bite. These typically occur when the cat is overstimulated or when the cat is feeling strongly bonded to us. Love bites are not typically painful (although they can be at times, depending on the cat). These types of bites will often happen when a cat does not want to be pet anymore, when he or she would like to be put back down on the ground, or when the cat is just beginning to feel playful.

How to Prevent "Love Bites"

The best way to watch out for a love bite is to pay attention to a cat's tail! If your cat's tail is swishing and low toward the ground, it's typically time to give him or her some space!

Also, watch out for the cat's ears moving back toward the back of their head, which may mean that the cat is about to get aggressive or is ready to bite. Cats do give us signals when they are unhappy with us or have had enough, and it is up to us to pay attention to them. Some cats do not have much of a tolerance for petting, for instance, and we must respect that.

How to Clean Cat Bites and Wounds

Treating and sterilizing a cat bite is very important!

  1. It's best to first clean the area with soap and water.
  2. Run the wound under running water if possible for a few minutes and then wash with soap.
  3. Dry and apply an antibiotic ointment to the area.
  4. Cover with a sterile bandage.
  5. If you are unable to stop bleeding, or if you notice any signs or symptoms of infection, see a doctor immediately!


This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. It is not meant to substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, or formal and individualized advice from a veterinary medical professional. Animals exhibiting signs and symptoms of distress should be seen by a veterinarian immediately.


wally the cat on August 09, 2018:

I bite you because I'm a jerk and your prey

Amy on November 06, 2017:

My cat is about one and she seems to like to nibble on my lower lip and sometimes she will bite me for no reason that I know of but then wants to lay down on me and goes to sleep....why does she do this?

joelle on September 08, 2017:

my cat bites nastily, no love bite or play bite at all

sitting on my laps being stroked and all of a sudden she turn round and bites painfully, or just walking she walks around my legs and suddenly same thing she turns around and bites strongly

she has done it a few times so now I don't touch her anymore but I have no idea why she does that can anyone enlighten me please as I am really getting off her

Bridget F (author) from USA on September 05, 2017:

cathy duncan,

I totally know what you mean about the nipping for food and wanting attention! It's funny how they have such strong personalities and get to know ours, too! Now that I have two I can really see the differences between them and they really are lifesavers :)

Thanks for stopping by!

cathy duncan on September 04, 2017:

I have to tell you, I have 4 cats, the older two nip at me all the time. When I get up in the morning, I swear its to tell me they want to eat! And the 2nd oldest Bandit (White with a few black spots) is the boss of the house! The older one Voodoo (all black double paws)and the twins back off if he comes near me! He does not like it when the others want my attention! The twins, Linus & Lucy, have each other to play and fight with, they are long hair orange and white, and they always have their tails standing straight up! they are all indoor and outdoor cats, they don't stray far from the house and always know when its time to eat! I know their every mood! They know when I am sad, or sick. I don't know what I would do without them. They were my lifesaver when my Darling Husband passed. Thanks for being here.

BethMurray on January 21, 2017:

The cat is my son's feline. I got is for his daughter while in the process of buying house on short sale. I am not fond of the cat but have a bond with the cat who bites me every chance she get. She comes in my space just to bite me. It was a feral kitten and the mother is often lurking around the house. I pray the biting stop or he will have to find another home before their home is closed on

Rose on September 28, 2016:

I love our cat very much. I try to play with him as much as possible,but he still likes to grab my legs and bite. He is 2 yrs old We have had 4 catsin our 54 yrs of marriage but this is our fifth and his disposition is so different He doesn't like to be held or made of. We got him at a shelter.Helets you know when its time for his food by meowing he is afraid of people. Doesn't like loud noises, Hope he gets better with age

Bridget F (author) from USA on September 10, 2016:

Oh wow! I have a cat who is the same way, maybe he needs another check up!

FlourishAnyway from USA on September 09, 2016:

One of my cats was a "nipper" and "swatted" but had a sweet disposition. We had only had him about two years and he was getting crankier and crankier. I got his teeth cleaned because his breath smelled bad and I though he might have a bad tooth. I found he had seven !!! yucky teeth that needed to be immediately removed. He hasn't bitten me since. He had to be in such agony. No wonder the guy was grading on me!