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Cats Not Getting Along? Some Tips to Help

Updated on May 11, 2016
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Find out some reasons why cats sometimes don't get along and some tips to help them co-exist peacefully in your home.
Find out some reasons why cats sometimes don't get along and some tips to help them co-exist peacefully in your home. | Source

Do you have cats that aren’t getting along? There could be a multitude of reasons why your cats are fighting. Although felines tend to be quiet and low key, they all have very distinct personalities. Some are aggressive and bold, others timid, or laid-back and carefree. When you have more than one cat, things can sometimes get a little dicey when those personalities come together under one roof.

If your cats aren’t getting along, you need to find out why it’s happening before you can solve the problem. This article will discuss the various reasons behind cats not getting along and offer some solutions.

"Don't mess with me!"
"Don't mess with me!"

Every cat fight is not the same…

Sometimes what looks light a cat fight is actually just normal playing. It’s more common with younger cats, but it can happen at any age. Cats will chase each other around the house, tackle each other and fight like little wrestlers on the floor. It can sometimes get pretty intense, but as long as they're not crying out in pain, there’s no need to break them up. They’re probably just having fun or trying to establish their rank in the household.

If your cats are still in the ‘getting to know each other’ phase (the first few months after a new cat has been brought into the home) and doing the kind of play-fighting described above, don’t worry. They’re probably battling for the alpha-cat position in the household.

This happened with my two cats after they met and went on for about two or three months. They had a good fight almost every day, but gradually that tapered off and they began getting along much better. If you suspect that’s what’s going on with your cats, just let them get it out of their system.

In a real catfight, you’ll see claws, teeth and hear plenty of hissing, growling and crying. You will want to break up this type of fight, but don’t get in the middle of it. The best way is to clap loudly or stomp on the floor to scare the cats. Some people suggest spraying the warring cats with a water bottle, but I’ve heard mixed-opinions on whether that’s a good idea. If you try to pull one cat off the other, you’ll likely end up getting scratched. Of course remember to never hit or strike a cat. It won’t solve the problem and will only make the cat distrust you.

"Who you looking at???"
"Who you looking at???"

Here are some tips to help solve different scenarios of cats not getting along:

A new cat is not getting along with current cat(s) in household

Bringing a new cat or kitten into the home when you already have one or more cats can upset the current cat hierarchy within the household. A proper, slow introduction of the cats will help ease the adjustment.

Here is an introduction technique to try even if your cats have already met and spent time together.

Technique for Re-Introduction of a Cat or Kitten:

1) Separate the cats that aren’t getting along.

2) Give the newest cat or kitten its own safe room. It can be a bedroom, a bathroom, a laundry room or any room with a door where the cat can be isolated from the other cat(s) in the household. Make this room the cat’s special place, complete with his water, food, litter box, bedding and toys. This is an important step to calm the situation and to make sure the cat is safe and protected from the other cat(s).

3) For the first week, the only contact the cats should have is batting at each other’s paws at the bottom of the door. That’s it.

4) During this week, put a clean towel into this room and give your other cat(s) a clean towel to rest on as well. After the cats have slept on the towels for a while and their scents are on them, switch towels so both cats can adjust to each other’s scents. Do this towel switching once or twice a day.

5) Also during this week, allow your existing cats to explore your new cat’s room when he’s not in it. This is another way for the cats to get used to each other’s scent.

6) Once a week has passed, put the cats in their separate carriers and place the carriers a couple feet apart, facing each other. There may be some hissing or growling, but that’s normal. As they become more used to seeing each other, move the carriers a little closer together. Keep doing this carrier technique once or twice a day for a couple days.

7) Now they’re ready to meet again. I usually like to start with the two cats in a carrier on opposite sides of the room and then let them both out. Be sure someone is there at all times to supervise them very closely at this point. There can be a variety of reactions. Hiding. Hissing. Growling. Sniffing each other. Swatting. If they start to fight, break it up by clapping loudly and then distract them with toys or a couple treats. If it goes (relatively) well, let them spend no more than an hour together. If things aren’t going well, put the new cat back in his safe room and let them meet again like this tomorrow.

If this re-introduction technique doesn’t go well and the cats are still aggressively fighting after a couple days, you will have to start the entire re-introduction technique again and go through each step much more slowly over the period of several weeks.

"Watch out!!!"
"Watch out!!!"

Cats that used to get along are now fighting

There can be several things that cause formerly friendly cats to begin fighting with each other or not getting along. Here are some of the most common:

Territorial Behavior

If one or both cats begins feeling territorial about their favorite lounging spot, their litter box or food bowls, this can cause fights. If you notice fights that seem to come from one or more of these things, you’re going to need to do some separation.

Feed the cats in separate areas or even separate rooms if necessary. Make sure you have enough litter boxes in the house and put one of them in a different place in case one of the cats has claimed a particular litter box as his own. See that each cat has his own resting spot, whether that’s a bed, cat tree or just a blanket of their own.

If the fights are particularly bad (i.e. fur is flying or blood is drawn), be sure to keep the cats in completely separate rooms unless someone’s around to keep an eye on them. If you go out, make sure they’re separated.


Cats instinctively hide illness as a means of survival, so it can often be very difficult to know if your cat is sick. Sometimes, by the time they show actual symptoms, they’re extremely ill. If one of your cats is ill, they may be more short-tempered and begin fighting with another cat they previously got along with. Also, multiple cats in a household form a hierarchy, so if your ‘alpha cat’ is ill, another cat may be fighting to take over its spot.

Be aware of any signs of illness such as changes in eating or drinking habits, litter box habits or energy level. If you aren’t sure if you have a sick cat, you should definitely take them to the veterinarian to rule out illness as a cause of the new fighting.

Personality Conflicts

Just like people, some cats just don’t get along for whatever reason. Maybe you have an energetic young cat or kitten that’s constantly annoying your older, more sedate cat. Or two females that just can’t seem to get along. These types of conflicts can be temporary or on-going and the best thing to do is make sure the cats have as much of their own space as possible. Separate areas to eat, sleep and use the litter box can sometimes diffuse the situation.

Give each cat plenty of individual attention and find ways to distract them so they have something to do other than fight. Try various cat toys such as the Bergen TurboScratcher, springs or whatever types of toys your cats are most interested in.

If the fights are extreme enough that you fear they’ll injure each other, put the cats in separate rooms at night or when you leave the house.

It’s possible that some cats may never quite get along, but usually they will learn to accept each other if you try some of the ideas mentioned above. It takes time and patience in some cases, but you should see at least some improvement.

Here are some things to try when cats aren’t getting along…

  • Make sure each cat has plenty of his or her own space. This means putting their food and water bowls, litter boxes and beds in separate areas.
  • Don’t give the cats catnip. It can increase aggression in some cats.
  • Have plenty of their favorite cat toys around to distract them from fighting.
  • Make time they spend together is as pleasant as possible. Encourage fun activity such as playing or giving each one a treat.
  • If you have a big cardboard box, open both ends and put it on the floor from them to crawl and play in. It's rare to find a cat that doesn't have fun with cardboard boxes.
  • Give each cat plenty of individual attention.
  • Don’t leave the cats alone together when you go out until you're confident they're not going to get into a serious fight.
  • Have some Feliway on hand. Feliway is a product that replicates a pheromone that can calm cats during times of stress or fighting. It comes in both a spray and an electric diffuser. It can be purchased at most pet stores and online.
  • If your cat(s) are not spayed or neutered, they will be more prone to aggressive behavior. Unless you breed cats, consider having your pet neutered.

With a little effort on our part, most cat conflicts can be resolved, or at least reduced to the point where the cats learn to tolerate each other without resorting to serious fights.

I hope these tips have been useful to you, and your cats will soon learn to enjoy each other’s company.

It took a little time, but these guys are now best friends!
It took a little time, but these guys are now best friends!


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    • DzyMsLizzy profile image

      Liz Elias 4 years ago from Oakley, CA

      Very interesting. Over the years, we'v acquired a new cat or two every so often. Our grand total now stands at 6 of our own, plus a foster kitten who, at 5 months of age, has yet to be adopted. We don't have any extra bedrooms; the laundry is off limits to cats for various reasons, and the rest of the house is open-plan. So, we've never been able to do that "gradual intro" thing. We just supervise carefully, and make sure one of us is always in the house, and respond quickly to sounds of hostility.

      It is always interesting when new fosters come in. At first, there are hissy fits, particularly from the "grand dame" of the lot...who is actually the third down the chain of actual seniority..but the actual most senior cat is so stoned out on her drugs to control her epilepsy that she barely notices anything going on around her.

      The second is a large Orange Maine Coon Tabby mix...the 2nd in the 'command' rank, the largest of them all, and also the biggest WUSS! The 4th down the line, (who came to US to be rescued), a 'marble' orange tabby, (Jigsaw Puzzle), chases poor Tigger all over and cows him. I keep telling him, "Tigger, if you don't run, he can't chase you!" (It doesn't

      The next two, our current youngest at just a year old, are our first fosters---errrr...foster failures...we fell in love with now they're ours... are sisters, and one of them loves to play with the kitten, the other swats him for 'bothering' her. Of them all, Jigsaw Puzzle behaves the best with the newcomers, taking on the role of 'big brother' or 'uncle' to the babies. He will nap with them, groom them, and so forth.

      For the most part, though, they all generally get along well enough...and if they don't, the squirt bottle is our best method...all they have to do is see it anymore..they know what it means. The Feliway, I've not found to work at all, and it's expensive.

      You've done a great job of covering all the points we offer to the new adopters of the kittens from the rescue I volunteer with. Those tips work most of the time for most situations. Voted up, useful interesting and shared.

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      carolynkaye 4 years ago from USA

      6 cats?! Wow, that's great! :) Your house must never be boring. Thanks much for your comment and vote!

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      Chris Achilleos 3 years ago

      I really enjoyed reading. An other hub of yours which includes information that I have found interesting and useful. Thank you for sharing.

      Voted up, useful and interesting!

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      carolynkaye 3 years ago from USA

      Thanks much for the votes and comments, Chris Achilleos. Much appreciated.

    • kaitlyn 3 years ago

      My cat has been swatting & hissing at a lot of people, even me she never used to do this any ideas on what I could do to prevent this from happening?

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      carolynkaye 3 years ago from USA

      Hi kaitlyn,

      Since this is new behavior, is there some kind of change in the home that could be stressing her out? Is there a new person or new pet in the home? Did you recently move? Is she getting the same amount of attention as she usually does? If it's not something new or different in her environment, it's possible she isn't feeling well and the hissing and swatting is just because she's irritable or in pain. If that's the case, it might be a good idea to take her to the vet to make sure there's not a health issue that's making her suddenly act different.

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      Riviera Rose 3 years ago from South of France

      I loved this hub - sadly both my cats have gone now but they had a very love/hate relationship - one minute they'd be snuggled up asleep, then they'd start licking each other, and then all hell would break loose and they'd be punching each other like boxers! When the younger girl returned, having gone missing for a couple of days, my boy was visibly irritated, and when he died she was THRILLED - she loved being the sole cat and getting to choose on whose lap to sit.

      They did make me laugh, and I miss them both every day. One day I'll get more cats but I'm not ready yet. Love the pics of your cats - what snugglebunnies!!! :)

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      Liz Elias 3 years ago from Oakley, CA

      Update: The youngest foster, another orange tabby, mentioned in my previous comment, refused to show well at adoption events. HE decided he'd already found his forever home, and did not want to leave, so he behaved in such a way that all the potential adopters thought he was a boring ... yep, he is now also ours...bringing our total to 7. We can't foster anymore--too hard to give them up, and we are full up.

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      Ronald E. Franklin 3 years ago from Mechanicsburg, PA

      I don't have cats, but like reading about them. This seems like a really informative hub, and I enjoyed reading it.

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      carolynkaye 3 years ago from USA

      Riviera Rose - That's an interesting story. It's funny how complicated cat relationships can be. I appreciate your comments :-)

      DzyMsLizzy - Well, I guess he was meant to be yours then! That's cute :) As much as I'd love to foster a cat or kitten, I'd probably end up wanting to keep them too. It took my brown tabby at least six months to stop sulking and giving me angry looks after I brought home my little orange guy.

      RonElFran - Thanks for your comments :) Much appreciated!

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      idigwebsites 3 years ago from United States

      Spaying is definitely the solution to lessen the aggressive behavior in cats. Thanks for your suggestions, although I have yet to own cats that aren't siblings (they get along well with each other generally). Up and useful :)

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      carolynkaye 3 years ago from USA

      Thanks for the comments and votes, idigwebsites :)

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      Hailey 3 years ago

      Cool hub! I adore pets, I have 2 cats that fight from time to time, the bigger one hits the smaller one I guess it's a typical situation, they also fight for my attention with each sweet and sad the same time.

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      carolynkaye 3 years ago from USA

      Thanks, HaileyAdams. Yeah, occasional fighting is really common. I think each cat wants to feel like they're your favorite. That's how mine are, especially the bigger one.

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      Sid Kemp 3 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      Thanks, this is really helpful. We had two sister-cats since 2003, and they got along fine. Twice, we tried to introduce other cats. Once was a pair of cats owned by a friend who had a family emergency, and we cared for her cats for six months. The other was a rescue of a stray. In both cases, our cats never accepted the new cat. (We actually set up a divided house for 6 months to care for our friend's cats.

      Now, one of the sisters has died. We've thought about bringing in a new companion cat, but were afraid of the problem of rejection. It's good to know these techniques are here for us when we're ready. Voted up and useful.

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      carolynkaye 3 years ago from USA

      Thanks, SidKemp. I'm glad it helped. I think bringing in another cat is a good idea. Cats really seem to miss their lost friend and getting another can help with loneliness. I hope it works out.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Great advice and wonderful photos illustrating your points. I love how your cats cooperated in your story line. They are beautiful. Well written hub. You can really tell you know this stuff cold.

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      carolynkaye 3 years ago from USA

      Thanks, FlourishAnyway :0)

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      Vladimir 2 years ago from Australia

      Please, please don't use the water spray!

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      Liz Elias 23 months ago from Oakley, CA

      Update #2: We now have a semi-feral trying to adopt us. She's a pretty Russian Blue (probably a mix), who has been around the area for a little while. The fellow behind us had her and some others hanging around his yard, and this one apparently had a couple of litters. He caught her, and had her spayed, but continued to leave her outside. She is a regular visitor to our yard, and quite sweet, if still fairly timid. We estimate her to be around 3 years old.

      Over winter, hubby felt sorry for her, as it got quite cold, and really chilly overnight, so he thought we should feed her, since some of the other area cats were running her out of her food bowl. We also made a shelter for her, and when it got really cold in December, we moved her into the shop with our epileptic girl, where it is warmer. She's been out there ever since, with a few forays out in the yard, but she always comes back and stays close. Lately, we've been bringing her inside for short spells to introduce her to our other kitties. (Hubby's idea!) Looks like we're on the way to 8 cats!

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      carolynkaye 23 months ago from USA

      @DzyMsLizzy: That's sweet! They seem to know if someone already has cats and wouldn't mind another one. It sounds like she plans to stay :) Thanks for the update!

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      Liz Elias 18 months ago from Oakley, CA

      Congrats on getting your hub posted on the Hub Pages Facebook group page!! Nice!

      Final update:

      Well--we were at 8 cats for a short time, until March of this year (2015). At that time, our senior epileptic kitty took a bad turn, and was not "in there" anymore she became unresponsive and could not even stand up, so she had to be helped to cross the Rainbow Bridge. So we are now stable at 7 cats of our own.

      Meanwhile, however, my stepdaughter fell on hard times, and hubby could not see her living in her car, so we created a small "apartment" in our shop for her, where she now has HER two cats as well. She moved in shortly before our senior went downhill, and it was actually her cats who alerted us that Patches was having a serious problem on what was to be her final day.

      No more. We are full up, both space and budget-wise! ;)

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      carolynkaye 18 months ago from USA

      Aww, sorry about Patches. It's amazing how cats will let you know if something's wrong with their friend.

      Thanks about the Hub. I didn't know there was a Facebook page so I haven't seen it yet.

    • gc 15 months ago

      This article is huge help! We're on our second night with our new foster kitten. Our other kitten is almost 7 months old (has been alone with just us his whole life) and the new one is 4 months old (came from a shelter with lots of interaction). As soon as we brought him home we separated them in different rooms as we were recommended to. The 2 kittens were immediately playing and cooing to each other under the door and after a few hours and a botched attempt at leaving the room they ended up face to face! They stared at each other for a while then began chasing each other and doing what I would call play fighting (no hissing or super aggressive behavior) but I decided it would be best to separate them. We've mainly been keeping them separated because I believe the older kitten may feel a little bit threatened by the newcomer but when they are in the same room they chase and play fight for a little before we separate them again. I just found this article and will be following the re-introduction process to be on the safe side. Thanks!

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      carolynkaye 15 months ago from USA

      gc - thanks for your comments! That sounds like a good idea. They just want to get to know each other and establish their rank in the household. It's helpful to do the slow introduction. Even once they are together they'll probably do the play fighting sometimes for a while because they're kittens, but it likely won't become too aggresive as long as they feel comfortable with the other.

    • Kelsey28 15 months ago

      My family got a new cat after the passing of our old one. We waited quite some time before doing so though. We didn't think our other cat would have a problem seeing as she was raised from a kitten with another cat around. But she isn't getting along with him. She hides under my bed and goes as far as to not come out to use her litter box or even eat. Whenever our new cat comes near her she growls and hisses and spits at him. We've waited a little over a month now and she's only gotten worst. We've tried everything to get her to adjust to him. All she does is hide though and fight with him if he tries to get near her. He isn't being aggressive to her he is friendly and wants to befriend her, but she refuses. What do we do?

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      carolynkaye 15 months ago from USA

      What are the ages of your cats? Are they neutered/spayed? It sounds to me like the cat you had first feels threatened by a new cat in what she considers her territory. One thing I would try is to get an extra litter box and keep it in a different area from the other one so each cat has their own litter box. Same with the food and water bowls. Try to put each cat by one specific litter box and food/water bowls so they feel it's their own. You might also want to try the re-introduction technique I go over in this Hub. When you do have them together in the same room, try to use cat toys or a feather wand to get them playing. Use cat treats to lure her out from hiding if possible. Anything you can to keep her interactions with the new guy positive and associate with him play and treats. I know it's hard if she's hiding, but I think the re-introduction could help and seperate litter boxes and food/water areas for them, at least until they're getting along might make her feel less threatened and upset by the new cat. Hope this helps in some way.

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      Liz Elias 15 months ago from Oakley, CA

      Well, the final update last posted was not--lol. The little Russian Blue is now also part of the household. The others are not impressed and have cowed her into staying in the front of the house. We're still working on that issue.

      Meanwhile, a black feral that has been in the area, we called the rescue and had him set for TNR service, but he had a bad abcess on his neck, and he was treated for that at the time, and given an antibiotic injection. However, he also had "the runs," so step-daughter wanted to treat him, and make sure he was over that before releasing him again, and at this point, it appears she is taming him, and keeping him in with her cats. Our personal count remains at 7; but total for the household, counting hers, is now 10! Yikes!

    • jenn 15 months ago

      I have had many many cats & kittens from feral rescues to new babies too cute to say no to. I have taken in an adult female who ive spayed. She is extremely aggressive to our current cats. Ive tried Everything from separate rooms , feliway ...ive rehabilitated tons of cats. But this girl 4 months later..still charges the other cats very aggressively to attack. W ppl she is So nice..any suggestions. ..plz i need help

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      Kristen Howe 12 months ago from Northeast Ohio

      Great lens with real usual information on why cats fights and what to do about it later on. This is good to know to have for future use.

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      carolynkaye 12 months ago from USA

      Thank you, Kristen :) I appreciate the feedback :)

    • debthepplmedic 9 months ago

      HELP!!! My female cat that is 1 1/2 years old and has been an only child since she was 3 weeks old. She has been fixed. She is my baby! I recently got a 9 month old male, the people couldn't keep him. I have had him for over a month now. I have done all the above suggestions and then some, to include crying and praying. My female cat is loving at times, but most of the time she is loving on her terms. My female cat is very aggressive toward the male. the male is a very loving sweet kitty. Wants me to hold him like you would new born baby, loves to snuggle. Thinking the jealously thing going on.

      I do try to not love on him very much in front of her. When my female cat howls/hisses and swats at him, he just lays down and rolls over on his back. If she runs, he chases her. I think he believes she is playing when she isn't. I want them to be friends but at this point in time, I am desperate to get them to at least tolerate each other without me putting one in a room and shutting the door all the time. I feel terrible and guilty that I do have to put the new cat in a room and close the door while I am at work for over 24 hrs at a time. I feel like I am breaking his loving spirit. He is schedule to be fixed first of May. Please any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!

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      carolynkaye 9 months ago from USA

      Hi debthepplmedic, I wish I could give you advice, but it seems like you're doing everything you can at this point. I guess the female liked having you all to herself and now she's jealous and hurt that there's another cat competing for your attention. When I added a second cat, I had a similar situation and it took a long time before my first cat didn't look at me like he was 'betrayed' that I got another cat. I think it's good you're seperating them when you're not home for now, as difficult as that is. Your male might be calmer once he's spayed and maybe she'll be less aggressive towards him. It's hard to say, but it's possible she'll get used to having him around and as he becomes older and less 'kitten-like' she won't be as annoyed. I hope it works out because they both sound like sweet cats and it's fun to have cats in pairs.

    • debthepplmedic 9 months ago

      Thank you! I, at times want to give up! But I am not! I love both kitties and their different personalities! I just hate leaving one shut in a room. I do open the window about an 1/2 to 1 inch so to have fresh air. And I can watch them on cameras(due to problems with an ex getting in my house, I now have camera's) but the camera been great to see what my two furry children are doing! Thank you!.

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      carolynkaye 9 months ago from USA

      You're very welcome. I think your patience with them will pay off once they get through this adjustment period :-)

    • Raquel 9 months ago


      I'm so glad that I came across your article. We had four cats, two older and established that we had adopted at the same time several years ago, and we recently adopted two siblings as kittens.

      The cats got along quite well and the only fighting was largely "play fighting", which actually seemed quite fun for one of the older ones.

      Recently, however, one of the older cats died. Ever since, one of the kittens and the remaining older cat (the one who had enjoyed play fighting) have been at each other quite aggressively. The younger one has even growled and taken a couple of swipes at her sibling, which would have been unheard of a few months ago.

      Do I try the reintroduction technique with her? What would you recommend?

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      carolynkaye 9 months ago from USA

      Hi Raquel,

      I'm so sorry about your cat. Was this the alpha cat of the group you lost? It sounds like these two are either acting out because they miss their friend or they're fighting to be the new alpha cat. These are just some guesses. It might help to try the reintroduction technique to see if that helps calm things. Once they're back together, try to keep things positive with some new toys to play with or treats as distractions. I hope this helps.

    • techygran 7 months ago

      My granddaughters will find this info useful in dealing with their kitty duo!

    • Shivangi Sharma 3 months ago

      I have so far been a very happy parent of two 6 month cats - one male (Zeke), one female (Lyra). They both are from the same litter, and have been best buddies since birth - extremely caring, and considerate of one another! Zeke was neutered in his 4.5th month, and Lyra was gentle and took really good care of him. However, 2 days ago, when Lyra was spayed and we brought her home- Zeke was first scared and anxious at seeing her in a drugged state. When she woke up towards the evening - he wouldn't come near her, and started hissing at her as soon as she started approaching him. We separated both of them out of fear that there might be an aggressive incident. The next day, when Lyra was slightly more rested, he again approached her gingerly, but this time she hissed at him. Now both of them, who used to follow each other around, can't stand to be in the same room. How can I get them to become the best friends they used to be? Please help!!

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      carolynkaye 3 months ago from USA

      Hello, I've had similar experiences with my cats after one has been spayed or neutered. Cats know when the other one has been to the vet because of how they're acting and even how they smell. Some cats are more sensitive to smelling medications that the vet uses on the cat and it's not unusual for them to get upset by it. Zeke is probably just more sensitive and Lyra is reacting because she's just been through an operation. It's probably a good idea to keep them in seperate rooms when you're not around just because Lyra's still recovering, but in my experience this is something that will resolve itself in a few more days once they start getting back to normal. When they're together, give them a few cat treats to keep things positive and distract from any hissing. I'm sure it will work out. I love your cats names, btw :)

    • Sabz 2 months ago

      I have an almost 1 year old female plus new arrival kitten. We tried all the techniques, blanket swapping behind doors short meetings. Initially Millie (kitten) would play and take no notice of the hissing from lufi (cat) now Millie just hides and cries as lufi runs the house. Any ideas ?

    • Emma 7 weeks ago

      My mom and I have always had cats every year or so with a total of 4 cats. The newest neutered kitten is always being attacked by the 1 year old female and we have tried everything can anyone help!

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      RobRoyMacGregor 5 weeks ago

      My Fiancé and I just recently brought 2 cats into our house. One is a four year old, who was raised with another cat; the other is a kitten who can't be more then a couple months old. I feel that they need time to warm up to each other but I was just kinda wondering if there was any advice for us as they are both new to us.

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      carolynkaye 5 weeks ago from USA

      @RobRoyMacGregor - It's good you got them at the same time so they're both new to the household. The only suggestions I'd have would be to have two litter boxes, ideally in different areas to give them their own space. Same with food/water bowls. It doesn't have to be permanent, but at least until you see how they adjust. Other than that, giving them individual attention as well as encouraging them to play together should help them become friends. Cat toys and treats usually work. Hope this helps.

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      RobRoyMacGregor 5 weeks ago

      Thank You

    • Amanda Barratt 13 days ago

      I have 2 cats which have had kittens. the kittens have now been rehomed. They used to be the best of friends, but now the female cat won't leave the male cat alone?

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      carolynkaye 13 days ago from USA

      How long ago did she have kittens? If it was recent, maybe it's hormone related or she's upset the kittens are gone and is taking it out on him. Just some guesses here. If it is about the kittens being gone, she probably just needs some time to adjust.

    • anita aitken 9 days ago

      Our kittens have just come back from the vets one had to stay in over nite due to pulling out his stiches and now his sister keeps hissing at him!

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      carolynkaye 9 days ago from USA

      Hello Anita. Cats can tell when one smells different (medicines, etc. from being at the vet) and sometimes it upsets them. Since the one kitten had stitches, I'd try keep them separate (or at least watch them carefully) for a couple days so he or she has time to recover without being hissed at. This isn't unusual at all. It just takes a day or two to get over it and they'll be fine.

    • Jacqueline Rivera 3 days ago

      My six month old won't leave from under my bed and will interact with me only. He only comes out when I go to bed to spemd some him and me time m I very worried he'll never stop hiding. And yes I have an 11yr old cat as well.

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      carolynkaye 2 days ago from USA

      Hello Jacqueline, How does he get along with your 11 year-old cat? Is the older cat unfriendly or aggressive toward the young cat? Besides having separate food/water/litter boxes for each cat, just try to do whatever you can to get him to come out. Set up some fun things to play with in the room to encourage him to come out. Cats love cardboard boxes, so I'd try a few of those. Add some mouse toys or the Turbo Scratcher. Have some cat treats around too. If he starts coming out, after a few days, move the toys to another nearby room so he has to leave the room if he wants to play. If the other cat is friendly, try to get him playing too so it's a positive environment. Once he's out of the room, try to keep the door closed so he doesn't have the option of hiding all the time. Hope this helps :)

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