How Do Dogs Know to Be Gentle With Babies and Toddlers?

Updated on April 21, 2016

The Question

In answer to the question:
"If dogs can sense people, why can't they sense that babies are harmless?
So many toddlers get attacked - some by the family dog at home."
Posted by Lady_E on 1/15/12

One of Many Possible Answers

This answer is just based on my limited personal experiences and what I've read about dog behavior and "psychology", so please don't think I'm 100% right.

First, I think babies and toddlers are two different things. I also think that dogs have feelings, not unlike human feelings. Let me talk about babies first.

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Babies and Dogs

I think most "normal" (non-rescue, non-abused) gently introduced dogs can and do sense that babies are harmless. They may be jealous, so introduce them gently, preferably on neither the dog nor the baby's home territory.

That does not mean that the dog will leave the baby alone. For example the dog may nudge the baby to get it to roll over, or mouth the baby's arm to do the same, or pull down the covers if the baby is overheated. It may lick the baby's face, pacifier, and other toys, either to get food off of it or to check the child's health, such as its temperature.

Most dogs will regularly sniff at a baby's mouth and rear end and lick the baby's face--I think they're just checking the baby's health. These are things a mother dog does with her own pups, and they should be considered just as harmless with human babies: almost no diseases can pass from a dog to a human, and those that do are ones that only occur if the dog is improperly cared for.

Now, circumstances can affect the dog's behavior, also: if someone screams or shouts and gets hysterical or angry and runs at the dog and baby while the dog is mouthing the baby's arm to move it to a more comfortable position. Then things might not go so well, and the mouthing might turn into a bite or, in any case, be considered "an attack" on the baby by the dog, when in fact the "attack" was prompted by improper intervention on the part of the hysterical/angry parent. The dog may even have felt that it was protecting itself and the baby from danger (the hysterical, angry parent) by attempting to drag the baby to safety (and the baby is probably crying by now, so that adds to the dog's stress level and response).

Toddlers and Dogs

Toddlers, on the other hand, are not harmless to the dog. They're highly mobile yet unsteady and unpredictable, they make lots of noise, scream (probably screaming a lot in very high spectrums that the dog can hear but we humans can't). Toddlers also mess with the dog's toys.

Worse, the toddler may not have the "puppy innocence" clause that dogs attach to babies just as they do their own puppies: that "get out of jail free" card might have expired for some dog-child combinations and not for others. Babies under the "innocence clause" can get away with pokes in the eye, pulling ears and tails, grabbing fur, and so on, all of which the adult dog tolerates well and lets pass because the innocence clause is in effect. When this clause expires depends a lot on the type of dog and its temperament.

Other factors like the parents and family spending all of the time and attention with the toddler and no or very little attention (play time, snuggle time, dog parks, walks) to the dog will make the dog as jealous as it would a human child. If a toddler does something particularly offensive or hurtful to the dog, it may inadvertently release itself from the "puppy innocence" clause and end up in a brawl with the dog, who would surely "win".


I could be totally wrong, but the main thing I think is obvious about such incidences is that you should never trust your child and your dog alone together until they have become fast friends and the child is tall and strong enough to defend itself and knows not to harass the dog or mess with the dog's toys or food/water dish.

Close supervision or separation at all times should be the solution to this problem that every responsible parent and dog owner should take. Also, make sure that the dog has a "get away"--someplace it can go but the baby/toddler/child can't--to relieve stress and calm its nerves and simply nap in peace.

River, Sleepy in the Morning but Still Friendly


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      Tracie 22 months ago

      My dog was introduced to two toddlers this week and he nipped at both. He was in his territory... Our house and our car . Usually if introduced to other dogs on our territory he always is tense and establishes dominance first then is cool. Note we have friends who regularly bring their dogs over . But the toddlers ... I believe he thinks are dogs... Or either my dog thinks he is a child... But in any case I feel he thought it was normal to establish dominance over this small low to the ground creature ( the child) . It was weird . But I finally turned him over on his back and pointed and stared and has the child come over and point and stare . I believe this showed him that the child was dominant and hopefully established that he was not in control and did not need to nip. Ugh dog psychology ... Hopefully this technique will work... We will see when the toddler comes back over . Now to work on the toddler in showing respect and kindness while also showing dominance in order to maintain and friendly household wear dogs and children can come and go without turmoil

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      Laura Schneider 5 years ago from Minneapolis-St. Paul, Minnesota, USA

      Thanks, Eddy! Glad you liked it!

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      Very interesting and I vote up,across and share all around.


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      Laura Schneider 6 years ago from Minneapolis-St. Paul, Minnesota, USA

      My pleasure, Lady_E! I know my dogs have always "scaled back" their play and increased their tolerance level around babies of several species.

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      Laura Schneider 6 years ago from Minneapolis-St. Paul, Minnesota, USA

      Thanks for the comments and the votes, JayeWisdom!

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      Elena 6 years ago from London, UK

      It's interesting to read and I learnt a lot. Reflecting on it, I think dogs have a little bit of tolerance, for when babies play with their toys, pull their tails and poke them. Lol.

      Thanks so much for answering the Question.



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      Jaye Denman 6 years ago from Deep South, USA

      I'm no expert, either, but I think you're right! Great hub, voted UP, USEFUL and INTERESTING.