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How and Why You Should Create a Solid Bond With Your Dog

Caroline has more than 12 years of experience solving canine behavior problems either with families, in rescue or at her own home.

Nurturing a strong bond with your dog has benefits for both of you!

Nurturing a strong bond with your dog has benefits for both of you!

How to Connect With Your Dog on a Deeper Level

So, now you know how important it is to form a meaningful bond with your dog. The question is how. If you are taking good care of your dog, you will already have some kind of bond with him, but it can’t hurt to work on improving it, especially as there are such great benefits to both of you.

Here is a selection of some of my favourite ways to improve your relationship. But, essentially, as long as you are spending quality time together and are both finding it rewarding and enjoyable, then you are probably on the right track. So, feel free to use your imagination.

5 Ways to Improve Your Bond With Your Dog

  1. Learn together
  2. Start a hobby together
  3. Take up a sport
  4. Play together
  5. Cuddle

1. Learn Together

Why not join a training club or take a heel-work to music class. Not only will you learn how to teach your dog new tricks, but he will benefit from learning from you, and you will both benefit from better obedience, especially on the walk. You won't be surprised to learn that dogs that walk nicely with their owners statistically get longer walks; it's win-win.

Learn together, mess up together but most importantly, have fun together. Just make sure you are using positive reward-based training methods and don’t place too much importance on getting things perfect, and you can’t go wrong with this. Your local vet or pet shop should be able to recommend classes in your area.


2. Start a Hobby Together

If your dog is particularly energetic, you might consider taking up a more physical hobby. Flyball and agility are both excellent choices and are particularly well suited to the dog that also likes to play with a ball.

Both sports have increased in popularity over the years, and clubs are opening up all over the place, and the focus is always on having fun. All breeds and abilities are usually welcome, the only stipulation being that, for medical reasons, your dog must be over the age of two.

3. Take Up a Sport

If you yourself have energy to burn, you might fancy taking up a sport that your dog can join in on. Running, cycling, and hill walking are good for you both, and we all know dogs love to exercise; in fact, for most dogs, it’s their favorite thing, well, possibly after din-dins.

While you are at it, why not consider taking up a challenge together, maybe a 5K cross country run? Dog-friendly races are being organised all over the country; just make sure to get advice from your doctor if you aren’t used to doing these types of exercises. Facing the world together and enjoying it is an amazing feeling for you both; I'm sure you’ll be glad you did it.

Hide and seek can be challenging for the larger breeds, but full marks for effort!

Hide and seek can be challenging for the larger breeds, but full marks for effort!

4. Play Together

They say families that play together stay together, and I think they are right; playing games together is a great way to use up excess energy and improve your relationship. Fetch, find the treat, tug, or hide-and-seek, or maybe you have your own ideas; anything goes if it means you are spending time together in a fun and rewarding way.

Dogs love rules too, so why not add a few to make it harder and more interesting, such as to sit before you throw the ball or to release a tug on command before you start playing again. Just make sure you play in a safe way.

A close bond is hard to break

A close bond is hard to break

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5. Cuddle Time

Or you could just chill with your pooch in front of the telly and enjoy some cuddle time. Good for both of you; you’ll feel great and will feel closer as a result. You will feel calmer and less stressed too, and while you’re enjoying some calm time together, don’t forget to make soft, indirect eye contact as you gently pet them. Talking softly about your day while you massage and grooming him is great therapy, too—it’ll work wonders for you both.

Why Do Dogs Need to Bond With Their Humans?

I can answer this question two ways; on a deeper level, I can talk about bonding in terms of survival. Dogs are not born with the skills to care for or protect themselves, and neither are any mammals, including humans. As mammals, we have a lot to learn before we are considered fully capable adults, and this means that we are decreasingly dependent on others for our survival.

The bond we form with those that care for us is the only reason they let us stick around for so long; as juveniles, we add burden to resources, time, patience, and sometimes the security of the family or social group.

Consider human teenagers for a moment: if it weren’t for the bond we form with our family, the streets would be filled with hungry kids complaining about how unfair their lives were! That bond is the only thing keeping those grumpy adolescents in their family homes where they can finish their “training” and become fully functioning adults.

In terms of our human/dog bond, the survival of their species is not at stake, but we still need that bond to unite us together as a family. We keep our dogs in a state of eternal puppyhood which makes them dependent on us to meet all their needs, so instinctively, they will try to bond with us, their caregivers.

What Are the Benefits?

Have you ever wondered what it is that makes a dog run into a burning building or track his missing owner across miles of countryside? It’s the attachment he formed with his family.

Of course, those are extreme examples of what a solid bond can do, but it is that same bond that, on a more mundane level, can also improve your dog's recall, improve his desire to please you, and will inspire him to learn new things from you.

This is not a one-way process either; there are benefits to your dog too. Obviously, he will get fed and cared for, which is important, but when the dog creates a bond with his owner, he also feels safe and secure, and this allows him to place his trust in you. If he is able to trust you, he will feel more confident in situations that would normally scare him simply because he has you by his side, and he knows you wouldn’t put him in harm's way.

Broken Bonds

We’ve talked a lot about creating a solid relationship with your dog, but we should now talk a bit about breaking those special bonds. Dogs can be very forgiving when we mess up, but eventually, they will lose faith in us if we fail to earn their trust and respect.

Essentially, building bonds is about spending time together in a rewarding, fun, and positive way, so it stands to reason that if we behave in the opposite way, any bond we had or hoped to have is going to be broken down. This should be considered anytime we are tempted to “punish” the dog's bad behaviour, leave the dog alone all day, or skip walkies.

You'll Both Be Happier

It’s hard to deny the benefits that can be gained by working on the relationship you have with your dog: you’ll both be happier. He’ll feel safer and be more loyal; he’ll be more obedient and much easier to train. All you have to do is choose an activity (or three) that suits you both and start having fun together!

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. It is not meant to substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, or formal and individualized advice from a veterinary medical professional. Animals exhibiting signs and symptoms of distress should be seen by a veterinarian immediately.

© 2016 Caroline Brackin


Caroline Brackin (author) from Bangor on August 11, 2016:

Hi Lions44, it's possible that he has over bonded with your wife and has become protective of her. Keep trying :-)

CJ Kelly from the PNW on August 11, 2016:

Great hub. I've tried a bunch of these, but I can't get the strong bond w/my poodle that my wife has. He still "attacks" me when I enter a room and barks at me constantly when my wife is around. I play with him, feed him and take him for walks. But he still gets very angry at me. Strange. After 2 years I thought this might end. We had a trainer for a couple of months too. The only thing that worked was the pheromone plug-in. It kept him calm when I'm around.

I did get to babysit him for 5 days last month. And he was fine. But we'll still trying.

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