How to Make Your Dog Feel Secure and Happy by Being Leader of the Pack

Updated on December 21, 2016
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Dr. Mark is a veterinarian. He has been working with dogs for more than 40 years.

All dogs need to feel secure.
All dogs need to feel secure. | Source

Are You Leader of the Pack?

Your dog needs to feel secure in you and your abilities. He needs to feel like you are the type of person who can take care of him and keep him out of harm’s way.

If your dog has psychological issues (like aggression, excessive barking, separation anxiety, lick dermatitis, or eating his own stool) you can treat him medically (antidepressants, sterilization, chemicals) or you can make him happy and teach him how to follow you.

Should you browse the internet for advice? Most of the trainers speak about the use of “Leader” therapy so that you can control your dog. What I really want for my dog is to feel secure.

How do you go about teaching him to follow and thus making him feel secure?

No matter the size or age, dogs need to feel secure.
No matter the size or age, dogs need to feel secure. | Source

A Few Easy Steps To Follow

1. Control feeding interval. One way that she´ll know you are in charge is by taking control of her feeding. Most dog lovers feel like they are in charge since they decide the diet and put it out every day, but the dog does not see it that way.

The leader of the pack enjoys his meals in peace and when he is finished the other dogs get to eat. In order to accept you as the leader he needs to see you eating and needs to realize you are done so he will get whatever is left over. Since most of us don’t want to dine on dog chow, and will not feed our dog the leftovers, it makes more sense to just keep his bowl in the kitchen (up on the counter) and give it to him when you are finished with your own meal.

2. Control feeding time. Also plan on giving him about five minutes to eat and then taking away anything he might have left in the bowl. Don’t worry about him starving! (He’ll just eat more at his next feeding) Never leave his food out so he will not “free-choice” feed. It is okay with chickens but a dog is quite different and leaving the food out just teaches him that food comes from the dish, not the leader of the pack.

How else do I make her feel more secure? Dogs are not humans and cuddling and comforting her when she is nervous is not helping her, it just means that you are afraid also.

3. Lead during "danger". You can make her feel more secure if you are the leader that is willing to face situations she considers dangerous. Fireworks or thunder? Just ignore the noise and go about your normal routine. Leaving the dog alone? Don’t whine and tell her how you’ll miss her; as the leader you can come and go when you want and do not need to make a big deal about it.

Your dog will be happier with you in charge.

4. Control the environment. He’ll recognize you as the leader of the pack if you walk through the door first; make him move if he is in your way (instead of stepping around him), and provide him boundaries in the house.

5. Provide plenty of exercise. Long walks are great to show him that he can count on you. When going for walks, your dog needs to be beside you if off leash or just behind you if on the leash. He might wander a little when he is free but will come when called and follow you when you make a turn.

Do I Need To Do This All Of The Time?

As your dog gets older and used to the secure situation, you can relax more often and not worry about following all of these "rules". A dog is not a wolf, and will not be watching you every minute to see if you let your guard down.

Your dog will know that you are leader of the pack.

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        DoItForHer 5 years ago

        I would love to read that! For me it is such a powerful training tool.

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        Dr Mark 5 years ago from The Atlantic Rain Forest, Brazil

        I am working on a hub about walking your dog off leash; I think that this is an important part that you understand and why you are able to walk your dogs off leash. Even giving others the mechanics of off leash walking may not be enough. I will try, but...

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        DoItForHer 5 years ago

        When a species of animal is part of a group, herd, pack, pride, or whatever, some type of hierarchy nearly always exists. Some horses lead the heard. Each lion has its place and certain ones eat first. Hierarchy is almost universal.

        Except the Naked Mole Rat; those ugly little critters live more like insects.

        As soon as I read the title, I was getting ready to write my input, but you already wrote it. Lol.

        When people ask me, "How do you get your dog to do that?!" I tell them how I provide leadership and how that takes a great weight off the dog's shoulders and allows the dog to spend its energy on other pursuits instead of trying to figure out the human's crazy environment.