Why Are Some Dogs Protective When Owners Get Intimate?

Dogs do not really understand the concept of ''kissing''


Why is Rover Interfering so Much?

You are on the couch with your new boyfriend when things are getting quite romantic. The movie you were watching together is no longer relevant, and the bowl of pop-corn is put aside. Suddenly, every thing disappears and it is just about you and your loved one. You start kissing, and just as eating the most delectable chocolates, one leads to another, until suddenly you feel a slimy tongue licking and your dog literally wedges in between you.

''Oh, Rover! Go back to your place! '' you claim.

''Where were we?''

Shortly after, the scene repeats, and you end up closing your dog in his crate or in another room. Your boyfriend starts questioning you what's the problem with him, and you both assume he is probably jealous.

Seeing it From a Dog's Point of View

Anthropomorphism is the term used to depict giving animals human qualities. While dogs may appear to be jealous when they get in between two lovers, in reality there may be other more likely motives behind such behaviors. Following are a few more likely suppositions:

  • ''Splitting'' To Calm Down

Some dogs may not feel comfortable watching you kiss and feel the need to intervene, by wedging his way between you. Turid Rugass, a Norwegian dog expert author of a great book I highly recommend to all dog owners called ''On Talking Terms With Dogs: Calming Signals'' reports that dogs tend to wedge themselves in between dogs that appear to be in conflict is an effort to calm the two parties.

In the dog world, dogs do not kiss, so they may have a hard time clearly understanding what is going on. They may have a hard time in particular if the kissing is more on the passionate side ;) and may interpret it as something confrontational going on between you two.. Wedging in between you therefore may be his way to ''calm you down''. This may likely be what is happening if he is distinctly placing his body in between you.

  • Attention Seeking Behaviors

Some dogs are plain and simple attention seekers. They notice something interesting is going on and they want to be part of it. In this case, you may likely find your dog joining in licking you and wagging its tails or barking. These dogs are therefore looking to get their dose of attention, sort of like when some dogs become pushy when you are on the phone or ignoring them. They just want to be part of the fun!

  • Plain Old Curiosity

If the house was dead quiet prior, and now you are kissing making smacking noises, you will certainly be attracting your dog's behavior. Your dog may have been laying down and pricked up his ears and decided to check up on you. Your smacking noises may have also been interpreted as a way to call him, if you usually use those types of noises to get his attention.

  • Protective Natures

Some dogs may act protective and be wary when somebody approaches their favorite owner, but generally this would cause some barking, growling and perhaps some snarling. Many times though, dogs perceived to be protective in reality are simply insecure and anxious. Dogs that are aloof, suspicious and wary of strangers often seem to be ones most likely engaging in this type of behavior.

How to Stop the Behavior

I worked on a case where the dog became anxious when the owner hugged or was hugged by people. Dogs do best if when they are given an alternate behavior to engage in, rather than telling them not what to do. Try using differential reinforcement of incompatible behaviors. So let's say you want your dog to stop putting himself in between you or barking at you, you should teach the ''go to your place'' command. Place a rug far from you and prepare a stuffed Kong. Say ''go to your mat" and toss the Kong on the rug. When your dog goes on the rug and gets the Kong say ''good boy''. After several repetitions,your dog will then learn what ''go to your place ''means. If you stuff the Kong very well, chances are, he will be distracted by it, allowing you to finally share together some time alone.

Another option is to desensitize and counter condition him to hugs, kisses etc which works best if you're dog is worried about them. For instance, in the case of a dog with hugging issues start by having the stranger place the arm slightly on the shoulder while you're tossing a treat. Then gradually step-by-step progress to a real hug and continue giving treats. If your dog reacts at any time, you're going too fast in the process. Go a few steps back. Once your dog, improves and you want to spend more time with your loved one and stop tossing treats all the time, you can then upgrade and give a long-lasting stuffed Kong. With time, your dog should look forward to hugs and smooches as great things happen every time they take place!

Disclaimer: this article is not to be used as a substitute for professional dog behavior advice. If your dog is displaying any aggressive behavior, contact a dog behavior professional for an assessment and appropriate behavior modification program.

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Cresentmoon2007 5 years ago from Caledonia, MI

We have two dogs in our house hold, while my own dogs won't really get too bad when it comes to this my mother's dog will. Her name is Tinkerbell. Now Tinkerbell will jump at us, she'll bark and growl and even a couple time snapped at my boyfriend but what gets me is that the entire time she has her tale wagging. What do you make out of this behavior?

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dahoglund 5 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

I do recall a dog we had some time ago that had this behavior and I did not know what her problems waas.Rated up and useful.

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alexadry 5 years ago from USA Author

Cresentmoon it could be protectiveness, anxiety or attention seeking from not understanding what may be going on (and for this reason she may be in conflict, thus displaying opposite and contradictory behaviors), I would redirect to another place and feed a stuffed Kong or bone so Tinkerbelle can relax, what breed is she? Some breeds with a history of herding can be the most obstructive!

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