Pet Sympathy Messages: Condolences for Loss of Dogs, Cats, and Other Pets
Unless we're talking about tortoises, pets don't usually outlive their owners. So chances are if you have a pet, you will eventually feel the sting of loss when your pet dies. When that happens, you will need comfort and kind words.
When you write a sympathy message for a friend who has lost a pet, it's a good idea to think of the death as that of a family member. If the owner lives alone with animals only, this is especially true. Empathy is the most important characteristic to have when writing your pet loss condolences, although it is appropriate at times to use humor for cheer, if it's done tactfully.
Here are some general sympathy card messages for the loss of a pet, followed by more specific messages for the loss of a dog and fish. Keep in mind that these are nonspecific and personal details should be added.
- "My heart goes out to you and your family as you grieve the loss of a very lovable member of your family."
- "May you be comforted by the peace of knowing that you provided a loving home to your awesome pet for several years."
- "Most people treat their pets like friends and family, but I think you treated yours even better."
- "Losing a pet can be tough, and it reminds us how short and precious life can be."
- "It's not easy when you have to go on after losing a pet who was such a good friend."
- "I know it's a cruel irony that the one member of the family who would be most comforting during a time of loss is the one you have to grieve."
- "Some pets are really good pets, but then there are those who are flat-out amazing. I am sorry you lost an amazing pet."
- "I want you to know that you can call anytime to talk about your loss."
- "I am praying for you as you mourn the loss of your family member, playmate, and friend."
- Whenever time, energy, and love is invested in something the way you invested in your pet, there is a huge void that follows the loss of that investment.
- "It's difficult to witness and enjoy the entire life span of a beautiful creature only to see it all end. I am sorry for your loss."
For the Loss of a Dog
- "There's definitely something special between dogs and their owners, and it's called unconditional love."
- "You had one of the coolest dogs I have ever had the pleasure of being around."
- "I know that your dog can never be replaced. Great dogs like yours are rare."
- "Forgive the pun, but I know that your dog was a bone-afied member of the family. My thoughts are with your family at this time."
- "It's sad that dogs have such a short life expectancy. They deserve a longer life, but I think they make up for it by being so lively during the short time we get to enjoy them."
- "I was saddened to hear that you lost your furry family member."
For the Loss of a Fish
- "My experience with fish is that they are one of the most relaxing animals to watch. I am sorry your slimy friend died."
- "I was surprised to hear about your fish's unexpected trip to the water sewage treatment plant. I hope it gets there and is able to rest in peace."
- "He might have been good at escaping his tank, but even he proved that no one can escape death."
Sayings and Quotes
Sayings are useful to add in a sympathy card, but they are not personal. A quotation can be used to convey thoughts and feelings, but don't forget to add some specific details to your message.
- “Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened.” ―Anatole France
- "Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole." –Roger Caras
- "My little dog–a heartbeat at my feet." –Edith Wharton
- “No matter how close we are to another person, few human relationships are as free from strife, disagreement, and frustration as is the relationship you have with a good dog. Few human beings give of themselves to another as a dog gives of itself. I also suspect that we cherish dogs because their unblemished souls make us wish - consciously or unconsciously - that we were as innocent as they are, and make us yearn for a place where innocence is universal and where the meanness, the betrayals, and the cruelties of this world are unknown.” ―Dean Koontz
- "The poor dog, in life the firmest friend, the first to welcome, foremost to defend." –Lord Byron
- “Dogs do speak, but only to those who know how to listen.” ―Orhan Pamuk
- “Sometimes losing a pet is more painful than losing a human because in the case of the pet, you were not pretending to love it.” ―Amy Sedaris
- “Our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet.” ―Colette
- “It may be a cat, a bird, a ferret, or a guinea pig, but the chances are high that when someone close to you dies, a pet will be there to pick up the slack. Pets devour the loneliness. They give us purpose, responsibility, a reason for getting up in the morning, and a reason to look to the future. They ground us, help us escape the grief, make us laugh, and take full advantage of our weakness by exploiting our furniture, our beds, and our refrigerator. We wouldn't have it any other way. Pets are our seat belts on the emotional roller coaster of life--they can be trusted, they keep us safe, and they sure do smooth out the ride.” ―Nick Trout
Whenever humor is used in condolence message, you run the risk of offense. Use tact and caution with these, although humor can serve as a great coping tool for the stress of losing a pet:
- "Just once I'd like to hear that the dog won in a collision with a car."
- "Feel free to borrow my pet any time you miss yours. Mine is driving me crazy."
- "I know you wouldn't want me to lick your face the way your dog did, but I will try to be as good of a listener for you if you need to talk."
Benefits of Having Pets
According to the CDC, having pets can lower blood pressure, triglycerides, cholesterol, and feelings of loneliness. People who have pets spend more time exercising and socializing. So losing a pet is a real loss which could include losing these health and social benefits.
Because of this, it's important to hang out with someone who has just lost a pet. People must go through all the same stages of loss and grief for the loss of an animal as for the loss of a human friend or relative. Try not to minimize the feelings of loss others might have when they lose a pet.